Small Penis Teasing (not Humiliation)

[lil_pete]

I like these comments and largely feel the same way. I have written elsewhere on this forum that I believe that erotic humiliation is a fine art that involves the Domme understanding the psyche of Her sub and knowing how to push the right buttons. Tone and inflection as well as timing are even more important than word choice, but some efforts at SPH depicted in porn are simply crude and, to me, not erotic at all.
My wife will say things like, “Remind me why I don’t let you put it in me,” or simply laugh at my erection and shake Her head, make me show her, ask me if I can get it any bigger. She is “sympathetic” in a condescending way, but never mean.

Perfect, very well said.
Ah that fine art, yes I do believe my wife has that and the way I have always described it; she knows just how far to push the needle in

 

[NancyPan]

I think it would be fair to say that most women do not (on their own) read or view porn, and they spend far less time in sexual fantasy than the average male. So when I brought up the term “erotic humiliation “ to my wife, she’d never before heard the term, but, based on some of our experiences, clearly understood it. We had several open discussions over the course of months about my response (arousal) to erotic humiliation, and as she experimented, she began to find it both powerful and amusing.

Early in our relationship, as she was not experienced with other men, she was actually rather naive about how comparatively small I was, plus she is such innately a kind person that she didn’t want to hurt my feelings. It took some discussion, and her seeing my heightened state of arousal, for her to realize that I “needed” her to humiliate me and make fun of my inadequate penis.

We’ve gotten better at meeting each other’s needs over time!