Follow along with the video below to see how to install our site as a web app on your home screen.
Note: This feature may not be available in some browsers.
Originally posted by Red Menace
redelicious said:A Dom friend and I were discussing a theory of his. He believes that at some point all subs have a need to test their Dom/me's limits. As a teacher I could relate - it reminded me how a class of students will, at the beginning of the school year, test their teacher's limits to see how far they can push him/her.
This scares me, and not just for the punishment it would surely bring. The last thing I would want to do is displease my Dom/me and it bothers me that somehow it is inevitable due to human nature. I have a budding o/l friendship with another Dom and we have discussed this. He has warned me that this error in judgement would only happen once.
Any thoughts on this? Is there a sub out there involved in a r/l relationship that has not needed to be punished?
zipman7 said:
Hey Red,
I am in a very different type of BDSM relationship than Eb. I fell in love with my girlfriend and introduced her to BDSM after we were dating. In this type of relationship, I believe there is more testing, and more patience is required as there was no screening process in place when we started. She tests me, I correct her, she learns.
There is only one thing that truly bother me. Testing me more than once on the same issue. That is when it moves to a point of questioning my control. That is not acceptable. I use both discipline and punishment to correct her. Discipline is indeed molding her behaviors. Punishment is in response to something that she has done that has displeased me. The truth is, I don't necessarily mind punishing her. The displeasure wears off quickly as her ass reddens.
Good thread!