I just ended a ten year marriage to someone I thought was the one. I loved her.
I was never unfaithful, she was not, but, she discovered she had no desire to be with men. Or anyone else for that matter.
I was her first, and before that she was with women, and neither were what she wanted.
it is not something you can fix, your orientation.
I will say this- think about growing old alone.
You can break up your marriage to this woman who loves you, and go get a random penis, attached to a man you have no feelings for.
Then what?
He is not going to want you to stay.
Good luck getting married again.
Breaking up a family and destroying the heart of the woman who loves you.
Just masturbate and enjoy porn and perhaps, get her permission to discuss the bisexual side of yourself online, just don't act on it.
She seems pretty set on wanting just you, and not sharing you.
Your choice- do you honor the vows you made to each other, or, leave her for someone who doesn't love you?
Picture yourself at age 75- you suffer a heart attack, need help.
Do you want her to be there visiting you in the hospital?
Who do you want by your side?
And think of her. She has to feel similarly.
Whatever you do, you also do to her.
Do you want her to end up alone?
If you do not love her and do not want sex with her and your marriage is over and it is a charade to continue it, better let her know before she gets too old.
You're breaking her heart either way, it is what it is.
But, if you can rescue your heart and hers, and honor your vows, the best decision you will ever make in life is to stay faithful.
If you can't do that, and it will still make you unhappy, well... at least give her a chance to find someone who loves her and will be with her.
Send her my way, in fact. I'm a kind person, I'd treat her well.
I just suffered the loss of the love of my life, we'd have a topic to comiserate over.
But yeah.
Be honest and be faithful, and if you can't do both, be honest.
