Should men expect monogamy from women?

[Crystal_Dust]

And that could be said for women not talking to men also this is a two way street

 

[LMWM321]

There are too few women participating in this thread, and most of those who are, I suspect, are not really women.

One question that needs to be asked of the guys complaining about their sexless marriage, is "what would your wife say is the reason for her disinterest in sex?" And the reasons she might give could include:

• He's selfish in bed;
• His idea of enjoyable sex has become way too porn-driven;
• I'm exhausted because he doesn't do his share of child and household duties;
• He doesn't take care of himself, so I am no longer attracted to him (yeah, it happens)
• He no longer acts like the man I dated, then married.. He shows little interest in my life, my opinions, etc... Or when he does, it's only as lead up to sex.

Other possible reasons?

I think we are all too quick to pile on the woman in these relationships when we know nothing about the relationship.

 

[Mike130]

The average woman, currently attached or not, turns down sex far more than the average man. They are simply more desired for sex.

Most men have to put quite a bit more effort into getting sex elsewhere, and if the woman they are with is taking care of him, and she should, it's not hard for him to stay "faithful".

When women give in to man's advances, or purposefully seek it out, the majority of men they are attached to can't deal with it and end the relationship. This results in divorce, financial hardship, and many other negative things.

I wish my Dad would have stayed with my mother and his kids when she had an affair. Moving out of the home, visitations, being a latch-key kid, and all kinds of troubles resulted. She married her affair partner, who turned out to be an alcoholic, so I got to live with that. That led to another affair, divorce, and another marriage. All before I moved out as an adult.

When I consider what I went through and other people I know with similar stories, alot of heartache and struggle would have been prevented if our Dads would have just stayed married and worked on themselves and relationship with their wives than just bailing on the family.

Watching and reading videos and comments / discussions regarding this on YT and such It seems to me men and their families would do better long-term to work harder on their relationship before and after, if the woman steps out. I think the "zero tolerance" many men have for women having sex with anyone but them for their entire lives is ridiculous and unrealistic. The issue is more minimized when there are no children involved.

The question is: Should men expect monogamy from women?

When I was younger (20’s) I expected monogamy from a girlfriend I guess, but as I matured I understood that women have a libido just like men, so I understand the attraction to other guys. I think the realization hit me when I took my ex girlfriend to a sex club and watched in awe as she fucked other guys. Instead of being jealous, I was super aroused!

When I met my wife, she was married and we started an affair. She got divorced, moved in with another girl, and we continued to date. The fact that her and her roommate would go out on Friday night and hook up with guys bothered me slightly, but the more overwhelming feeling was the arousal that other men had found my wife attractive and that she enjoyed the taste of their cum or the thrill of them pumping their sperm into her pussy. To this day she tells me stories of her trysts and it never fails to get me excited. If she ever did have an affair, it certainly wouldn’t make me love her any less. It would make me desire her more.

Not sure if that makes sense to everyone, but I chalk it up to a more mature and pragmatic outlook.

 

[milfylata]

These chaps waxing eloquent have clearly never been married. They'd rather pander to female promiscuity than discuss anything real. Relationships require sacrifice, not hollow pontification.

 

[LMWM321]

They'd rather pander to female promiscuity than discuss anything real.

huh? In your profile you say you're a woman.. But this has me wondering.

 

[Tomr]

Yes. I expect any girlfriend to be with me and ONLY me. If she can't do that then she can FUCK RIGHT OFF. I'm faithful and I expect the same from her.