Should I JO with neighbor?

[Curiousguy3825]

if the motel catches on fire? Well, I suppose they were having a HOT time. (Sorry, bad joke). You can't go around life worrying about what if and what about this or that. Go for it.

If the motel catches fire, the question would be if we would even notice? I was so eager to get a blowjob once, I rear-ended a car in front of me that didn't accelerate off a stop light. That was a buzz kill, but it was a good blowjob when I finally got to it.

 

[nakedboater69]

and if he does knock on your door, and if you are not interested, that's it. But I don't think he will

What if he knocks on door and hurts his hand and sues me my wife would be pissed.

 

[klippert]

Both married, happily. It started off just trying to find a JO buddy for something every once in awhile. He's been out of out while we e-mail and the more we email, the more we trust each other. He wants to swallow a load or two. He wants me to fuck him and cum inside of him. It sounds crazy, but I know he isn't cruising CL for fucks every day, so I know he is clean. I KNOW I'm clean, so it seems so tempting.

One issue is we have no place to meet to fuck around because neither of us want to host. I'm concerned with telling him where I live and I think he feels the same, but the neighborhood is so small as soon as we meet we'll know where each other lives, or quickly figure it out. For example, as soon as he sees what I drive, a 5 min drive through the hood will tell you which house is mine.

I guess the fear is it won't work out or one will walk away and then there will be this weird tension if we run into each other at some neighborhood function. I think the other fear is once we know each other, we can pretty much ruin the others life by narking. Even though we both don't think that will happen, it is still a possibility.

Well it seems you just need a friendly chat....neighbors. You'd be surprised, how often you have your home all to yourself...I'm guessing a hook-up wouldn't be 4 hours.

He's sounds a bit more aggressive...or is his idea to be bottom is chat talk or real. someone that aggressive is a little off putting to me. especially if he's pushing it. I've been chatting with a gent..he's been pushing too meet. But, one day he just became pushy... not my taste..

 

[mtsnowrider]

you know if you agree to meet in a very public and busy space, e.g. at a particular bench in a nearby mall, or outside a shop on a main street, you can just get there a few minutes late, check out who is waiting there, and if you know him and it makes you uncomfortable just say hi as if it's a random neighborhood meeting. No need to set up some signal ahead of time that guarantees recognition. That way you can aknowledge that you're the email guy if you feel ok with it or not. i know it's bad to be a "no show" and he might wonder if it's more than a coincidence that you were there but at least it gives you an out if you feel you need it.
Once you decide you actually want to get together the details will get worked out. As K pointed out somebody is likely to be alone in his house at some point. ........now suppose he is at your house and has a heart attack.....

 

[Cumalong]

Don't know if there will ever be a ending to this thread, but I'm posting so I can get a response if case there is.

 

[HrnyViking]

have you guys camed together?

 

[badonkadoku]

have you guys camed together?

Never mind...

 

[onemadvagabond]

The problem for doing something like that for me, is that if her were cute and had a nice package, I wouldn't be able to keep my eyes off of it. I would eventually have to have it in my mouth. Then that wouldn't be enough and I would need to ride it. Jerking off together just wouldn't be enough.

One thing I don't understand is that you say you do not consider yourself gay. Are you wanting to experience the exploration that so many guys get at a young age with friends or do you really deep down want to experience being with a man? If you are wiling to meet someone new to have a JO buddy, I think there is definitely something deeper that is driving it.

 

[seth6138]

if the motel catches on fire? Well, I suppose they were having a HOT time. (Sorry, bad joke). You can't go around life worrying about what if and what about this or that. Go for it.

The fire would kill the crabs he caught from the other guys on CL.

 

[Curiousguy3825]

No meet up yet but it might be soon. He said the mood has passed him for the moment.

 

[Curiousguy3825]

The problem for doing something like that for me, is that if her were cute and had a nice package, I wouldn't be able to keep my eyes off of it. I would eventually have to have it in my mouth. Then that wouldn't be enough and I would need to ride it. Jerking off together just wouldn't be enough.

One thing I don't understand is that you say you do not consider yourself gay. Are you wanting to experience the exploration that so many guys get at a young age with friends or do you really deep down want to experience being with a man? If you are wiling to meet someone new to have a JO buddy, I think there is definitely something deeper that is driving it.

I guess I'm not attracted to guys at all. The idea of cumming with a guy just excites me because it's like we are just using each other for sexual gratification.

 

[Curiousguy3825]

One last comment. He never seems to respond quickly to email. Even when he was in a hotel it was an hour between each email. Stuff like that kind of signals something to me. Like lack of interest.

 

[chrispfl]

Probably best to try C2C...to be on the safe side.

 

[ilike2try]

I think it's pretty obvious by this point, it isn't going to happen. I'd forget the drip and move on.

 

[badonkadoku]

The problem for doing something like that for me, is that if her were cute and had a nice package, I wouldn't be able to keep my eyes off of it. I would eventually have to have it in my mouth. Then that wouldn't be enough and I would need to ride it. Jerking off together just wouldn't be enough.

One thing I don't understand is that you say you do not consider yourself gay. Are you wanting to experience the exploration that so many guys get at a young age with friends or do you really deep down want to experience being with a man? If you are wiling to meet someone new to have a JO buddy, I think there is definitely something deeper that is driving it.

Perhaps the answer is the first option: he just wants to experience for the 1st time, or even relive, experiments from youth, but like many of us, he's more certain he can do so in a more reliably discreet setting, and with more understanding about the flexible sexuality continuum that Masters & Johnson theorized. Plus, now he can haz car and go wherever he finds such a buddy!

 

[onemadvagabond]

Perhaps the answer is the first option: he just wants to experience for the 1st time, or even relive, experiments from youth, but like many of us, he's more certain he can do so in a more reliably discreet setting, and with more understanding about the flexible sexuality continuum that Masters & Johnson theorized. Plus, now he can haz car and go wherever he finds such a buddy!

Possibly so. I have given it a little thought, since he doesn't feel attracted to guys but wants to do something like this, then maybe do it with someone through a cam chat first.

 

[Curiousguy3825]

Well it has all kind of fallen apart, so no more wondering on my part. It was pretty much exactly why I didn't want to meet up. Some guys can't say, "that was great, but the mood has kind of passed for me." Which I would understand, they just disappear and never respond which is what he basically did. Then you're left wondering, was it something I said/did? Did he get busted? Did he find another outlet? Etc. So I am glad nothing happened.

 

[manbear1977]

Well it has all kind of fallen apart, so no more wondering on my part. It was pretty much exactly why I didn't want to meet up. Some guys can't say, "that was great, but the mood has kind of passed for me." Which I would understand, they just disappear and never respond which is what he basically did. Then you're left wondering, was it something I said/did? Did he get busted? Did he find another outlet? Etc. So I am glad nothing happened.

For him it must have been nothing more than thinking with the little head and not really being willing to explore and find something new.

Sounds like you are better off and in a better place.

Hopefully something better turns up sooner rather than later now.

 

[Rigger287]

Would love to jerk off with another guy - but maybe it might lead to oral fun too - not a problem for me.

 

[IntmtStrngr]

...

One last comment. He never seems to respond quickly to email. Even when he was in a hotel it was an hour between each email. Stuff like that kind of signals something to me. Like lack of interest.

not necessarily lack of interest in the act itself, it sounds like he is simultaneously trying to set something up with someone or a couple of someone's for the same thing or maybe something better.
In any case--, go for it.
Win,
Lose
or Draw.

 

[zowiegus]

I think it's pretty obvious by this point, it isn't going to happen. I'd forget the drip and move on.

agreed, the first meeting is the hardest & if one is just bi~curious, they probably will always be a no~show...

 

[photobuff56]

I met someone on here that lives about 3 miles from me, we never hooked up and this was over a year ago and I have never seen him since not even in the stores.
I was also looking on CL last night but they all want to do it right now.

 

[photobuff56]

Would love to jerk off with another guy - but maybe it might lead to oral fun too - not a problem for me.

Like this comment.

 

[photobuff56]

Probably best to try C2C...to be on the safe side.

thats what i do

 

[bluesky496]

I've always thought it would be great to have a roommate or neighbor to jerk off with whenever the mood hit and after some poking around on CL, found a guy that lives in my neighborhood. Now it seems the reality of it kind of makes me nervous. I've always been able to walk away from any situation that wasn't right without issue, but this won't be possible. Neither of us consider ourselves gay, but just horny guys that need some relief once in awhile.

Now we don't know where each other live, but we know we're in the same little neighborhood and both a little cautious of letting out too much info. Is it worth the risk? Should I dive in? Just a recipe for disaster?

the nervousness makes it so much more enjoyable ,just do it ,x