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I don't understand the humiliation aspect. Why humiliate your partner? To me that seems so wrong. I have been with men with large penises and small penises. I never once felt the desire to humiliate any of them. It's not like they have any control over the size of there penis. It just is what it is. Guys shouldn't get hung up on the size of it. I have even had men last merely seconds before ejaculating. Once again, I didn't humiliate them for it. Was I disappointed, hell yes.

So guys, answer me this. Why would you WANT to be humiliated during sex?
 
IslandKate91 said:
I don't understand the humiliation aspect. Why humiliate your partner? To me that seems so wrong. I have been with men with large penises and small penises. I never once felt the desire to humiliate any of them. It's not like they have any control over the size of there penis. It just is what it is. Guys shouldn't get hung up on the size of it. I have even had men last merely seconds before ejaculating. Once again, I didn't humiliate them for it. Was I disappointed, hell yes.

So guys, answer me this. Why would you WANT to be humiliated during sex?
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I think of certain aspects of sexual humiliation as sort of like emotional BDSM. It is cathartic in a way.

Men are generally encouraged to maintain a certain self image and often go to great lengths to reinforce that image including a certain amount of self delusion. It is perfectly valid to say a man can't do anything about the size of his cock so why worry about it. But to say it doesn't matter at all ever to any woman is just a lie. It is like telling a guy who is 5' tall and bald that height and hair don't matter. Maybe it doesn't matter to some women, maybe those for whom it does matter are shallow but to say it doesn't matter ever to any woman is just a lie. The most productive thing to do is accept ourselves as we are including the aspects that aren't optimal - that is fundamentally different from denying that those shortcomings (pun intended) don't exist or that they are inconsequential.

When it comes to matters of sex, especially a man's penis size, any acknowledgement that it is sub-optimal is generally regarded as humiliating. Any acknowledgement that the sexual experience we provide isn't great or was less enjoyable than that which another man provided is regarded as humiliating. But those potential realities really are no different than accepting that some women simply won't date a 5' bald guy. Pretending otherwise is exhausting and it doesn't work. Accepting reality and moving on from it is cathartic and liberating. To the extent that we want the message delivered a little more aggressively the extra dose of humiliation is kind of like the pain (up to a point) in BDSM. It is extra cathartic and thrilling to let those feelings pass through you, embrace them and pass yourself over to them. There is a sense of being completely vulnerable and exposed but trusting the person you are with.

In that sense I couldn't do it with just anybody. It has to be someone I trust (my wife). We aren't into SPH per se because I am about average sized. But she does make clear to me that she prefers larger and she does make a point of telling me about the pleasures she gets from her lovers. All while remaining devoted to me.
 
Also any reference my wife makes to sexual details involving other men and her desire for them projects an image of her sexuality that is very appealing. To the extent that her desire and sexuality exceeds that which I can manage and satisfy that appeal is magnified. At this point in my life being with a desirous woman who needs more than I can give sexually is far more appealing than being exclusive with a woman with limited sexual interest. The references she makes to other men, including comparisons to me are evidence of her sexual nature and the more aggressively those points are made to me the more titillating it feels. So the humiliation isn't a stand-alone emotion. It is part of a cocktail of conflicting emotions - titillation, arousal, humiliation and many more all come as a package. That can't be separated and it is the package that is appealing as much or more so than the humiliation itself.
 
SlutAddicted said:
I think of certain aspects of sexual humiliation as sort of like emotional BDSM. It is cathartic in a way.

Men are generally encouraged to maintain a certain self image and often go to great lengths to reinforce that image including a certain amount of self delusion. It is perfectly valid to say a man can't do anything about the size of his cock so why worry about it. But to say it doesn't matter at all ever to any woman is just a lie. It is like telling a guy who is 5' tall and bald that height and hair don't matter. Maybe it doesn't matter to some women, maybe those for whom it does matter are shallow but to say it doesn't matter ever to any woman is just a lie. The most productive thing to do is accept ourselves as we are including the aspects that aren't optimal - that is fundamentally different from denying that those shortcomings (pun intended) don't exist or that they are inconsequential.

When it comes to matters of sex, especially a man's penis size, any acknowledgement that it is sub-optimal is generally regarded as humiliating. Any acknowledgement that the sexual experience we provide isn't great or was less enjoyable than that which another man provided is regarded as humiliating. But those potential realities really are no different than accepting that some women simply won't date a 5' bald guy. Pretending otherwise is exhausting and it doesn't work. Accepting reality and moving on from it is cathartic and liberating. To the extent that we want the message delivered a little more aggressively the extra dose of humiliation is kind of like the pain (up to a point) in BDSM. It is extra cathartic and thrilling to let those feelings pass through you, embrace them and pass yourself over to them. There is a sense of being completely vulnerable and exposed but trusting the person you are with.

In that sense I couldn't do it with just anybody. It has to be someone I trust (my wife). We aren't into SPH per se because I am about average sized. But she does make clear to me that she prefers larger and she does make a point of telling me about the pleasures she gets from her lovers. All while remaining devoted to me.
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Well stated.
 
Also, if you like this kind of content, there’s a fair amount on the Ask Dr Liz thread.
 
WOW! what a wife dream she had

My wife told me yesterday that she had this dream a few days ago but wasn't sure if she should tell me. We are an older 60's couple now, and I have shared a million fantasies with her over the years about other guys fucking her. So, back in our late 40's I mentioned her sister's ex BF in bed, it was shortly after they broke up. I told my wife I had a fantasy about her sister's ex fucking her and comparing her to her sister, telling my wife her pussy is so much tighter than her sisters. Anyway, I mentioned him again a few days ago, just in normal conversation, because her sister was over last weekend and she said something about him. and mentioned the only good thing he had was a nice dick.

My wife said in her dream that her sister's ex was talking to her and said, "I heard your husband has a little tiny dick." she said it seemed so real, and she was embarrassed by what he said. But she told him "Yes he does as she was looking down." Then he told her "How do you get satisfied with that?" Then she said "as I was about to say something to him, her sister yelled her name, and the dream ended. Like a lot of dreams do they just end."

My wife said she was just thinking about it the last couple days, and looked at me knowing my fantasies and said, "can you imagine others knowing you have a little tiny penis?" " Like not only my sister, which yes, I told, and she told her ex. But her daughters / our niece's knowing?" "Or your other friends." " I think of them hitting on me like my sister's ex was doing in my wet dream." I asked my wife "so, this got you wet?" She said it gets me wet thinking of other guys thinking I'd spread my legs for their real man cocks, because they all know you have a little boy looking pee, pee." " I think of you being so embarrassed if our grown-up nieces knew their old uncle has a little tiny pee, pee.

Well after this little chat my tiny 4" was rock hard. Now I have been thinking like my wife. MAN! if all our male family members, and friends knew about my pathetic little penis. I would think that some of those guys that know my wife would think of giving her their bigger cocks. And that would make me so hard even with the embarrassment, and humiliation.
 
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IslandKate91 said:
I don't understand the humiliation aspect. Why humiliate your partner? To me that seems so wrong. I have been with men with large penises and small penises. I never once felt the desire to humiliate any of them. It's not like they have any control over the size of there penis. It just is what it is. Guys shouldn't get hung up on the size of it. I have even had men last merely seconds before ejaculating. Once again, I didn't humiliate them for it. Was I disappointed, hell yes.

So guys, answer me this. Why would you WANT to be humiliated during sex?
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Not so much during one on one with her, but with a real man present it really gets me going.
 
I literally got into sph by chatting with an older women on the chat rooms here a few months back. We were having an erotic conversation and going back and forth,I’m 37 and she’s about 50. I was hyping myself up as far as how much I can cum then she asked for a dick pick. I sent one expecting a positive response and she comes back with laughter basically. She seriously started to tease and humiliate me which wasn’t part of our chat at that point. She was telling how small it was and laughing basically. My dick os very small bit still very nice and smooth. The second she started to humiliate me it’s like a switch was flipped and I was instantly turned on I’ve never had a kink just instantly happen but it’s a huge part of what turns me on now. I try to chat with dominate women who like to humiliate me for it and it’s always fantastic
 
BradG2365 said:
I have what i recently learned as the betamale trifecta :

I am small , cant get and stay hard anymore , and i cum too fast.

Very few women have had sex with me twice. The few times when I did have sex with a woman a second time, each time she told me to just lick her pussy instead of letting me fuck her.
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I've been to bed with dozens of women and have usually been the worst fuck they ever had.
 
slightlysubhub said:
I literally got into sph by chatting with an older women on the chat rooms here a few months back. We were having an erotic conversation and going back and forth,I’m 37 and she’s about 50. I was hyping myself up as far as how much I can cum then she asked for a dick pick. I sent one expecting a positive response and she comes back with laughter basically. She seriously started to tease and humiliate me which wasn’t part of our chat at that point. She was telling how small it was and laughing basically. My dick os very small bit still very nice and smooth. The second she started to humiliate me it’s like a switch was flipped and I was instantly turned on I’ve never had a kink just instantly happen but it’s a huge part of what turns me on now. I try to chat with dominate women who like to humiliate me for it and it’s always fantastic
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It’s such a headfuck when it happens organically like that.
 
I was introduced to sph by let's call it my ex and at the beginning it was hard for me to even entertain the idea because I'd never want to be mean and hurt my partner's feelings but we talked about it a lot, I read on it, we shared videos and eventually had phone sex about it and I gotta say it was really hot to do this for him and seeing and hearing how turned on he was was a turn on for me so it ended up being a win win situation. I can't say that I'd seek to do sph with someone else purposefully but I'd def be open to the idea. Also he was just right below average so I wasn't really concerned about him being able to satisfy me on a regular day, however, he was also willing to use an extender and wasn't intimidated by the idea of me using bigger toys and that confidence was also really hot!
 
Diosax said:
I was introduced to sph by let's call it my ex and at the beginning it was hard for me to even entertain the idea because I'd never want to be mean and hurt my partner's feelings but we talked about it a lot, I read on it, we shared videos and eventually had phone sex about it and I gotta say it was really hot to do this for him and seeing and hearing how turned on he was was a turn on for me so it ended up being a win win situation. I can't say that I'd seek to do sph with someone else purposefully but I'd def be open to the idea. Also he was just right below average so I wasn't really concerned about him being able to satisfy me on a regular day, however, he was also willing to use an extender and wasn't intimidated by the idea of me using bigger toys and that confidence was also really hot!
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I think most women don’t want to hurt their partners so this is a kink they have trouble with. I’m glad you found a way to work with it.

What were some of the things you would say that turned you both on?
 
IslandKate91 said:
I don't understand the humiliation aspect. Why humiliate your partner? To me that seems so wrong. I have been with men with large penises and small penises. I never once felt the desire to humiliate any of them. It's not like they have any control over the size of there penis. It just is what it is. Guys shouldn't get hung up on the size of it. I have even had men last merely seconds before ejaculating. Once again, I didn't humiliate them for it. Was I disappointed, hell yes.

So guys, answer me this. Why would you WANT to be humiliated during sex?
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it made me horny...shed say i was tiny and it grew.....it was and did
 
One lucky hubby

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