Gay fantasy versus reality

[Missmister]

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I think it depends on your partner(s) and your expectations. Most of my gay experiences

That first time with someone new can be a little awkward, if it somehow turns into a second time, it starts getting better. It helps to have a scenario in mind .
I have had some real hot sessions with some top guys, always try to go back for seconds when they use me good.

 

[vvbim]

For me, the sex was amazing the first time I felt a hard cock penetrating me. I felt euphoric like I could not believe this was actually happening to me.

Exactly what happened to me too. I got hooked at the 1st penetration I might say

 

[BillyWalrus]

Exactly what happened to me too. I got hooked at the 1st penetration I might say

Yes! I was like, WTF have I been doing all this time?

 

[drobert44]

My fantasy got real when my hunky top wanted to fuck.

 

[drobert44]

My fantasy got real when my hunky top wanted to fuck.

Of course, i loved it

 

[Lemmetri]

At the beginning of my journey when I was curious it was all fantasy. The first time I had an mm experience I knew I was NOT straight but I was not willing to admit my sexuality so I suppressed my urges. Of course many years later I could no longer resist my urges.
As I explored and had casual hookups I too found that the fantasy was often better than reality but in my case I believe it was denial more than anything that caused this feeling. I would say that I am not tremendously experienced in same sex affairs but after many years of fantasies and limited exploration I have accepted that i am bi but leaning more gay and the reality is way better than the fantasy! The reality of gay sex actually seems more natural.

 

[SuperSissy]

I have found that you achieve your fantasies only if you're willing to work at them. Just being a passive cock sucker is not going to get you what you've been fantasizing about - you have to seize the moment, and make it equal your fantasy. Tentative licks and tepid sucking are not going to make you feel like the cock-sucker whore you want to be. And depending on the other guy to fulfill your fantasy is not going to get you there either. Take the bull by the balls and make the experience what you want of it.

 

[BillyWalrus]

Take the bull by the balls and make the experience what you want of it.

That was amusing! And accurate, I might add.

 

[tristantrotsky]

At the beginning of my journey when I was curious it was all fantasy. The first time I had an mm experience I knew I was NOT straight but I was not willing to admit my sexuality so I suppressed my urges. Of course many years later I could no longer resist my urges.
As I explored and had casual hookups I too found that the fantasy was often better than reality but in my case I believe it was denial more than anything that caused this feeling. I would say that I am not tremendously experienced in same sex affairs but after many years of fantasies and limited exploration I have accepted that i am bi but leaning more gay and the reality is way better than the fantasy! The reality of gay sex actually seems more natural.

Relax, allow yourself to surrender to your body's wisdom, and simply enjoy cock as you were meant to.

 

[justmighttry]

For Bi curious guys, how would you like to lose your gay virginity? Not necessarily your
anal virginity, but your first time with a man where there's sex involved.



Would you turn to a trusted friend? Or maybe be completely anonymous, and suck off a stranger at a adult book store?

Would there be alcohol and a massage involved? (that works for me)



Would there be any kissing? Maybe you would go to a gay bath house, and rent a private room? Maybe you'd like to suck your first cock while people watch?



How do you want to lose it?



My gay virginity is long gone, and it was a bumpy ride. But I wish it had been in an MMF situation, with the woman encouraging us. Perhaps she would tempt or bribe us by saying 'you only get to fuck me after you've 69'd each other' or 'frot and kiss him, I know you'll like it' or 'show him how you like your cock sucked'



Another way I'd like to lose it would be to get seduced by a more experienced, older gay man. I'd want him to be attractive and fit. We are both attracted to each other and we flirt and flatter each other. We both know we're going to end up in bed sucking and fucking, and the air is ripe with possibilities. Perhaps he has picked me up hitch hiking, and I'm cold and wet.



(This is my 'let me get you out of those wet clothes and into a dry martini' fantasy)



He invited me to spend the night and to clean up. As I'm showering he fixes some drinks and washes my clothes. I come out of the shower, dressed only in a short robe he provided. He is dressed the same, relaxing on the couch, watching gay porn on his big screen TV. He invites me to join him, and I do. He puts one arm around me and pulls me in close with one hand and strokes himself with the other. His robe has dropped away, and I watch as he stroke the full length of his curved, cut beautiful 8" cock. He continues to stroke and I can't take my eyes off his cock. I'm filled lust, fully aroused and hard. I've never wanted anything in my life as much as I want that cock. I take one long sip from my drink, then I roll off the couch, onto my knees between his legs. He spreads his thighs to ease my access, and pulls my head to his crotch, gently but he holds me firmly. I reach out with the tip of my tongue and trace a line from his knob slowly down to his balls, which I'm caressing gently. Reaching back up to his knob I surround it with my wet lips and start sucking ever so gently, exploring every curve of it's shape.



You'll have to use your imagination from here on ... I have something I need to take care of right now



p.s. A few of the best things about hitch hiking is that you meet a lot of horny gay men. You meet them only for a short time then you never see them again. So you can play any role you want and be a total cock slut if you like, and no one else, especially no one at home, will ever know

I love women, I never been with a guy, but tried my own cum with a woman. One day, I did stray watching porn videos to a trans video. She had a small skinny cock, It got me thinking about frotting. I fantasized about grinding our shaved cocks together and cumming all over each other's cocks and we would lick each other clean. I came so hard, and of course, I licked it all up.
If it went any further, that small skinny cock wouldn't feel too bad.

 

[Bathtubbill]

I love women, I never been with a guy, but tried my own cum with a woman. One day, I did stray watching porn videos to a trans video. She had a small skinny cock, It got me thinking about frotting. I fantasized about grinding our shaved cocks together and cumming all over each other's cocks and we would lick each other clean. I came so hard, and of course, I licked it all up.
If it went any further, that small skinny cock wouldn't feel too bad.

It would feel very good

 

[justmighttry]

It would feel very good

I think it would feel amazing, especially with panties involved

 

[Chefbgrif]

I'm still somewhat new to this and this may sway a bit from the intent of the question, but this topic was one of my hold outs. "Is the fantasy greater than what the experience will be." Because once you do it, if you don't like it and regret doing it, there's no way to walk back what you did. I read stories here about people who didn't like it, and read some that loved it and they continue with it.

I have not had anal with a guy yet, my fantasy was mostly about giving a bj. For me, I feel the reality met or exceeded what I fantasized. My first time giving head was brief, but I enjoyed it and couldn't wait to do it again. My 2nd time I was able to get him to cum. Knowing how amazing it feels when I've received head, it felt amazing bringing a cock that was not mine to that same satisfaction with my mouth. He also sucked me, which was also good, but for me it was more about me doing the pleasing versus being pleased.

Hopefully someday soon I can make it a reality again. Until then, back to fantasy land

Similar experience first time. Hope I have your result when second time cums around.

 

[BriannaHope]

Nothing beats being naked with another man...real flesh....mmm

Amen brother...nothing like hot flesh on flesh and flesh in flesh...

 

[tristantrotsky]

I have found that you achieve your fantasies only if you're willing to work at them. Just being a passive cock sucker is not going to get you what you've been fantasizing about - you have to seize the moment, and make it equal your fantasy. Tentative licks and tepid sucking are not going to make you feel like the cock-sucker whore you want to be. And depending on the other guy to fulfill your fantasy is not going to get you there either. Take the bull by the balls and make the experience what you want of it.

Wise words, SuperSissy.
The cocksucker should never simply be passive... unless that is required. Sucking cock should always be a fully interactive joy for both participants.

 

[dingdongditchding]

Relax, allow yourself to surrender to your body's wisdom, and simply enjoy cock as you were meant to.

playing with a hard cock is soooooooooooooo hot. Making him cum with my dirty mouth. always swallow all the cum.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I've been with a few women in my life... All have been.. Vanilla.
I think I have to agree, I'm more of a voyer than a participant when it comes to achieving orgasms...

I also must have an emotional connection in order to achieve an orgasm, and I only had sex with female strangers.. no emotions.
(With a couple exceptions)

I love lesbian porn!!!!

 

[Treatlerite69]

Because once you do it, if you don't like it and regret doing it, there's no way to walk back what you did.

Exactly, I felt this way about an experience I had. There was a lot of shame involved, not just limited to (does 'internalised' apply here?) homophobia.

 

[BillyWalrus]

Exactly, I felt this way about an experience I had. There was a lot of shame involved, not just limited to (does 'internalised' apply here?) homophobia.

Did you want to undo what you had done? Or just resolve to never do it again?

 

[Treatlerite69]

Did you want to undo what you had done? Or just resolve to never do it again?

Both. I wished I had not done it. I felt shame. And I resolved to never do it again. Now I don't feel as firmly and desire to do it again, hoping of a better experience.