the consentual non-consent scene???

[BiBunny]

Quite welcome.


My comfort level with this type of paradox depends entirely on context, and the person(s) to whom I am speaking.


As an aside, I'll note that I started using the phrase "Taken By Force" not to distinguish between what I do and the crime, but rather to distinguish between the relatively non-violent fantasies of some women and what others might have in mind.

I have spoken to many women who say they have rape fantasies. When they start to elaborate, however, it often becomes clear that their fantasies focus primarily on what happens once they've already been restrained. (This is particularly true for those with little or no BDSM experience.) A lot of them don't spend much fantasy time envisioning how they get tied up; the bulk of the mental action takes place once they have lost all ability to resist and "have no choice" about what goes on.

The point & purpose of what they describe is very different from the intense physical struggle described in the opening post of this thread. Hence my attempt to clarify with the TBF phrase.

I have both TBF and rape fantasies. I like to play out both for different reasons. Your terminology will help me keep the two things separate when I try to talk about them, so thank you.

 

[JMohegan]

Your terminology will help me keep the two things separate when I try to talk about them, so thank you.

You're welcome.

 

[the_pet]

This is high risk, high reward behavior. No doubt.

I have to 2nd this statement because i've experienced the high reward (which keeps me coming back) but also the high risk, crashing the next day, triggered, etc. coming down off a MAJOR emotional high. Luckily the latter rarely happens now that i'm more aware/familiar and mentally prepared for the reentry into reality.

Definitely playing with fire emotionally IMO but it's a huge favorite of mine and i like to push it anyway.


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