Sleep masturbation

[Paul_Chance]

Kinsey Says

Kinsey said that approximately 40% of women and 80% of men reported spontaneous orgasms in their sleep, with or without dreams of sexual content, three or four times a year. No one knows why. The latest theory is simply that an orgasm is a very natural event and the body is "wired for orgasm". Works for me. (I have an acquaintance who experiences spontaneous orgasms, most likely as the result of an injury in a car accident. She reports that it is not a particularly convenient or pleasant experience. That must be strange.)

 

[hunnyblonde]

Wow

This thread has been fascinating to read through. I've never been told that I touch myself in my sleep, but maybe once a month, I wake up in the middle of an orgasm, or having already finished with one. And apparently they're damn good ones too because the bed under me is usually soaked.

I haven't ever worried too much about it being a disorder or anything. It doesn't seem to disturb me or my partner, and I chalk it up to my being a very sexual-minded individual.

I'm really not sure what to make of the concept of someone touching their body though. That seems awfully deliberate. But sleepwalkers can apparently pour themselves glasses of milk and make sammiches and all kindsa stuff so.... Yea. The mind is a strange thing.

 

[Kat1971]

This thread has been fascinating to read through. I've never been told that I touch myself in my sleep, but maybe once a month, I wake up in the middle of an orgasm, or having already finished with one. And apparently they're damn good ones too because the bed under me is usually soaked.

I haven't ever worried too much about it being a disorder or anything. It doesn't seem to disturb me or my partner, and I chalk it up to my being a very sexual-minded individual.

I'm really not sure what to make of the concept of someone touching their body though. That seems awfully deliberate. But sleepwalkers can apparently pour themselves glasses of milk and make sammiches and all kindsa stuff so.... Yea. The mind is a strange thing.

Thanks for sharing hunnyblonde. Good to know other women share similar experiences as my wife. Although as you say the touching part does seem somewhat deliberate which is what drives me crazy. In a good sexual way. The thought she is aware of it but thinks I'm not turns me on. Would be interested to know whether any women do masturbate while they think their husband is asleep. And whether that makes it more exciting in some way.

 

[hunnyblonde]

Would be interested to know whether any women do masturbate while they think their husband is asleep. And whether that makes it more exciting in some way.

Actually I do do this. I'm not terribly proud of it because I almost feel unkind about touching myself while he's asleep. I always make sure he's snoring or making some other unintentional noise first... But we have a large bed, the kind that doesn't move when you do, so there's a lot of room for me to just pretend to be scratching or mindlessly tapping my leg or whatever, should he turn over in the middle which has happened once or twice.

I have to say that I'm probably not a "typical" case, because the touching while he's asleep - all by itself - doesn't turn me on. I do it because I need to cum before I can sleep...and he's usually not the one on my mind. <---- Also not terribly proud of that. It's an unfortunate side-effect, not a fetish.

 

[Kat1971]

Thanks hunnyblonde - fascinating. My wife has said to me that she used to think about sex when she went to bed as it was the best way for her to relax and help her get to sleep. She implied she doesn't do it any more but I'm wondering whether she does. And perhaps she thinks of someone else which is why she doesn't say she does it now. Quite often I sense her touching herself shortly after going to bed. Sometimes I pretend to be asleep (fake snoring etc) to see how far she will go. Rarely does she seem to reach orgasm so I suspect it's to relax. This is also probably connected to her doing it in her sleep.

As I have said before I find it extremely arousing and it soon becomes obvious it's much easier for a woman to masturbate discreetly than a man! Also I have this incredible desire to want to place my hand over hers to feel her fingers caress her clit and probe her pussy. Biggest turn on for me is seeing, hearing or feeling a woman pleasure themself when they think they are doing it privately.

You never know your husband might think the same!

 

[SkylarFalling]

Ummm I don't know much about this sort of thing, but if finding time for a relaxing evening and spending rude time together is difficult then I might have a suggestion.

Do you have any friends with kids in a similar predicament? With lack of time for sex I mean, not with the wife masturbating in her sleep. :] You could do something where one night a week, your kids go to their and you two get the night to yourselves. On a different night, their kids come to you and they get the night to themselves.

It would be hard work but would it be worth the regular, easy night to yourselves?

 

[Kat1971]

Ummm I don't know much about this sort of thing, but if finding time for a relaxing evening and spending rude time together is difficult then I might have a suggestion.

Do you have any friends with kids in a similar predicament? With lack of time for sex I mean, not with the wife masturbating in her sleep. :] You could do something where one night a week, your kids go to their and you two get the night to yourselves. On a different night, their kids come to you and they get the night to themselves.

It would be hard work but would it be worth the regular, easy night to yourselves?

Thanks for your post SkylarFalling.

I agree it would be nice to arrange a night to ourselves. Unfortunately, the last time (a few years ago now) we had a couple of nights away on her own while family looked after our daughter it turned out to be a nightmare. I saw it as an opportunity to get initimate again and she saw it as an opportunity to get some undisturbed sleep. Needless to say after a nice meal and a many drinks later our respective expectations were poles apart and neither of us got what we wanted!

But I will definitely think about arranging something soon so thanks for the suggestion.

 

[Kat1971]

Hi Rainshine

Yes I have tried joining in - when I have and shes woken up shes been annoyed with (a) me touching her and (b) waking her from her valuable sleep. She maintains that when I do wake her up her dreams arent sexual, which I just dont understand given she is appears to be in an aroused state. Funnily enough I have touched her through the covers which doesnt wake her up and it seems to increase her arousal and her breathing/groaning increases. Also sure Ive made her orgasm while she has been asleep. It seems it she only snaps out of it when she does wake up.... is it me??!!

 

[cjhavoc]

My wife masturbates in her sleep. She never has any recollection. Anyone else experienced this? At first found it a big turn on but now getting a bit annoying. Especially if she's turned me down for sex before falling asleep!

My fiancee does this. I thought it was the strangest thing at the beginning of our relationship, then I thought it was really annoying, now I just deal with it. If he turns me down beforehand, it just gives me an opportunity to blow him and have him wake up to a nice surprise!

 

[Kat1971]

Thanks for the reassurance rainshine!

I hope you're right although she's left me for a few days (to stay with her parents) and I get the feeling things are on the slide.... but thats a whole different story!

 

[Kat1971]

My fiancee does this. I thought it was the strangest thing at the beginning of our relationship, then I thought it was really annoying, now I just deal with it. If he turns me down beforehand, it just gives me an opportunity to blow him and have him wake up to a nice surprise!

Now that's what I call a nice surprise!!!

 

[Kat1971]

Hmm.... well.. maybe it's all one big story.

Marriage is hard work, even the good ones, and children change the dynamic as well. If your marriage is a little rocky or going through a difficult phase a fabulous sex life is not going to be on the cards.. or if it is it's definitely going to be pretty lack lustre. (At least from my experience when my marriage has been in a rough patch).

I agree its hard work, especially when sex becomes less of a priority because of other pressures. Its a shame that something that was once such a natural and almost automatic pleasure for you both becomes the thing that gets sacrificed for other (rightly) more important things in life. The key is getting the balance back.

 

[BiTodd]

I have an orgasm in my sleep probably once every couple of months. I don't masturbate, it just happens with a dream and I always wake up as I'm coming. I love it. Who wouldn't love an orgasm they didn't have to "work" for?!

But I digress... back to you...

Have you tried taking advantage of the situation and joining your wife while she is in the midst of this and waking her. While she is in this state of arousal anyway, she might be much more inclined to engage with you. I know I certainly would be.

Do you remember the dream? I haven't had an orgasm in my sleep in many years. I had no idea that women could do this too. Wow you learn something every day.