Sexless Marriages

[turok20]

My heart goes out to ya. Had the same issue for the last 5 yrs of my marriage. Its hard. Yall need to sit down and figure which way it needs to go

i wish she would but its not going to happen, just taking things one day at a time

 

[RBusch69]

Been in sexless marriage for 10 yrs. The main thing is not feeling desired anymore. That's the worst.

 

[RBusch69]

Would like to chat chat with someone online.

 

[turok20]

Been in sexless marriage for 10 yrs. The main thing is not feeling desired anymore. That's the worst.

thats how i feel all the time now, granted since before covid and during i gained some weight i wont lie, but it just feels like the love isnt really there any more even know we tell each other 'i love you'

 

[SensualKat78]

Passion and sex is the glue that keep relationships thriving and growing and commication flowing. It's both people's responsibility to to find their playful self again and continue to stay open...
If two people can commit to that, then sex becomes an extension of the dance of the love you share. If your relationship has become boring, look at how you have become the boring one... (hard truth)
Remember what excited you both in beginning and instead of resenting them choose to either work on yourself and bring your best self back, or leave the marriage if you are unhappy and unsatisfied...
Life is so short and enjoy the body your soul has chosen to live in...

 

[turok20]

Passion and sex is the glue that keep relationships thriving and growing and commication flowing. It's both people's responsibility to to find their playful self again and continue to stay open...
If two people can commit to that, then sex becomes an extension of the dance of the love you share. If your relationship has become boring, look at how you have become the boring one... (hard truth)
Remember what excited you both in beginning and instead of resenting them choose to either work on yourself and bring your best self back, or leave the marriage if you are unhappy and unsatisfied...
Life is so short and enjoy the body your soul has chosen to live in...

im not going to go into full detail but that is easier said than done

 

[Booboobear84]

Passion and sex is the glue that keep relationships thriving and growing and commication flowing. It's both people's responsibility to to find their playful self again and continue to stay open...
If two people can commit to that, then sex becomes an extension of the dance of the love you share. If your relationship has become boring, look at how you have become the boring one... (hard truth)
Remember what excited you both in beginning and instead of resenting them choose to either work on yourself and bring your best self back, or leave the marriage if you are unhappy and unsatisfied...
Life is so short and enjoy the body your soul has chosen to live in...

Corollary, the only person you can actually change is yourself

 

[SensualKat78]

im not going to go into full detail but that is easier said than done

To leave or to change? Which is easier said.... just curious.

 

[alexgriffin74]

Back on Lit after a prolonged absence. Seems like not much has changed. I’m one of many in a sexless marriage as my wife has some health issues that make sex painful for her.

I am RIGHT where you are. Still love her but her body has betrayed her. We're not "roommates" but I've learned to put my physical attraction to her in a mental shoe box and push it way back on the shelf at the top of my closet.

 

[turok20]

To leave or to change? Which is easier said.... just curious.

honestly truly, both, but i am trying to change myself by loosing weight but thats a challenge in and of itself

 

[hulmule]

Some great comments here. In a sexless marriage. Between depression and menopause my wife has flat out told me she doesnt think about or even desire sex. Both of us are healthy, in nice shape. I feel like im going to waste... I find i mss just deep kissing, good foreplay and the closeness . The after glow? She just wont even talk about it.It just goes into a pissing match if i just try and talk about it.. So i come to Lit , but i miss the touch , smell, taste of her body

 

[drobert44]

Some great comments here. In a sexless marriage. Between depression and menopause my wife has flat out told me she doesnt think about or even desire sex. Both of us are healthy, in nice shape. I feel like im going to waste... I find i mss just deep kissing, good foreplay and the closeness . The after glow? She just wont even talk about it.It just goes into a pissing match if i just try and talk about it.. So i come to Lit , but i miss the touch , smell, taste of her body

Dont blame you a bit.

 

[hulmule]

Yea i just cant get her to listen and understand what it does to me. How it works on my mental health. No i dont want to get a divorce , just want to be close again

 

[Imperfect_Guy]

Some great comments here. In a sexless marriage. Between depression and menopause my wife has flat out told me she doesnt think about or even desire sex. Both of us are healthy, in nice shape. I feel like im going to waste... I find i mss just deep kissing, good foreplay and the closeness . The after glow? She just wont even talk about it.It just goes into a pissing match if i just try and talk about it.. So i come to Lit , but i miss the touch , smell, taste of her body

Very well said.

 

[SensualKat78]

Yea i just cant get her to listen and understand what it does to me. How it works on my mental health. No i dont want to get a divorce , just want to be close again

The feminine actually desires to be penetrated by action and presence...if you're into books... check out. "the way of the superior man, David deida." Such a powerful practice. If you really desire closeness find playful ways to ignite her without talking about what's not there...

 

[Hipshot1554]

The feminine actually desires to be penetrated by action and presence...if you're into books... check out. "the way of the superior man, David deida." Such a powerful practice. If you really desire closeness find playful ways to ignite her without talking about what's not there...

If more mature women would take younger men under their tutelage, society would benefit greatly.

 

[Anchor10]

If we are all in sexless marriages, should we all try to help each other find some sex?

 

[SensualKat78]

I am RIGHT where you are. Still love her but her body has betrayed her. We're not "roommates" but I've learned to put my physical attraction to her in a mental shoe box and push it way back on the shelf at the top of my closet.

Her mind has betrayed her... there are things us as woman can do to get back our sexual desire, but she has to WANT to change her mind and seek medical help/ hypnosis/ therapy and desire for her beautiful body to become an expression of love, intimacy and connection once again!
I don't buy the fact that her body betrayed her. Menopause is a natural occurance but the MIND Body connection revived can be achieved...

 

[drobert44]

Her mind has betrayed her... there are things us as woman can do to get back our sexual desire, but she has to WANT to change her mind and seek medical help/ hypnosis/ therapy and desire for her beautiful body to become an expression of love, intimacy and connection once again!
I don't buy the fact that her body betrayed her. Menopause is a natural occurance but the MIND Body connection revived can be achieved...

My sweet granny had no sex for 30 years, all he did was smack her around. When I treated her right, I found a sexual animal.

 

[ColeyD]

I’ve had two of these now, so clearly I need to look at myself a little. However why am I always so damn horny?!

 

[alexgriffin74]

Her mind has betrayed her... there are things us as woman can do to get back our sexual desire, but she has to WANT to change her mind and seek medical help/ hypnosis/ therapy and desire for her beautiful body to become an expression of love, intimacy and connection once again!
I don't buy the fact that her body betrayed her. Menopause is a natural occurance but the MIND Body connection revived can be achieved...

Oh it wasn't The Change. It was cancer.

 

[SensualKat78]

Oh it wasn't The Change. It was cancer.

Oh, I see... that's so hard. My dad has cancer, I get it.

 

[rickydean56]

I had prostrate surgery at 47, never had a hard on since. I'm 68 and still dream of sex. Life goes on, am I happy? No but I'm not depressed. My wife was glad it went away, that way I wouldn't bother her anymore but she left a year later when she realized that if I didn't chase her then I wouldn't talk to her anymore. Sex was her tool to control me and she lost the tool.

 

[trevorness]

There was talk, she was aware of the lack of sex. Was going to rectify it, make an effort.

Once this year. And no other small fun.

 

[KeenVoyeur]

My sweet granny had no sex for 30 years, all he did was smack her around. When I treated her right, I found a sexual animal.

Details? Inquiring minds need to know ... OK I need to know because I'm perverted like that!