Sexless Marriages

[onefourall]

My wife has absolutely zero interest in sex, foreplay, or intimacy. We have been together 20 years.

We're also married 20 years and rarely have sex. I can't remember the last time to be honest, I've stopped trying because a guy can only be knocked back so many times.

 

[britfunk]

Last time I had sex with her Obama was president but it's life. She has said she doesn't care if I go elsewhere but it's hard to get anyone female to buy that and it's not like she'll write a note

 

[Sparky74]

Last time I had sex with her Obama was president but it's life. She has said she doesn't care if I go elsewhere but it's hard to get anyone female to buy that and it's not like she'll write a note

Hi if your in UK I have created our own Uk version of this Thread.

 

[britfunk]

Hi if your in UK I have created our own Uk version of this Thread.

Thanks but last time I was sexless in the UK was y2k. But if any British ladies want to spend time with a nice guy I still love the accent

 

[Sparky74]

OK no worries lol was just thinking because of your name.

 

[YesIamReal]

It’s definitely not just two ladies. Some of us have such high sex drives, I think we make our husbands feel inadequate and then eventually they stop fucking us all together

There is certainly the danger of a mismatch.... but this is something to work through with them so that you don't lose what you have.
Certainly I slowed down in my 50's, but more so it was also a performance concern after my wife started to complain. And then, to make things more difficult, when I did want to, she invariably said it wasn't the right time, or the right approach, and certainly her taste in what we did had changed to something much tamer.

I then learned that already at much of that time she had already been preparing for the divorce (2 1/2 years before she sprung it on me).

 

[PersonalFavors]

Last time I had sex with her Obama was president but it's life. She has said she doesn't care if I go elsewhere but it's hard to get anyone female to buy that and it's not like she'll write a note

She has thought about it and understands your needs. Having given it that thought have you asked what was her idea of "elsewhere"? Knowing you need it and her approval is there a friend in need whose husband has the issue? Or perhaps she could help find her as a way to participate? Seems having a free pass she might help you use it to keep the rest going. Assuming you like that.

 

[Roxxm_e]

I am totally in a sexless marriage and have been pretty much for a few years! We’re out there but we are a bit like unicorns

I am a woman in her 50’s with the sex drive of an 18 yr old boy, that’s not normal I’ve been told by female friends the same age and male friends. I should be settling down for my old age with my hormones dying a slow death, but hell no!

Hi , I'm 19 yr old boy , its nice to hear u have sex drive towards youn boy , i would like to tell i have sex drive and fantasy towards old mature women

 

[Britva415]

Last time I had sex with her Obama was president but it's life. She has said she doesn't care if I go elsewhere but it's hard to get anyone female to buy that and it's not like she'll write a note

There are places to find females who assume or know you're married. They don't need a note.

 

[Mo_Bandy]

Dude probably bang my wife more but my side piece always wears me out.

 

[Stewby]

I was in this situation.
Was together for 6 years with no problems, but then once married it all changed.
The last 4 years of the marriage there was no sex or even any proper contact at all, including just a kiss or cuddle.

What made it worse is that I'm a tactile person who loves to cuddle.
I'm still married to her, for now, but I'm separated and living with my new partner who is also a tactile.

 

[PersonalFavors]

There are places to find females who assume or know you're married. They don't need a note.

Do tell!

 

[Britva415]

Do tell!

google for "meet married for affairs dating hookup", the Ashley Madison site will probably be the first top result but there are others too.

Doublelist would also work. Put "married" right in your ad. There are women who will dig that and respond, probably because they're married too or maybe because they want no strings.

Don't take my word for it, see them speaking for themselves.

 

[sydneyboy123]

Hi adamISOeve,

Thank you for that. Our lovemaking is a unique situation and seems to work for us. I've been suffering with vaginal atrophy for a few years (had to have a complete hysterectomy due to golf ball sized cysts in my uterus, and cysts that were wrapped around my ovaries and all of them on the verge of going cancerous.Lost my older sister to ovarian cancer, so this is a family health issue and worry. To add to that fun- my appendix was within hours of rupturing. Thank goodness my OB/GYN caught all of it and removed everything, thus saving my life. It took almost a year for my hormones to finally straighten out. I still have the odd hot flash from time to time) and penetration can be quite painful. So we've been going back to Square One- Lots of lube, oral and foreplay, plus have found some vaginal dilators to help stretch me out slowly and safely.

Crazy sex drive, husband with medical problems and ED... it's me and my vibrator that gets the deed done.

I have ed too. My wife uses vibrators, two of them and they get the job done too. She says that she's not interested in another man, but I always wonder if she'd like to feel a real hard penis sometimes.

 

[nothingatall27]

I ran away from mine.

If you wouldn’t mind telling us, how has it been since you left? Instantly happier, lots of work to do, etc.

 

[PersonalFavors]

google for "meet married for affairs dating hookup", the Ashley Madison site will probably be the first top result but there are others too.

Doublelist would also work. Put "married" right in your ad. There are women who will dig that and respond, probably because they're married too or maybe because they want no strings.

Don't take my word for it, see them speaking for themselves.

This isn't California.
AM was mostly fake ads. I created an ad as a female there to see how "free" it really was. The men on there all looked like creeps. Pretty scary. The responses I got with no photo posted was an inundation. Any woman married or not that I would be interested in would likely not be there.
Doublelist is a paywall. Never did figure how to get to my page, profile or search.
Over the years I looked at adult friend finder. Always the same two women and troves of men checking if they can stop by and....

 

[Britva415]

This isn't California.

I don't know what this means or what it has to do with anything.

As far as the rest of it goes, waah waah waah. It sounds like you're looking for reasons not to go through with it. How bad do you want it? If you know of a better dating site and put "married" in your ad, they're not going to need a note from your wife saying it's OK. They'll just assume you want discretion.

Maybe you simply don't believe that there are women who are fine with hooking up with a married man. You'll never know if you don't dare to try. That was really the only point I wanted to make. How bad do you want it?

EDIT: Nevermind about the "note from your wife," I realize that was someone else who mentioned that in the first place.

Anyway, as far as you and the Doublelist paywall goes, I guess the answer to "how bad do you want it" is "not enough to spend ten dollars."

 

[wild9445]

I did not read through the entire thread but I am in a sexless marriage and I have a high sex drive. Wife as little to no sex drive and when she does play she only wants to play for a little and that’s it.

I do love my wife and we’ve been together for 10 years and married for 5. There is more about our relationship that I’m not going into detail here but sexually she is not *ahem* as creative as I am and it doesn’t take much to make her feel good and be done quickly.

I tend to use the shower to finish off lol so that’s why I’m always looking for friends of the female variety to talk to and have fun with online…as for meeting in person, I would have to really hit it off with them in order to feel comfortable meeting for fun.

Also willing to chat with others to be friends with that are in the same boat as me. So PMs are open for all!

 

[friendlyoldman]

Sexless? No. But obviously I like it more frequent than she does. We talk a lot about that. She does not like that she does not like it that much anymore, but cannot change that her hormons work (or don't work) that way. And she's happy that I sometimes fulfill my sexual needs with other men. And we enjoy the fewer moments we both want it even more.

 

[Nothos]

Looking for fun here for the same reasons as everyone else. If you like intelligent guys and like to laugh hit me up.

Oh, beware of the sarcasm though.

 

[sydneyboy123]

I did not read through the entire thread but I am in a sexless marriage and I have a high sex drive. Wife as little to no sex drive and when she does play she only wants to play for a little and that’s it.

I do love my wife and we’ve been together for 10 years and married for 5. There is more about our relationship that I’m not going into detail here but sexually she is not *ahem* as creative as I am and it doesn’t take much to make her feel good and be done quickly.

I tend to use the shower to finish off lol so that’s why I’m always looking for friends of the female variety to talk to and have fun with online…as for meeting in person, I would have to really hit it off with them in order to feel comfortable meeting for fun.

Also willing to chat with others to be friends with that are in the same boat as me. So PMs are open for alD

 

[sydneyboy123]

Do you ever finish off while she lies next to you and watches you do it? My wife enjoys watching me play with my soft flabby dick and she uses that kind of humiliating language. I do enjoy hearing her saying such things.

 

[Mo_Bandy]

My wife just cant give me a good goddamn beej so I gotta find it elsewhere. Any of you muthafuckas with me?

 

[Mtnmike]

We are not married, but our sex life dissapeared loooong time ago.. I've been trying to seduce my bf over and over again just to get rejected over and over and over again. Theres lots of emotions goin hand in hand with these fail attempts. Anger, sadness, despair, dissapointment, frustration, loneliness and so on, you got the picture..

So what do you do then? Sorry, but I refuse to accept that at my 45s my sex life is over! I just can't make peace with this. I try, but I can't. Nobody asked if I am okay with it, I was forced into this and I hate it. Hate how it makes me feel inside. No sex, no touches, no cuddles ffs. I NEED FUCKING SOMETHING!! I get a hug when I hug him, but I wanna be hugged too? I want hugs and kisses and I still want sex for fuck sake! I am too young to live like a nun and I refuse it as well!

Wish I could fuck myself, so I wouldn't have to beg him for it. It makes me feel like idiot, but I can't help what I need and crave. I thought man are always up for sex, but guess not. Well, mine is not.

It been so long since we had sex that even if he fucked me right now it would get me just depressed cuz I know it would mean I am not gonna get sex for YEARS after! Can't take this anymore. It makes me mega depressed. Theres days when I don't feel even like a human anymore. I wanna feel like a woman again. My blood is boiling with lust for him, for his touch, for his cock. I crave him so much it hurts physicaly, but he doesnt feel the same back.

So what do you do then? I don't wanna break up with him just because of this, but fucking hell I need him. Hate hate HATE to feel like this.

How do you guys deal with it when your partner has no interest to be intimate with you anymore? I can't make peace with it. I just can't. I refuse to accept I am destined to live like a nun now. Fuck that! Fuck such a life! No sex, no hugs, no kisses and cuddles? Shoot me in the head then ffs.

Sorry you're going thru this, we've been sexless over 14 year's & counting, she told me a few year's ago that she never wanted sex with me or anybody ever again, if I needed it i'd have to get it somewhere else, which is not easy as one might think, they hear you're married & bye bye their running away.

 

[eomerson]

We are not married, but our sex life dissapeared loooong time ago.. I've been trying to seduce my bf over and over again just to get rejected over and over and over again. Theres lots of emotions goin hand in hand with these fail attempts. Anger, sadness, despair, dissapointment, frustration, loneliness and so on, you got the picture..

So what do you do then? Sorry, but I refuse to accept that at my 45s my sex life is over! I just can't make peace with this. I try, but I can't. Nobody asked if I am okay with it, I was forced into this and I hate it. Hate how it makes me feel inside. No sex, no touches, no cuddles ffs. I NEED FUCKING SOMETHING!! I get a hug when I hug him, but I wanna be hugged too? I want hugs and kisses and I still want sex for fuck sake! I am too young to live like a nun and I refuse it as well!

Wish I could fuck myself, so I wouldn't have to beg him for it. It makes me feel like idiot, but I can't help what I need and crave. I thought man are always up for sex, but guess not. Well, mine is not.

It been so long since we had sex that even if he fucked me right now it would get me just depressed cuz I know it would mean I am not gonna get sex for YEARS after! Can't take this anymore. It makes me mega depressed. Theres days when I don't feel even like a human anymore. I wanna feel like a woman again. My blood is boiling with lust for him, for his touch, for his cock. I crave him so much it hurts physicaly, but he doesnt feel the same back.

So what do you do then? I don't wanna break up with him just because of this, but fucking hell I need him. Hate hate HATE to feel like this.

How do you guys deal with it when your partner has no interest to be intimate with you anymore? I can't make peace with it. I just can't. I refuse to accept I am destined to live like a nun now. Fuck that! Fuck such a life! No sex, no hugs, no kisses and cuddles? Shoot me in the head then ffs.

Don't deal very wel....sadly