Sir vs Master

[wickedwanda]

Kajira Callista said:

This will make you chuckle http://www.soulshaven.f2s.com/net_idiots.php3

Thanks so much. I think I love you.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Kajira Callista said:




Thanks so much. I think I love you.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

That's funny, I encourage my personal subs/slaves to call me "Miss" which feels a lot more intimate than the "Mistress" that professionalism seems to encourage people to use. I like Miss, it feels very young and wicked, very capricious and girly! I never liked Mistress, and Ma'am is very retail to me.

In certain professional/Leather communiques I'm encouraging people to call me Ms. S--- which is a very normal vanilla honorific that I feel does the job just fine if someone wants to express respects. I never demand anyone call me anything, it's kinda gauche I think.

You explained it far better than I ever could but you hit my reason right on the head. Miss has an air of playfulness, wickedness, to it that I have never felt when I hear Ma'am or Mistress. It suits me right down to the ground because I am these things (on occassion).

(and I agree with your demand statement..an honorific doesn't need to be demanded..if some one feels that way about the person then it will happen, demanding it makes it sort of false, to my way of thinking.)

Luna

 

[s'lara]

Master has a very different connotation that Sir.

You can call anyone Sir, but it is doubtful that the term "Master" could be used/applied in the same manner.

lara

 

[FungiUg]

Everytime we go out somewhere like through an airport, or to pick up fast food, or to buy shoes, and someone calls me "Sir", my lover sniggers! *chuckle*

I think most of these terms are really contextual. Depending on who is using it, and why they are using it depends on what meaning is attached.

 

[Phoenix Stone]

Esclava PS. et al.

Please call me N Netzach Nutsack, etc. It's not because you are less intimately connected to me or not, it's just what I want to be here, and it's not in need of an honorific at all.

I don't have the good fortune of being totally out and findable because it's not in the interest of my personal safety. There are a lot of insane people out there, in the not-fun way.

Agree about the being findable. There are two people who know my real first name -- I use my middle more often, as a sort of friendly but cautious move -- because it's different for women and for those with kids, when it comes to being safety-minded.

Nicknames are great and it was nice to have a couple here already. Just wanted to make sure that my adopting someone else's nickname for you, Miss N, didn't bother you. In generality, formality doesn't faze, and somehow I guess I also don't take calling people Sir or whatever as seriously as some. It doesn't bother me to do it, as long as it isn't being pompously demanded by some dufus I don't know.

Usually I use calling someone who isn't My sir, Sir, as sort of a gentle 'after you Alphonse' type of playfulness. Least that's how it's intended. Like a curtsey while dancing.

 

[kitty4ever]

I've always had a problem with "Master", for to me, it connotates being a slave, and I'm not a slave, I'm a sub. Maybe it is my anal-retentive, obsessive-compulsive nature, but I am quite picky about making that distinction.

I have a friend who is a Dom, and he calls his sub, 'baby'. I've never asked either of them what she calls him in private. I know he calls her baby because that's what he called her most of the time when I first met him and he spoke of her. He called her 'my baby'. I've never asked because I've felt that it isn't my place to ask him.

 

[Etoile]

or "She of the relentless and varied dildo drawer"

Mwahaha! That's what my gf could go by, too.

 

[Etoile]

I'm going to avoid the capitalization debate altogether. I recently got all huffy from an email that was addressed to A/all and talked about F/females and P/people and it just drove me mad. So I'm backing off from that, but the line in my sig still stands.

99.5% of the time, my Daddy is Daddy. Even when I'm scared, etc. But if I've been bad, or Daddy is just in the mood to put some distance between us and shake me up a bit, then I have to use Sir.

My girlfriend is Mistress (more and more lately, too).