Sexual Disorders

[SweetCandy22]

Well, I can't do anything to validate my claim, so I won't worry about it. And I guess it won't help to say that I'm telling the truth, but I am.

I don't get why anyone would lie about something like this on a message board. I don't know what kind of sick pleasure they would get out of it, but I'm not one of them.

 

[Kajira Callista]

i still dont see it as a problem

 

[catalina_francisco]

Well, I can't do anything to validate my claim, so I won't worry about it. And I guess it won't help to say that I'm telling the truth, but I am.

I don't get why anyone would lie about something like this on a message board. I don't know what kind of sick pleasure they would get out of it, but I'm not one of them.

Nor do I, but here are just a couple of instances where you seem to contradict yourself, or at least portray different images of yourself that don't gel IME...just so you realise why some are sceptical of your authenticity.

"Well, still being a virgin and very new to the scene of BDSM there is still a lot that I'm not sure about.

I recently broke up with my boyfriend because he didn't understand what I wanted in bed. He considered it distasteful to bite my neck or smack my ass and I tried to get rid of that urge in me...but it continues to come back up." (your a virgin but broke up due to not getting your needs met in the right way in bed?)

"Also a virgin, but coming to realise my BDSM nature. I have yet to give into it."

"I was sexually abused, but I remember being into BDSM, particularly bondage before I was sexually abused."

"I've never sucked a cock that big, but I have sucked a cock with that girth, I believe. .....my ex loved it.....I have to agree that practice makes perfect, the more you do it- the easier it is."

"I've never really done anything skin-to-skin BDSM.....I'm a virgin....I very much enjoy role playing of all types of all fantasies"

"I went to my best friend's b-day party, where everyone is just typically open minded. I got...far more drunk than I should of and my true colors came out. One of the guys at the party was very much dominant and I guess he found a repor in me because he whipped me quite a bit. My best friend was rather surprised that I didn't scream out in pain, but asked for more. He pulled my hair and smacked my ass and I found myself wanting it more. My heart was racing, and adrenaline was pumping in my veins." (Now I would think this is as skin to skin BDSM as you get?)

"Hmmm...my fetishes..

I gues those would be....

slow prolonged teasing while being denied to orgasm again and again....sometimes it's THAT, that makes me orgasm...lol

Bondage, defintly...being tied to a bed, having ropes around my large breasts, being unable to move my legs...

Hair pulled, ohhh! BIG turn on there, I love having someone grab me by my hair and force my lips to theirs.

Ass whipping, defintly

And sucking cock, can't get enough of that. Even when my mouth aches, my body still craves and wants more. Size doesn't matter, I just want my mouth filled continually. Mmmm..."

Now these things could all be true if you want to stretch your imagination a lot, but I have yet to meet a 22yo woman who has vast experience sucking cock, has ended a relationship because she couldn't get her needs met right in bed, who is still a virgin ....and that is before you look at the contradictions about no BDSM experience then previous posts telling of being whipped and loving it at a party of her open minded friends. Most here have no problem with people expressing their fantasies, kinks, etc., or someone admitting they have no experience but are interested, but they do get suspicious when it is told as if one thing has actually happened and then told the complete opposite.

Catalina

 

[SweetCandy22]

Now these things could all be true if you want to stretch your imagination a lot, but I have yet to meet a 22yo woman who has vast experience sucking cock, has ended a relationship because she couldn't get her needs met right in bed, who is still a virgin ....and that is before you look at the contradictions about no BDSM experience then previous posts telling of being whipped and loving it at a party of her open minded friends. Most here have no problem with people expressing their fantasies, kinks, etc., or someone admitting they have no experience but are interested, but they do get suspicious when it is told as if one thing has actually happened and then told the complete opposite.

Catalina

lol- you are completely missunderstanding me! Yes- I have done things in bed, but NOT sex. I have done a lot of things BESIDES sex...but not penis to vagina penetration. Why do people assume that I have had sex because I slept with someone? I have always slept with my boyfriends but we NEVER have sex, I make that perfectly clear to them. Does that make since? I love to give blow jobs, I don't consider that sex.

What happened at the party is what I have been told...not real BDSM experience since I was not in a relationship with that guy and they were random series of events while being inebriated. Just because I have been whipped and such, doesn't mean that I have endured real BDSM experience, it's more like aspects thereof.

And the fetishes are things that I fantasize about continually, it doesn't mean that I give into those cravings. I resist a lot.

It may be hard to believe, but *shrug* I'm a weird person...

 

[shy slave]

lol- you are completely missunderstanding me! Yes- I have done things in bed, but NOT sex. I have done a lot of things BESIDES sex...but not penis to vagina penetration. Why do people assume that I have had sex because I slept with someone? I have always slept with my boyfriends but we NEVER have sex, I make that perfectly clear to them. Does that make since? I love to give blow jobs, I don't consider that sex.

What happened at the party is what I have been told...not real BDSM experience since I was not in a relationship with that guy and they were random series of events while being inebriated. Just because I have been whipped and such, doesn't mean that I have endured real BDSM experience, it's more like aspects thereof.

And the fetishes are things that I fantasize about continually, it doesn't mean that I give into those cravings. I resist a lot.

It may be hard to believe, but *shrug* I'm a weird person...

interesting save sweetcandy but i think catalinas is still ahead on the evidence front.

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, well I',m afraid I might no listen to gospel hymns in the shower but as far as I am concerned if you are happily sucking cock here and there and lustily, not to mention the rest, it really doesn't matter much whether a dick enters your cunt or not in the eyes of the good lord does it. Sex is sex, though many do follow this path to excuse themselvwes and try and keep that hallow hovering no matter how tarnished it is in reality. But no, I am not convinced and I think I understand you more than you dare think.

As to the BDSM experience thing....when you tell of something that has happened to you, especially something like a whipping, I'm afraid it is an experience even if you are not experienced. You don't need to be raped 10 times before you can claim to have been raped...seems the same thing to me.


Catalina

 

[pinkstarfish]

That. That right there. That's why *I* don't believe you. The orgasm thing, yeah, far-fetched, but hell, you might have a brain or nervous disorder. ANYTHING is possible.

But THAT. That religious bullshit you're throwing in there with your hurt feelings and orgasm-prone body. That's just bunk.

FFS, why do you even care what a bunch of strangers think anyway? If you know it's true, then let it lie. *shrug*

Why?

I love to listen to gospel before going to church on Sundays. What's wrong with being a Christian and being horny? What were we given through sexual desire is sacred. If she says her feelings are hurt my first response is that of compassion, not denial. I'm not saying it's not real or real, I'm just saying my first reaction isn’t to judge and condemn, but to soothe.

I certainly don’t think that’s a sexual disorder Candy22! It's a gift!!

By the way, I have taken bible classes and small groups at my church too, actually.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Why?

I love to listen to gospel before going to church on Sundays. What's wrong with being a Christian and being horny? What were we given through sexual desire is sacred. If she says her feelings are hurt my first response is that of compassion, not denial. I'm not saying it's not real or real, I'm just saying my first reaction isn’t to judge and condemn, but to soothe.

I certainly don’t think that’s a sexual disorder Candy22! It's a gift!!

By the way, I have taken bible classes and small groups at my church too, actually.

LOL, I think you miss the point of why there is so much suspicion, especially from posters who have deep religious/spiritual beliefs themselves....being nice is fine, but then there comes a point when you begin to question so much contradiction of their own words, not those of others, that you realise there is every possibility you are being taken for a ride and are just dealing with someone who either needs attention at any cost or is bored...and those things don't always raise an empathic response in me I'm afraid.

Catalina

 

[pinkstarfish]

But how can you tell? Life is so full of contradictions.

Perhaps not empathy, but sympathy.

I guess I just didn't read it that way...

The part that bugs me is that she thinks what she has is a disorder!!!

 

[catalina_francisco]

But how can you tell? Life is so full of contradictions.

Perhaps not empathy, but sympathy.

I guess I just didn't read it that way...

The part that bugs me is that she thinks what she has is a disorder!!!

LOL, in my line of work it was vital to pick the truth from BS on a daily basis..I was fortunate it was a talent I had possessed for a longtime. And yes life is full of contradictions, but as an example if someone says to you 'I am permanently paralysed and in a wheelchair', then the next day tells you 'I play football, basketball, do jogging, and walk 20 miles a day and would do more if my feet didn't get so sore from all that walking and jogging' that is nothing to do with life's contradictions but more so someone who is spinning you tall stories for their own purpose. Having sympathy for someone like that can do them more harm in the long term, not to mention make a fool of you for buying into their compulsive lying or whatever it is. I don't really think she fears she has a disorder....may not even be a she for all we know!!

Catalina .

 

[pinkstarfish]

Alright, I hear ya. It's very naive to think of it as a disorder, I will say that. I'd hate to know what she thinks of my sexual endeavors!

 

[catalina_francisco]

Alright, I hear ya. It's very naive to think of it as a disorder, I will say that. I'd hate to know what she thinks of my sexual endeavors!

LOL, we all know you are a pervert of the nicest kind like the rest of us!!!

Catalina

 

[pinkstarfish]

heheheh...

 

[O'Mac]

I'm glad that I'm not the only one to be fed up with the recent rubbish threads. Catalina & Shy are right, this one is not real, just another bored kid entertaining herself at our expense.

I'll admit that I to have seen quite a few newer posters with some pretty odd questions and remarks. Not just on Lit, but all across the BDSM sites as well.

What can you do? School's out, I suppose.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I'll admit that I to have seen quite a few newer posters with some pretty odd questions and remarks. Not just on Lit, but all across the BDSM sites as well.

What can you do? School's out, I suppose.

Sometimes we get it wrong, but on average if it appears so to many it has not been off the mark. Some have admitted their initial duplicity and over time made many friends and won the admiration of others by being more open and honest. Unfortunately it is a problem with this means of communication which in reality is so anonymous for those who want it to be.

Catalina

 

[SweetCandy22]

I do consider myself a walking contradiction. In the mention of some of your comments...

I was taught by some people who have been in BDSM for a long time, that what I experienced at the party was not REALLY a BDSM experience, but a series of events that happen to be the same as BDSM. So I suppose it's really a matter of opinon, but more than one person has told me and being completely innocent to this whole thing I can't really say it one way or the other. I assumed that the people I spoke to was correct, but you're disagreeing...so I guess I can't really say I know which one to believe.

As for it being a disorder- trust me! IT IS! You may think that it's great to have orgasms in public or while your hanging with friends, but I consider it to be VERY embarssing! Especially when you can't really explain such things to certain people being that even the word 'orgasm' shocks them into thinking that the very word is a sin.

It's especially difficult when you have classes to go or events to go, but you can't move without shaking and the constant orgasms takes the energy from you. Think about how you feel after an orgasm...relaxed, weak... That's how I felt for HOURS....that's a curse when you can't tell your body to do the duties you have signed up to be responsible for. It was damn frusterating, I'll tell you that!

 

[incubus'_sub]

Well, apparently someone is able to stop you from orgasming with slow, prolonged teasing. There's your answer, spend more time with them. Disorder solved.

 

[graceanne]

Ok. If you're telling the truth (I'm still not sure about that) I agree that it would be a disorder. And to tell the truth, I don't know what to say you should do. Obviously pray, but that doesn't necessarily mean that God will do anything. God can do anything. It doesn't mean he will.

I'd also go see a doctor about it. I know it's embarrassing, but if you doctor laughs at you find another. Doctors are dicks.

 

[SweetCandy22]

Luckily it hasn't been so bad, so I'm not too worried about it. I'm going to keep trying to get counseling for my sexual abuse and see if that helps clear anything.

I appreciate the suggestion.

 

[chris9]

Luckily it hasn't been so bad, so I'm not too worried about it. I'm going to keep trying to get counseling for my sexual abuse and see if that helps clear anything.

I appreciate the suggestion.

Go see a doctor about it anyway. It might help to have counselling, but if it is a nervous disorder, as someone here said it might be, a real physician is your best choice. Your orgasm problem might not be coming from the abuse, and then, waiting longer to see a doctor might lessen your chances of being healed.

 

[justatramp]

Someone show me

Where in the bible does it say that masterbation is a sin? Lets work on this one first. It does say many things. But I don't remember anything about masterbation. Can someone point me to the place where it says that you can't play with yourself?
Just Asking.....Hell someone might find the words.

 

[justatramp]

looking for these words

You shall not masterbate....I'm not trying to be an ass here either, but I don't see them in my bible.

 

[psyche1973]

Onanism, it's a sin because it doesn't make a baby.
Any sex that is not for the purpose of baby making is not allowed.
Read the story of Onan

 

[SweetCandy22]

The Bible does not use the word, "masturbation"- it's a very conservative book. It uses "self pleasure" or "lustful acts". It doesn't say that specifcally, it implies that... When I find the series of verses that implies that excessive lustfull acts are sinful- I'll send you a PM

 

[jimmy__saint]

well, first off you cany go by what the bible says

although i agree to go by it to an extent - u cant take it to the literal word as it was made before before my mum, and her views are by far out dated already!!!

secondly, im impressed by the 15 yr old candy - a young boy learning about the internet and stumbling across lit - amazed i tell ya this thread has gone on for ages!and heres me trying to start a thread and it dies a quick death

well done candy

and as for your problem* u thot u had it bad????

i just opened a fresh box of texas bbq sauce pringles and they all came out plain -

still gonna eat them tho!!

yimmy