Sexless Marriages

[Playblues2020]

I just don't understand when in our 23 year marriage I turned in to a sex crazed man who only thinks about sex. When did it become a bad thing that my wife still turns me on and makes me want to have sex with her.
Divorce is not in my nature nor is cheating (in the flesh) so it leaves me with the occasional argument about how all I want is sex and how she never does but doesn't know why but promises to talk to the Dr about it. Then I get a pity hand job (blow job if I ask nice enough) and the the cycle continues. Till I get tired of jerking off to porn and decide to ignore the fear of getting shut down again and try to seduce my wife.

 

[Playblues2020]

Are there women reading this thread that are in marriages/relationships with men who have lost interest in sex?

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

I just don't understand when in our 23 year marriage I turned in to a sex crazed man who only thinks about sex. When did it become a bad thing that my wife still turns me on and makes me want to have sex with her.
Divorce is not in my nature nor is cheating (in the flesh) so it leaves me with the occasional argument about how all I want is sex and how she never does but doesn't know why but promises to talk to the Dr about it. Then I get a pity hand job (blow job if I ask nice enough) and the the cycle continues. Till I get tired of jerking off to porn and decide to ignore the fear of getting shut down again and try to seduce my wife.

Sorry. Been married almost 20 years and spent most of it sexless. I can tell you the date of conception for my children. I haven't even seen my wife naked in almost 3 years.

Are there women reading this thread that are in marriages/relationships with men who have lost interest in sex?

There are, they've commented. I'd be willing to wager there are even more that just don't speak up because it would be akin to chumming the water for sharks.

 

[whiskeycowgirl23]

Are there women reading this thread that are in marriages/relationships with men who have lost interest in sex?

I am.
It's been almost two years since we have had sex. It's also been about 3 months since he has even kissed me. We sleep in the same bed but don't snuggle or even really touch for that matter.
It started that one hormone was to high. Got that down with medication. Now his testosterone is low. No meds to help that yet. I will see what he actually does once he gets his health insurance from work.

 

[curl4ever]

I am.
It's been almost two years since we have had sex. It's also been about 3 months since he has even kissed me. We sleep in the same bed but don't snuggle or even really touch for that matter.
It started that one hormone was to high. Got that down with medication. Now his testosterone is low. No meds to help that yet. I will see what he actually does once he gets his health insurance from work.

Sorry to hear! (Opposite in my marriage.)

He might want to try Clomid as a first approach. (Increases T significantly but without certain side effects and without needing injections a few times per week.)

Best wishes.

 

[Playblues2020]

I am.
It's been almost two years since we have had sex. It's also been about 3 months since he has even kissed me. We sleep in the same bed but don't snuggle or even really touch for that matter.
It started that one hormone was to high. Got that down with medication. Now his testosterone is low. No meds to help that yet. I will see what he actually does once he gets his health insurance from work.

Low testosterone is responsible for low sex drive in men and women.

 

[El_Dempo]

Long term relationship/marriage, dead bedroom for most of it. Easiest way to deal with it is to face up to it and accept that no miracles are happening.
Bit of online fun helps, but it's never quite enough

 

[fredrock]

Agreed!