The Gentle Dom/ Daddy

[OldDogMD]

I've scanned the BDSM personals for 15 years, using several screen names. I strated looking primaritly for subs. Over the years I've developed a preference for guiding the little and the intimacy of the DD/lg relationship. I'm very selective in who I choose to contact. I've had 4 very rewarding relationships with littles I've met on lit. Two were irl, two were on line only. They lasted a year or longer. I hope to continue meeting and nurturing littles even though I'm now a Granddaddy Dom.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Question For Daddies, Doms, littles and submissives.

Have you used a BDSM personal ad before? Success? Failure?
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I'm curious as to your experiences.

I read through them, but I don't answer or post unless I want to encourage them or call them out. I'm not looking, and I make that clear.

I've never posted one, at all. I like to watch people post and get to know them in PM - first as a friend only. If there's no foundation and no connection, why bother trying out for a dynamic?

 

[Strixaluco]

I've only made an introduction on the national bdsm forum - I wasn't looking quite yet, and I found my DD quickly before I got to that point.

But the typical female experience was still the same: plenty of contacts from men who had not really read my intro or profile. And from wannabe Doms, and then 1-word messages from guys with an empty profile. These all were the bulk of the attention.
Also more messages from Doms than Daddies.

 

[DoItAgain1144]

If you know me, you know that the majority of my time has been spent on the Play Ground side. But, since my start on Lit, I have grown and evolved. I've listened closely to those who were in D/s or DD/lg dynamics. I heard the caring in the relationships. Though sometimes it isn't always sexual, this dynamic has drawn me in. I find fulfillment in the Daddy identity.

I appreciate any serious discussion, whether from Doms/Daddy's or subs/littles on this subject. What have you experienced in your relationships? What are the positives? What are the negatives?

For me, as a Dom, it’s caring and relationship first. I haven’t had the experience to start a relationship with a D/s agreement. One relationship went straight to D/s when we knew about that for us. But we were friends and lovers for a long time before we were comfortable enough to open up about it.

And it was really cool. We were connected so closely that I’ve never found anything else like that since. And in the bedroom she was my little fuck toy/slave that I could degrade and use in any way I saw fit.

But she always knew that I was doing it because I loved her. I was giving her what she needed and that gave me the freedom to take what I needed from her. And when she’s bound and a mess, we would occasionally pause, share a kiss, then it would evolve into love making for a bit. Then back into handcuffs for her.

And when we weren’t in the bedroom she was my best friend. My companion. We would hold hands and talk and be equals. We looked like any normal relationship with two people deeply in love.

Then I got stationed overseas. We tried long distance. And I ruined it.