should cheating be kept secret?

[angel2612]

Everyone has different views on cheating and open relationships.

My husband and i almost lost our marriage a few years ago, I found a girls videos, pics, and texts messages on his phone. I was 7 months pregnant and devastated. However, our marriage survived. We talked and we finally opened up to each other. We have been nothing but honest with each other wince then. We have opened up sexually and shares our fantasies.

As a society as a whole, and religious backgrounds say to love one person. We do only love each other, how're ever sex is sex. There's things he likes I do not. It's your own beliefs that can get in the way. And vise versa. We have been swinging for a couple years and remain happy in our marriage. We always come home together and sleep with each other and share every detail. Details have a way of turning us on. .

As for us. Confession lead to a new lifestyle. It doesn't effect of family, or life. But we both have needs and sometimes it just makes us closer knowing we're happy together and we have great sex. It keeps things interesting.

 

[smallgirl]

Do we really need sex?


If you never had it before and you have functioned fine then there no real need am I right? Once you have tried and enjoyed yourself you get used to the pleasures you want and now desire it, but to say you need it is a whole different story. Most feel entitled to enjoy and receive pleasure from their s/o so can we really say it's a need. Or is the fact that we enjoy it so much make it a need. You can live without sex.



The real question here is are you willing to lay down your wants for your partner.

Yes I can live without sex...but I would be one royal bitch, and that would destroy any relationship too.
Why should you have to give up your wants? If your partner was sick, or became physically unable I'd understand..but just because they are too busy? Its too much trouble?

Then no, you shouldn't have.
yes I can live without sex...but I shouldn't have to.