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Lauren said:I will close this repeating one thing: you can be sure that your hateful and hypocritical anti-critic crusade and the mindless back-patting you brought has made more and better poets and newbies leave this place than all the harshest criticisms put together, and for that, if not for anything else, you should feel ashamed. You should feel that shame each time you feel like starting a thread like this.
First I enjoyed the indepth thoughts you had here, even with your twisted thoughts of me riddled in here but......
I disagree totally and can account for most that have left this forum because of you, jim, ydd and a few more...can you make a list of those that left cause I was being nice or hard on a critic that ran a new poet off. I doubt this...I stand firm with this cause I made that thread that had a running list of those that left for the harsh views of those that you say will teach for free, if we kneel properly.
now I ain't a gonna dabble every topic you touched, but I did appreciate the indepth thoughts you have on this subject, I wished to learn so why am I to be ashamed of that? The Critics here can spill hatred and less than favorable comments to poets but when a comment is left about a comment, you all get upset <why> a critic can not be critiqued? (why not)
Lauren Hynde said:Art-
First of all, you should be ashamed of yourself. If you want to discuss anything rationally and, in your words, "debate/converse this topic without slander", why do you use expressions like "filthy critic", "asshole" and "stuffy and pompuss (sic) professors"? You have no interest in learning anything - you are a man with a made-mind, and to hell with anyone else. The fact that you can't even see this hypocrisy would be sad, if we weren't already so used to it, and I am certain that your attitude has scared off more people from the site than all the harshest critics put together.
The word filthy critic is a critic that calls himself a filthy critic, I called no one this...
Who says I do not wish to learn? Is this an assessment from you? I can still find the list and add to it if need be, it is sad that so many left, regardless of reason, does this not point to a problem?
Lauren Hynde said:There are many more positive connotations of the words critic and criticism in your own definition than there are negative. What do you have to say to that?
I have not seen any....
Lauren Hynde said:What have you read, Art? "Nobody likes a critic"? Nobody likes a doctor either, but if you're sick, you better find one. Some people don't like critics because they don't want to know about the flaws of what they're doing. Ignorance is bliss, as you know. But if you want to learn, if you want to get better, then you have to find out what you're doing right and what you're doing wrong. If you just sit and pat your own back, you'll grow roots and die before you start writing poetry. If you want to grow as a poet, you listen to the opinions of those around you - all the opinions, not just the ones that stroke your ego.
I have been recieving comments that my poetry is better than it has been, I am a hobby poet, there is no profession of poetry or if there is I won't be on it, 1201 said two poets a century get recognition well that won't be you or me. I am being published in 6 books by summer 2006...why, cause I am getting better. I have a friend who is a lit major at SAM U, that helps me...two great online personalities help me here without the critic ego stroking personality that you and others poses here. I don't cotton to that and you don't like it, but to say I am not learning or want to learn is your justification as to why I don't ask you for help? Or that is what I figure cause why else would you say this?
one of your comments states...>>>lauren>>>There you go again with the credentials. Where did this obsession come from? Usually, the only people who even mention credentials actually have them.
my lit major profeesor told me that most critics have not the credentials to be a critic there fore listen to only those with scholastic learning and not self taught, that is where this come from...this same person come to lit as a favor to me and ya'll acted like...well they were appauled that so many stroke themselves and will not partake in such idiocy. that is a shame when a very learned person will not come to this forum or has and was not happy with the intellect that resides here. Ego strokers, I was told. Where else would I learn of such big words <grin> In all honety the other reason was it is looked at as a porn site, that is just being honet.
which answers the next comment
Lauren said:The same thing applies to criticism. Academic degrees theoretically give you the experience and the body of knowledge needed to support an opinion. Whether that opinion has more or less validity than any other, has nothing to do with this. You should pay attention to the opinion, not to the person giving it to you. "Giving" to you - noticed the word chosen?
Thank you Lauren, I do not feel as though I learned from this yet, but damn it I am trying, when some one attacks a poem on the new poems list. We should all burry our heads and say "OKAY A CRITIC AT WORK HERE" sorry but I see more of an attack when that person passes say ten poems to pick at a certain person for being a helpful name here. "Your Poems Crap" or "this poem is Aweful" or "Don't write poetry any more" is excepted by those who do not care is how I see it. I for one CARE how new poets develope because I am one, I know a few and I have had way to many PMs and E-mails with tears or upset because somebody felt they were teaching poetry by being a critic with harsh words.
I am asking because I wanted to know, so no...I don't feel ashamed, what I am ashamed of is when a nice person has their poem attacked by a literary maniac and the rest hide their head in the sand or are to busy removing posts. It is okay cause it is a critic.
I think I really am trying to point to those who do not have a very nice way of saying things and I think you will agree, who will listen to some one that is not polite, I do not and many I know will not. So ...why bother other than it is a charactor flaw...not a critic. I get a critic from those I ask to critic and I learn from a focussed mind that knows how to enteract with others, perhaps a course on this is more needed than more critics.