Spankings, Why?

[RuReal]

Having a submissive nature is one part of your personality.

Enjoying pain is a different part. The two can go together, but they don't have to.

Furthermore, a lot of women mistake "Wanting to be done unto" for "having a submissive nature." The truth, as I see it, is that most women-- really, I mean a significant majority of women-- are in fact, dominant, but don't want to be the one doing the lifting. Many "submissive" women are dominant bottoms. And many men are in fact, service tops, meaning they want to make that woman happy. If he needs to Take Charge-- in the way that she prefers-- then that's what he will do-- and he'll enjoy it because she enjoys it.

A true, or as we like to say, Twue, submissive will love getting spanked even if she doesn't love it, simply because it's what her Dom wants. Submissives are pretty rare, actually.


*cough* sorry, got the needle stuck in the record there.

I disagree, but I am going to leave it alone. I think people spend too much time worrying about labels.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I disagree, but I am going to leave it alone. I think people spend too much time worrying about labels.

yeah, some people feel that way, especially when I go on and on about it
but I also get "thank you" from people as well, because my rant lets them see themselves in a new light-- one that they didn't have before.


Anyway, back to spanking, I have a lover who wants to become more of a top and I am having so much fun letting her try things out on me!
Right now we are working on "taking the time to tie the ropes correctly," and "the difference between "No!" and an actual safeword". And my butt is feeling it this morning

 

[laceNlthrgrrl]

I have a bit of a submissive streak in me and I love the vulnerable position (no pun intended) that receiving a spanking puts me in. Your ass is up, your face is down, most of the time. I also relish the lack of control and being at my partner's mercy; it is both terrifying and excruciatingly sexy. I'm also quite masochiostic, so the pain is a turn-on as well.

Finally, this may come off as a bit odd, but somehow I feel oddly safe, even if it hurts and even if I'm in tears. I don't know. There is just something comforting about feeling his warm lap and (usually) his hard cock against my stomach. His hand stroking my back, or tightly holding my wrist so I don't try to block him, or his fingers twining in my hair, just... nngh.

Um, yeah, this. <fanning myself>

Over-the-knee, especially. I've been spanked in other positions, but I love OTK. Like pixie said, so nicely, there's a very comforting intimacy, the skin to skin. Oh yeah, lovely.

 

[omgitsrandiii]

Um, yeah, this. <fanning myself>

Over-the-knee, especially. I've been spanked in other positions, but I love OTK. Like pixie said, so nicely, there's a very comforting intimacy, the skin to skin. Oh yeah, lovely.

That sounds incredible. I love being spanked like that.

 

[laceNlthrgrrl]

That sounds incredible. I love being spanked like that.

Now I'm all inspired and such.


Bent and open
vulnerable

Counting my sins
repentant

Craving his touch
not like this!

Stinging, burning
sobbing

Thud and touch
intimate

Stroking, throbbing
release

Catharsis and tears
broken

Regrets, apologies
Rebirth

 

[pixxie91]

Um, yeah, this. <fanning myself>

Over-the-knee, especially. I've been spanked in other positions, but I love OTK. Like pixie said, so nicely, there's a very comforting intimacy, the skin to skin. Oh yeah, lovely.

Exactly!