The "Fuck you cancer!" thread

[Shankara20]

Shank
Lots of positive energy for you!

sweet

 

[Shankara20]

Dammit! I just learned that another dear friend (and amazing artist) has succumbed after 9 years battling breast cancer, including two remissions. FUCK YOU CANCER!!!!

(hugs)

 

[cascadiabound]

Dammit! I just learned that another dear friend (and amazing artist) has succumbed after 9 years battling breast cancer, including two remissions. FUCK YOU CANCER!!!!

I am so sorry, ds. Words are not enough.
cb

 

[cascadiabound]

I lost my mom to breast cancer about 8 months after dad had a sudden heart attack. My maternal grandmother also died of breast cancer. Not good odds for me. So far the lumps have been benign, but I get more freaked out each time I have to go for my yearly mammograms and ultrasound. I gulove as its worse now since Christmas is coming up and it's just going to be another day for me. Nowhere to go and nothing to do since my folks are gone. So fuck you very much, cancer, for taking my grandmother before I could know her and making my mom suffer befre you took her from me!!

Holidays are a special kind of pain when you have grief like this in your heart. Sending you hugs and strength in this time. You are not alone in feeling alone when it seems everyone else has family and is of good cheer. (((hugs)))

FYC
cb

 

[Misshotndeep]

Just popping in to mark the thread for later reading.

 

[cmslt2326]

I lost my mom to breast cancer about 8 months after dad had a sudden heart attack. My maternal grandmother also died of breast cancer. Not good odds for me. So far the lumps have been benign, but I get more freaked out each time I have to go for my yearly mammograms and ultrasound. I gulove as its worse now since Christmas is coming up and it's just going to be another day for me. Nowhere to go and nothing to do since my folks are gone. So fuck you very much, cancer, for taking my grandmother before I could know her and making my mom suffer befre you took her from me!!

Wow so much loss to this nasty disease...hoping you find extended family to spend the holidays with so you are not alone...very hard time to be without your parents. Sending love and peace to you Dita999.

 

[scotluvsoral]

So it is now time for me to subscribe to the thread. Found out Tuesday I am dancing with prostate "C", too early to rate it, more tests on the way. Outlook is positive following surgery, but still too early to call.

I actually see all the C&B play I have done over the years as teaching me a lot about how this plumbing works and I don't view the procedures as "invasive", at least not yet.

I plan on looking over past posts here.

Rants and yelling may follow. I'm glad this thread is here.

I have found this thread to be a safe place to rant and rave, to cheer and share joy or to just sort of have small collapses! The people who visit here share their love and support, regardless of what you are facing! Welcome here, my positive thoughts and prayers are headed your way! FUCK YOU, CANCER!!!

 

[scotluvsoral]

Dammit! I just learned that another dear friend (and amazing artist) has succumbed after 9 years battling breast cancer, including two remissions. FUCK YOU CANCER!!!!

i HATE the losses, but I celebrate each success, even if it is only temporary! Sorry for your loss! FYC!!

 

[scotluvsoral]

I lost my mom to breast cancer about 8 months after dad had a sudden heart attack. My maternal grandmother also died of breast cancer. Not good odds for me. So far the lumps have been benign, but I get more freaked out each time I have to go for my yearly mammograms and ultrasound. I gulove as its worse now since Christmas is coming up and it's just going to be another day for me. Nowhere to go and nothing to do since my folks are gone. So fuck you very much, cancer, for taking my grandmother before I could know her and making my mom suffer befre you took her from me!!

Such great loss is so painful. My own losses are sometimes so personal that I really think of cancer as some type of evil entity and my hate for it is profound and palpable. When I am lucky, when I have found peace and a quiet center, then I am grateful for my own lucky success against cancer, and for this loving thread where i can share both my anger and my joy! I hope you find some peace during this genuinely painful time for you! FUCK YOU , CANCER!!!

 

[markFL]

I lost my wife to cancer in August of 2011. She was 56. The pain was so overwhelming that I contemplated suicide more than once. At last the terrible heartache began to subside and I realized that I had decided to go on with life. I also realized that there was no outside agency causing me to experience such grief. Indeed I was solely responsible for my emotions, and if I could cause myself such horrible pain, I had the capacity to stop it.

I still miss my wife daily, but the takeaways from this experience are: 1. Life is random 2. Never put off telling a loved one that you love them. 3. The only thing you can truly control is how you react to the circumstances you find yourself in. 4. After experiencing a terrible loss and surviving it, there is no reason to believe that you will never be happy again. In fact, given what you've been through and if you were at all introspective and honest with yourself, there is no reason to believe that a future relationship could not be better than the one you've lost.

There is hope on the other side of death for the living. And for the patient, fight the good fight but at the end, do as Tecumseh suggested: "When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.”

Cancer sucks, the treatment often sucks worse. If you are stricken, be a hero to your loved ones both by the fight you engage in and in facing the end with courage.

Remember that life is 100% fatal and there is no cure. All of us are going to experience loss at one time or another. That's a fact. Live your life from moment to moment because this may be the only one you have left.

 

[midwestyankee]

So it is now time for me to subscribe to the thread. Found out Tuesday I am dancing with prostate "C", too early to rate it, more tests on the way. Outlook is positive following surgery, but still too early to call.

I actually see all the C&B play I have done over the years as teaching me a lot about how this plumbing works and I don't view the procedures as "invasive", at least not yet.

I plan on looking over past posts here.

Rants and yelling may follow. I'm glad this thread is here.

Hang in there, my friend. My men-with-cancer support group includes three guys who were diagnosed with prostate cancer over 10 years ago and they're all in great shape these days. One had radiation, one had a minor surgical treatment, and one has done only monitoring. You'll do ok with this, you really will.

PM if you're interested in resources for researching and support and such.

 

[gypsy*seer]

There is hope on the other side of death for the living. And for the patient, fight the good fight but at the end, do as Tecumseh suggested: "When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.”

Thank you for this, markFL. It's beautifully said. Welcome.

FYC

 

[cascadiabound]

Thank you for this, markFL. It's beautifully said. Welcome.

FYC

Agreed.
Thank you MarkFL, your words and ability to come through your loss are a powerful witness.

 

[Shankara20]

Hang in there, my friend. My men-with-cancer support group includes three guys who were diagnosed with prostate cancer over 10 years ago and they're all in great shape these days. One had radiation, one had a minor surgical treatment, and one has done only monitoring. You'll do ok with this, you really will.

PM if you're interested in resources for researching and support and such.

Thanks. This waiting for test results so we can score the damn stuff and then set up a plan is slightly madding. The feeling of support from everyone is helpful.

 

[Shankara20]

Live your life from moment to moment because this may be the only one you have left.

I lost my first wife to an automobile accident in 1982, I can attest to the truth of your words.

I wish you well as you continue to deal with your loss.

 

[Shankara20]

I have found this thread to be a safe place to rant and rave, to cheer and share joy or to just sort of have small collapses! The people who visit here share their love and support, regardless of what you are facing! Welcome here, my positive thoughts and prayers are headed your way! FUCK YOU, CANCER!!!

Thank you. I have already used this place in my mind as I have drafted several Fuck You's in my mind and I go about my day. I have yet to post them, but I'm sure that day will come soon.

 

[Shankara20]

I am up to my butt in research and reading stuff that two weeks ago I would not have found interesting.

My "i want to spend my time doing this" list has been shot all to hell.

And my tendency to catastrophize now has a place to run wild...

Thank you very much Cancer and, oh ya, fuck you!

 

[gypsy*seer]

I am up to my butt in research and reading stuff that two weeks ago I would not have found interesting.

My "i want to spend my time doing this" list has been shot all to hell.

And my tendency to catastrophize now has a place to run wild...

Thank you very much Cancer and, oh ya, fuck you!

Shank - just remember that knowledge IS power - the power to treat, the power to dissect, the power advise and change. The power to HEAL! Try to focus on the positive aspect of the research, not the negative. No catastrophizing allowed! lol ( only if you need to, for a limited amount of time.. )

Love and healing to you!

FCY!!!

 

[Shankara20]

So...

from my pre/post-operation material

https://40.media.tumblr.com/60a79898ebbc5e6517f839d48ba025ff/tumblr_nzryf3aCae1u7qdbxo1_540.jpg

Fuck You Cancer...




(really, we are ready for this change, but still...)

 

[scotluvsoral]

So...

from my pre/post-operation material

https://40.media.tumblr.com/60a79898ebbc5e6517f839d48ba025ff/tumblr_nzryf3aCae1u7qdbxo1_540.jpg

Fuck You Cancer...




(really, we are ready for this change, but still...)

Pretty intimidating reading, huh? Fuck You Cancer!

 

[Shankara20]

Pretty intimidating reading, huh? Fuck You Cancer!

I think the underlined "If"drives home the point (no pun intended)

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Shankara20]

I doubt some underlined word has defined you before.

Brilliant!

Thank you of that, I need that today.

 

[midwestyankee]

So...

from my pre/post-operation material

https://40.media.tumblr.com/60a79898ebbc5e6517f839d48ba025ff/tumblr_nzryf3aCae1u7qdbxo1_540.jpg

Fuck You Cancer...




(really, we are ready for this change, but still...)

Are you absolutely certain that surgery is the only option? I know a lot of guys with a variety of forms of prostate cancer and these days the best centers are doing lots of other things besides surgery - including just close monitoring with quarterly testing and such. Do you have a second opinion?

 

[Shankara20]

Are you absolutely certain that surgery is the only option? I know a lot of guys with a variety of forms of prostate cancer and these days the best centers are doing lots of other things besides surgery - including just close monitoring with quarterly testing and such. Do you have a second opinion?

Thanks for asking. Have been reading and talking a bunch about this very issue. I am just beyond "watchful waiting" but still in most likelihood the cancer is contained in the prostate. Surgery will get it out with the lymph glands and give the Doc a look-see for signs of cancer escaping the prostate capsule. Radiation was the other viable option with no long term upside over removal. We chose removal was it seemed a bit less risky.

Surgery is scheduled for Jan 18th, but still could change my mind given new information.

and hopeful