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I love being humiliated about my short comings. Although I mostly enjoy it online. I can't seem to get a woman to do it in the real world. I have experienced many times the look of disappointment on a woman's face after seeing my tiny cock for the first time.
 
Would love being the guy on the left.

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chiquitito said:
Simply put, verbal humiliation is a form of emotional masochism.

If I want my partner to spank me while telling me that my penis is too small, then that would be emotional masochism combined with physical masochism.

Masochism is the "M" in BDSM.

If I simply like it, it's a predilection. If I get sexual satisfaction from it, it's a proclivity. If I need it for sexual satisfaction, it's a fetish. It's a matter of progressive intensity of want/need.

I thought this was all common knowledge. Asking why someone would want to be humiliated during sex is the same as asking why masochists exist. We just do. As with anyone else, we like what we like.

There are women who like to have their hair pulled and be told: "you're a dirty little slut" or "your friend fucks much better than you do," or words to that effect, during sex. I've known some. Why do they like it? They just do. Masochistic interests are extremely common.
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I have often wondered why people are so baffled by the emotional masochism of SPH. To me it is sort of like seeing someone get spanked as part of a BDSM session and saying "I don't understand why someone would want to be assaulted." That clearly isn't what is happening. Even a passing understanding of the situation will tell you that what is happening is consensual and exciting to the people involved. It is no more a mystery than why some people like cilantro - I dislike it but it isn't beyond my comprehension that other people have different tastes and preferences.
 
SlutAddicted said:
I have often wondered why people are so baffled by the emotional masochism of SPH. To me it is sort of like seeing someone get spanked as part of a BDSM session and saying "I don't understand why someone would want to be assaulted." That clearly isn't what is happening. Even a passing understanding of the situation will tell you that what is happening is consensual and exciting to the people involved. It is no more a mystery than why some people like cilantro - I dislike it but it isn't beyond my comprehension that other people have different tastes and preferences.
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UGH, don't get me started on cilantro. But I agree, if you want weeds in your food, put weeds in your food.

I was going to say something yummy about small dicks, and now all I can think of is guacamole for lunch. I think I'm growing as a person.
 
Had to goggle SPH:
The abbreviation SPH stands for Sphere. It describes the amount of lens measured in diopters that you need for good vision. The term means that the correction for your sight is spherical.

I also hate cilantro.
 
Artfan2 said:
So, apparently SPH is a good thing and cilantro is not.
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Specifying units of measurement is a good thing. Never forget your units. For example, "I can finger myself" is not nearly as sexy as "I can finger myself at 360 strokes per minute".
 
IslandKate91 said:
I don't understand the humiliation aspect. Why humiliate your partner? To me that seems so wrong. I have been with men with large penises and small penises. I never once felt the desire to humiliate any of them. It's not like they have any control over the size of there penis. It just is what it is. Guys shouldn't get hung up on the size of it. I have even had men last merely seconds before ejaculating. Once again, I didn't humiliate them for it. Was I disappointed, hell yes.

So guys, answer me this. Why would you WANT to be humiliated during sex?
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I guess I am just repeating others here, but I have run into a least a couple of reasons for this which are sort of interrelated.

For some guys it is a type of emotional masochism. To me that doesn't seem so different from the fact that I occasionally like to be spanked if the right person is doing the spanking. That latter part is important because it is about the connection I have with that person. I don't want just anyone spanking me and for the guys I have known who were into SPH they wouldn't want just anyone humiliating them (maybe some do, just not the ones I have known).

I have also known guys who genuinely see their penis size as sub-optimal and that perception is well founded either because their dick really is small or it is substantially smaller than their partner prefers. For some of those guys pretending it doesn't matter is a burden because they know it is a lie. The constant machinations we go through to pretend otherwise just add to the burden whereas acknowledging it and embracing it remove that burden.

I think that the premise that "guys shouldn't get hung up on the size of it" is a different matter from recognizing reality. It is the difference between denial and acceptance. I think that the two dynamics cannot co-exist. Mostly when we speak of not getting hung up on it what that really entails is guys and the women they are with engaging in denial. Acceptance requires recognition which implies facing reality and SPH can be an emphatic way off doing that. I am not saying it is for everyone but I can see the point of it.
 
EStaccato said:
Specifying units of measurement is a good thing. Never forget your units. For example, "I can finger myself" is not nearly as sexy as "I can finger myself at 360 strokes per minute".
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It's definitely more arousing when you add in the "360 strokes per minute (SPM)." Perhaps there should be a SPM thread.
 
Artfan2 said:
Data spreadsheets, and videos, would be very well received, I'm sure.
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I was thinking a little magnet under my wedding ring and Hall effect sensor would be the most accurate. But sure, we could use the video frame rate, too.

Spreadsheets. Pshaw. How about full speed graphs...

You guys are going to need some equipment to participate. I can make some recommendations.
 
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