Should men expect monogamy from women?

[Meekly_Anna]

Monogamy works for some women, but probably not for many. Throughout my life the women I have known have had little adentures

You may want to choose different women if you don't like it.

 

[Kolejdayz]

The women who are strictly monogamous can be a bit boring

 

[Celand]

The women who are strictly monogamous can be a bit boring

Not if she finds a girlfriend. That kind of " polygamy" is quite exciting

 

[Meekly_Anna]

Experience shows that men who have a lot of sex are boring in bed. They think they're good and don't make any effort. I might as well sleep with a dildo. It lasts longer anyway.
Girls, if you have the choice, find a man who has little experience. He'll be less complacent and more grateful. He'll also make a real effort. And if he lacks any skills, teach him. That way, you'll both have fun.

 

[Kolejdayz]

Experience shows that men who have a lot of sex are boring in bed. They think they're good and don't make any effort. I might as well sleep with a dildo. It lasts longer anyway.
Girls, if you have the choice, find a man who has little experience. He'll be less complacent and more grateful. He'll also make a real effort. And if he lacks any skills, teach him. That way, you'll both have fun.

That's interesting. I was a nerdy type and didn't have much experience. My first wife who fucked around a lot, taught me a lot

 

[m_and_em_stories]

Experience shows that men who have a lot of sex are boring in bed. They think they're good and don't make any effort. I might as well sleep with a dildo. It lasts longer anyway.
Girls, if you have the choice, find a man who has little experience. He'll be less complacent and more grateful. He'll also make a real effort. And if he lacks any skills, teach him. That way, you'll both have fun.

I would qualify men who have sex with a lot of partners***

Men who have lots of sex with only a few partners might actually be doing something right

 

[m_and_em_stories]

From reading these post, am I the only one who married a prude who has never wanted sex? I talked and talked until about 2 or 3 yrs ago I gave up! I wish she would get a gf or a bf or someone to get her to have sex! If I had a wife that wanted an open marriage I’d be excited for her to find someone! I really think it’s a lot to ask to always be with one partner,

Healthy sex drives vary by quite a lot, but on top of that there is a lot of misunderstanding about desire and want between the sexes. Studies show its more common for woman to have 'responsive desire' which looks like a low sex drive to those with highly driven internally triggered sexual desires.

Its also possible due to hormones and life changes, or personal views she just isn't into sex. If so, that is VERY unfortunate as it sounds like you aren't on the same page. To me this level of disconnect is relationship ending but that's up to everyone to figure out their personal needs and if they're getting met.

 

[LMWM321]

Its also possible due to hormones and life changes,

This is certainly true. Indeed, after menopause EVERY woman's testosterone level falls dramatically. In Great Britain and Australia, it's standard practice to prescribe testosterone to menopausal women who wish to maintain their pre-menopausal interest in sex. ..It's proven to be a safe (if T is kept at physiologic levels) and effective treatment for this purpose AND emerging evidence suggests it may also help maintain healthy bone density, cardio and cognitive health.

It's ridiculous that in the US, it's much harder for women to get testosterone and when they do, it's usually in a form intended for men.

 

[Deadbed1968]

Unless you have come to an agreement to allow non-monogamy, both parties should be expected to be monogamous.

 

[OralAllOver]

1) Animals have sex to reproduce (with notable exception of bonobos, genetically close to us)
2) Monogamy is for barn owls
3) Let the ladies fuck, keep them free! That's what they do. Their jealousy towards men will keep us busy enough

 

[Britva415]

From reading these post, am I the only one who married a prude who has never wanted sex? I talked and talked until about 2 or 3 yrs ago I gave up! I wish she would get a gf or a bf or someone to get her to have sex! If I had a wife that wanted an open marriage I’d be excited for her to find someone! I really think it’s a lot to ask to always be with one partner,

See, this isn’t even monogamy. If she won’t have sex with you and she expects you to have sex with no one, that’s what I call “zerogamy,” and nobody should have to adhere to it.

She doesn’t owe you sex, but you don’t owe her a marriage.

 

[JordynRose]

I think men should expect it.

I will be there when the wives don’t.

 

[Kolejdayz]

Unless you have come to an agreement to allow non-monogamy, both parties should be expected to be monogamous.

We can each and all agree to things and force ourselves to honor what we promise, but we can't get away from the fact that women like to fuck

 

[impresso]

Well, for some people, monogamy means a new partner every week, but he's the only one =)

 

[Kolejdayz]

Well, for some people, monogamy means a new partner every week, but he's the only one =)

Very good point. When women are on vacations or business trips they sometimes assume free pass

 

[m_and_em_stories]

I think the real question here is do you want women to be monogamous

 

[Kolejdayz]

I don't want the women in my life to be monogamous and they usually haven't been

 

[40sBiCuckCple]

I certainly hope the idea of being monogamous never enters my wife’s mind. She was a teen age slut when I met her and I was a teen age cocksucker. Monogamy would totally ruin our wonderful 24 year marriage. I’m not worried though. I know who she was with Thursday night. (not me)

 

[40sBiCuckCple]

We can each and all agree to things and force ourselves to honor what we promise, but we can't get away from the fact that women like to fuck

It makes me feel wonderful to know how much she loves sex ,and that she is so sexy that almost anyone she meets that is in good health will want to have sex with her. Naturally, only a few actually will, but it’s almost always never because she said no.

 

[Kolejdayz]

Does she have a few special lovers or just one night stands

 

[Crystal_Dust]

It’s pretty clear that way too many men in this thread don’t actually talk to, or listen to women.

That’s pretty telling.

 

[lc69hunter]

It’s pretty clear that way too many men in this thread don’t actually talk to, or listen to women.

That’s pretty telling.

You hit the nail on the head with that comment

 

[milfylata]

It depends on what kind of relationship you're fostering. I was monogamous for years, not because I didn't have the options or the desire, but because that was our understanding - a monogamous relationship (often sexless) to bring up our children. It might sound conservative to some over here, but it makes a big difference in the way a family unit functions. If we just give way to our urges without consideration, then this can be extended to alcoholism, drug use, anything under the sun.

But whatever it is, it must be talked about and agreed on by both parties. Otherwise, don't get involved in the first place.

 

[Himileage]

The average woman, currently attached or not, turns down sex far more than the average man. They are simply more desired for sex.

Most men have to put quite a bit more effort into getting sex elsewhere, and if the woman they are with is taking care of him, and she should, it's not hard for him to stay "faithful".

When women give in to man's advances, or purposefully seek it out, the majority of men they are attached to can't deal with it and end the relationship. This results in divorce, financial hardship, and many other negative things.

I wish my Dad would have stayed with my mother and his kids when she had an affair. Moving out of the home, visitations, being a latch-key kid, and all kinds of troubles resulted. She married her affair partner, who turned out to be an alcoholic, so I got to live with that. That led to another affair, divorce, and another marriage. All before I moved out as an adult.

When I consider what I went through and other people I know with similar stories, alot of heartache and struggle would have been prevented if our Dads would have just stayed married and worked on themselves and relationship with their wives than just bailing on the family.

Watching and reading videos and comments / discussions regarding this on YT and such It seems to me men and their families would do better long-term to work harder on their relationship before and after, if the woman steps out. I think the "zero tolerance" many men have for women having sex with anyone but them for their entire lives is ridiculous and unrealistic. The issue is more minimized when there are no children involved.

The question is: Should men expect monogamy from women

 

[milfylata]

And that could be said for women not talking to men also this is a two way street

As a woman, I second this. We love yapping and blaming men, but hate listening.