Subs, be honest...do you ever cheat just a little?

[A Desert Rose]

Re: Re: Interesting point Art

Desert Rose... when I read and hear things like this, it makes me so happy that I found Himself in the world. I do not know how we found each other, but I am thankful everyday that I am his.

~~~~~~~~And I am happy for you. I can read your spirit under your words, loud and clear.
Rose

 

[Little Girl]

Re: Re: Re: Re: I FIND NO NEED

I CANT even begin to count the NUMBER of times I said THOSE words either!! so many NEW sensations..only 3 words kept escaping my lips >"OH MY GOD!!"

Sounds like a wonderful religious experience, I can't wait to have a few of those myself

 

[catalina_francisco]

I know there are other subs like myself who do not live with their Doms or see them as frequently as we would probably like. Also, like myself, I'm sure you are left with orders, instructions, or tasks.

A for instance...my Dom told me a few months ago that I was not to masturbate at all during his 2 and a half week vacation. I slipped, cheated, whatever you want to call it once about half way through.

I didn't tell him...I saw no need to. I realize others might for the sake of honesty and I respect and understand that, but I saw no harm done by not telling him. I hadn't been unfaithful to him with another man, I hadn't done anything that would harm our physical or emotional relationship (though telling him may have made him upset).

So, fellow submissives...have you ever done something similar? What instruction did you "cheat" on, and did you tell your dominant or not? Why did or didn't you?

Call me old fashioned, but if the attitude is 'what they don't know won't hurt them', why bother asking to submit at all? Seems there is little point if the thought is to do what you want in the end, thus only doing that which you as the submissive want to do and choosing to ignore the Dominant's wishes. Failing and admitting your inability to do as asked is another thing, unless of course, once again it was a matter of choosing to not even try because it didn't fit the sub idea of what should or shouldn't be happening.

Catalina

 

[Netzach]

I pretty much solve this problem by not asking for things that are utterly impossible or idiotic or have no good discernable reason. I don't try to make a service sub of a chastity hound or a chastity hound of a pleasure slut. Talk about your mixed messages.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I pretty much solve this problem by not asking for things that are utterly impossible or idiotic or have no good discernable reason. I don't try to make a service sub of a chastity hound or a chastity hound of a pleasure slut. Talk about your mixed messages.

LOL, very true..we all have our preferences and an ability to succeed better in one area as opposed to another.

Catalina

 

[LunarKitten]

Re: I FIND NO NEED

OR PLEASURE in lying and Ldr's are hard enuf as it is,why complicate matters?? I only know I need to learn to SPEAK UP WHEN I'm cumming as Master expects me too tho its very hard

I find it very hard to speak, much less do coherent sentences, when I'm cumming I think I mainly stick to "Ohmygod" "yes" "ohgod" before hand, during, forget anything but a yell or scream that you can't understand.

 

[LunarKitten]

I know there are other subs like myself who do not live with their Doms or see them as frequently as we would probably like. Also, like myself, I'm sure you are left with orders, instructions, or tasks.

A for instance...my Dom told me a few months ago that I was not to masturbate at all during his 2 and a half week vacation. I slipped, cheated, whatever you want to call it once about half way through.

I didn't tell him...I saw no need to. I realize others might for the sake of honesty and I respect and understand that, but I saw no harm done by not telling him. I hadn't been unfaithful to him with another man, I hadn't done anything that would harm our physical or emotional relationship (though telling him may have made him upset).

So, fellow submissives...have you ever done something similar? What instruction did you "cheat" on, and did you tell your dominant or not? Why did or didn't you?

I don't think I've ever cheated on completing something he's told me to do. If I did, the guilt would kill me too much to keep it to myself.

 

[sadunai]

So, fellow submissives...have you ever done something similar? What instruction did you "cheat" on, and did you tell your dominant or not? Why did or didn't you?

I slipped, told him and he didn't even comment on it. That made me lose respect for him. Stuggling to obey when he don't even care about it just sucks...

 

[catalina_francisco]

Re: Re: Subs, be honest...do you ever cheat just a little?

I slipped, told him and he didn't even comment on it. That made me lose respect for him. Stuggling to obey when he don't even care about it just sucks...

What was the instruction you slipped on?

I have had PYL friends whose punishment for their pyl was to ignore their pyl for a while and show a complete lack of interest towards the pyl.

I think it is very dangerous and stupid behaviour and you have just proven to me again how stupid this behaviour can be.

Francisco.

 

[Hajar]

I haven't ever not obeyed something he says, I might sass a bit here and there; but I will obey to the last letter, but then we live together maybe if I was online it would be different?

 

[LunarKitten]

I haven't ever not obeyed something he says, I might sass a bit here and there; but I will obey to the last letter, but then we live together maybe if I was online it would be different?

Yeah, I tend to drag my feet...but sometimes it's just to hear him get that gruff voice *shivers* I love that voice....of course, sometimes he'll use it just to make me shiver cause he knows that's why I do it

Wonders if I can get him to use it tonight

 

[silver_inari]

Yeah, I tend to drag my feet...but sometimes it's just to hear him get that gruff voice *shivers* I love that voice....of course, sometimes he'll use it just to make me shiver cause he knows that's why I do it

Wonders if I can get him to use it tonight

Dragging your feet is one thing, and sometimes the little snap to get to work is not necessarily a bad thing.

I would think randomly dropping parts of commancs that you don;t want to follow defeats the whole purpose of submitting.

 

[s'lara]

Sounds like bs, but lapsing in obedience isn't a cheat. It's a lapse period. Willful non-compliance. That's not a little bit pregnant ... it's knocked up.

As mentioned, setting someone up to fail, e.g., a three week orgasm/pain denial after a daily diet of both, is setting the stage for disaster. We're (pyl's) human and with that in mind, we embody all the weaknesses non-pyl's tend to have. In other words, we can slip with the best. However, our chief focus is obedience and our daily activities are surrounded by that concept. Therefore, when we deliberately act in contradiction to that mindset, it should reverberate hard enough to still our worlds.

So, the little cheats are not worth the self-questioning, the emotional guilt and the possible loss (if the little cheats are repetitive) of the PYL.

lara

 

[TigerClaw]

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...... Once broken the door would be slamming her ass across the street.

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: Subs, be honest...do you ever cheat just a little?

I slipped, told him and he didn't even comment on it. That made me lose respect for him. Stuggling to obey when he don't even care about it just sucks...

Interesting... Of course most of this thread has been interesting, in one way or another...

My question relating to the above would be....

After that, did he ever give you a command of that nature again??

 

[esclave_PP]

I agree with s'lara -- a lapse is a lapse. Nothing fears me more than displeasing Master. So I go very much out of my way not to. I think one might have to look at why they are whom they are if cheating or "lapsing" comes into play -- might be a deeper issue there all together. JMHO

 

[Maxell46]

Just a quick thought...but anyone who gives an order for a woman not to cum for 30 days is cruel !

Maybe some of you subs need that...and enjoy it.
but I would never want a sub that could last that long!

Mine needs to cum and cum often!
I will deny her a few days but she always knows that her Master will not be a cruel asshole about it and will bring her to the edge( with loads of teasing!) before finally allowing her release!

But thats just me ......

 

[catalina_francisco]

Just a quick thought...but anyone who gives an order for a woman not to cum for 30 days is cruel !

Maybe some of you subs need that...and enjoy it.
but I would never want a sub that could last that long!

Mine needs to cum and cum often!
I will deny her a few days but she always knows that her Master will not be a cruel asshole about it and will bring her to the edge( with loads of teasing!) before finally allowing her release!

But thats just me ......

Not sure the discussion is so much about whether a sub can or cannot go that long without, as much as attitude and what the sub does or thinks when they cannot/ do not fulfil their Dominant's orders.

Catalina

 

[Liana26]

I cheated twice in the same day

But that was also the only time I did. I called Tyler up and told him about it that same day. It was hard telling the truth because I knew I'd pay dearly (and I did) but I like to look at the good in every situation so I'd like to look at it as a learning experience for both of us. Me because I learned it's not worth the punishment and him because now he knows that although not entirely well-behaved, his sub is honest.

 

[LunarKitten]

Dragging your feet is one thing, and sometimes the little snap to get to work is not necessarily a bad thing.

I would think randomly dropping parts of commancs that you don;t want to follow defeats the whole purpose of submitting.

It's a good thing he knows that I do it for the voice. He teases me about it. However, I do need it in the mornings sometimes *sigh* I hate having to leave him for a whole day

 

[LunarKitten]

I agree with s'lara -- a lapse is a lapse. Nothing fears me more than displeasing Master. So I go very much out of my way not to. I think one might have to look at why they are whom they are if cheating or "lapsing" comes into play -- might be a deeper issue there all together. JMHO

*nods* Whenever I do something that even mildly disappoints or angers him, it totally tears me up inside.

 

[Bandit58]

Just a quick thought...but anyone who gives an order for a woman not to cum for 30 days is cruel !

Maybe some of you subs need that...and enjoy it.
but I would never want a sub that could last that long!

Mine needs to cum and cum often!
I will deny her a few days but she always knows that her Master will not be a cruel asshole about it and will bring her to the edge( with loads of teasing!) before finally allowing her release!

But thats just me ......

Master says I need to learn to cum more So we've bought new toys and I have no intention of disobeying His instructions.....