The NEW UK Kink Thread

[Oldenburg]

Hi all how is everyone doing.. Not been on here for a while.. Hope everyone is well..

 

[Mindfondler]

See you both at LAM.

Mrs MF just spotted that the 2.00pm workshop at LAM this Sunday is on the topic of Sensation Play, including mental games ("... scenes don't have to be all about inflicting pain").

Yippee! That's my style of dominance, but I don't usually see it getting much acknowledgement.

Mrs MF and I will be doing our darndest to get seats inside that workshop. Indeed, we'd both be up for participating in demonstrations. We rarely play that way in public, as there's usually a sense that we're occupying valuable space and time at venues on something frivolous that we "could do at home". Perhaps there's a chance this weekend to address that adverse perception.
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[LucyBee01]

Mrs MF just spotted that the 2.00pm workshop at LAM this Sunday is on the topic of Sensation Play, including mental games ("... scenes don't have to be all about inflicting pain").

Yippee! That's my style of dominance, but I don't usually see it getting much acknowledgement.

Mrs MF and I will be doing our darndest to get seats inside that workshop. Indeed, we'd both be up for participating in demonstrations. We rarely play that way in public, as there's usually a sense that we're occupying valuable space and time at venues on something frivolous that we "could do at home". Perhaps there's a chance this weekend to address that adverse perception.
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I am hoping to get to that workshop too, if we manage to get there early enough. You should totally volunteer for the demonstrations; front row spectator here

Re playing that way at events - what makes you think others see it as a frivolous use of space and time? I don't see it that way. I do see it as something that more lends itself to a quieter space than some events might support, if they have loud music or there is a lot of noisy impact play going on. And I understand people wanting to use the bdsm furniture for impact play as most of us don't have the room or equipment at home, sadly!

Hmmm, maybe there could be an event more geared towards it? Or maybe there is already, but you haven't found it yet?
Maybe not a great comparison, but just thinking how the age players munch lot have just started running play events, which have elements of play you won't see much of at the more general bdsm play events.

 

[Mindfondler]

I am hoping to get to that workshop too, if we manage to get there early enough. You should totally volunteer for the demonstrations; front row spectator here

Sounds good! I certainly know which sensual buttons that I could push on Mrs MF in order to make her melt. It helps that she secretly enjoys the attention!

Re playing that way at events - what makes you think others see it as a frivolous use of space and time? I don't see it that way. I do see it as something that more lends itself to a quieter space than some events might support, if they have loud music or there is a lot of noisy impact play going on. And I understand people wanting to use the bdsm furniture for impact play as most of us don't have the room or equipment at home, sadly!

It's a bit like being in a crowded pub when you're having a friendly game on the pool table and you become aware that the local "pros" are sharpening their cues, lining up their stacks of one pound coins and making subtle "tuts" at your perceived ineptitude. They might not actually say that you're in their way, but the body language is clear.

Mrs MF and I have tried to find some space for sensual play away from the equipment at the LAM afterparty, but the basement area usually gets so crowded that it's impossible to do that without being interrupted regularly. The best that we've managed is to find ourselves a booth where we can sit down and do a bit of play together, but even that gets fraught when others turn up with drinks and want to have conversations across the table.

Hmmm, maybe there could be an event more geared towards it? Or maybe there is already, but you haven't found it yet?

We'd love to find that, if it exists!

Maybe not a great comparison, but just thinking how the age players munch lot have just started running play events, which have elements of play you won't see much of at the more general bdsm play events.

I think the first hurdle is to overcome the widespread perception that sensual play isn't "proper" BDSM play, in the sense that it doesn't involve physical pain, bruises and marks made with impressively scary-looking equipment. My sensual play tools include mundane items such as a pastry brush, cocktail sticks and fingers! The skill lies in the wielding of those humble tools and the prior setting of the psychological context.

I believe that sensual play can also be compelling viewing for an audience, and therefore doesn't have to be left at home. Whilst it might not have the pace or showiness of impact play, the connection and chemistry between sensual players can make for intense and involving drama. I'm still learning my trade, but the subtle possibilities intrigue me greatly.
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[Mindfondler]

Mrs MF just spotted that the 2.00pm workshop at LAM this Sunday is on the topic of Sensation Play, including mental games ("... scenes don't have to be all about inflicting pain").

Just to report back: the Sensation Play workshop yesterday was a triumph!

The room was packed to full capacity (fifty people) for the talk and practical demonstrations given by a lady presenter with her male subject. Over thirty minutes, the content of the workshop was lapped up by a enraptured and appreciative audience. It was pleasing for me to see so many of the familiar techniques and mind games that I've adopted with Mrs MF being introduced to so many new people — and in turn for me to assimilate new ideas and tips that I can incorporate into future play.

One of the revelations that I had during the demonstrations is that, contrary to received wisdom, sensual play can work well in a group setting (as opposed to in the peace and quiet of home). The presenter's subject was blindfolded for most of the play, and therefore unaware of what was coming next. I was sitting right next to him, and I sensed from close quarters that his anticipation was being given an extra tantalising dimension by the audible reactions from the audience as the presenter drew a succession of diverse items from her box of tricks and used them in different ways to stimulate a wide variety of sensations.

I'm hoping that this might be the start of a change (at least, in my corner of the UK) in which the more subtle art of sensual play receives its fair billing alongside the overt showiness of pure impact play.
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[tinglebliss]

Hi Everyone!

I've just joined Lit and thought it would be great to say hi to UK kinky people. I've already met quite a few of you!

What are you up to? I'm enjoying sharing my big box of Maltesers

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[tinglebliss]

Hi! How are you!?

Glad you joined!

I am snuggled with a dog not sharing my bottle of water!

I'm good thanks.

Thought it was time to join

 

[LucyBee01]

I'm good thanks.

Thought it was time to join

Are you going to share those maltesers?

Welcome tinglebliss! Have fun exploring the threads here. There are some lovely people around.

 

[tinglebliss]

Are you going to share those maltesers?

Welcome tinglebliss! Have fun exploring the threads here. There are some lovely people around.

I offered the box to Mindfondler and he took one or two. Still half left

 

[Mindfondler]

I offered the box to Mindfondler and he took one or two. Still half left

In the process, I devised a new game in which a blindfolded sub is fed maltesers rolled slowly one by one down a slanted postal tube — only some of them aren't maltesers.
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[Blue]

In the process, I devised a new game in which a blindfolded sub is fed maltesers rolled slowly one by one down a slanted postal tube — only some of them aren't maltesers.
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Then what are they?

 

[Mindfondler]

Then what are they?

Things that a sub might expect to be maltesers when they enter the tube but turn out to be something else when they reach the other end, to the amusement of the Dom. Off the top of my head, I'm thinking of grapes, cheese footballs (are they just a UK thing?) and green olives stuffed with hot chilli pepper.
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[Belle_SS]

Dropping in for a quick hello It's been a while and I miss you all!
P.S. Interesting maltesars game btw

 

[Mindfondler]

Dropping in for a quick hello It's been a while and I miss you all!
P.S. Interesting maltesars game btw

Hi Belle! We miss you too. Are we likely to see you around anytime soon (e.g. at LAM in June?).

Hope all is going well with you and Mal.
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[tinglebliss]

Dropping in for a quick hello It's been a while and I miss you all!
P.S. Interesting maltesars game btw

Hi Belle waves

 

[Belle_SS]

*waves* we're good, possibly LAM or Science Museum event next month?

 

[FloggingMolly]

Things that a sub might expect to be maltesers when they enter the tube but turn out to be something else when they reach the other end, to the amusement of the Dom. Off the top of my head, I'm thinking of grapes, cheese footballs (are they just a UK thing?) and green olives stuffed with hot chilli pepper.
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Revels. With the coffee ones if you're feeling really sadistic.

Hi from Devon btw

 

[Mindfondler]

Revels. With the coffee ones if you're feeling really sadistic.

*files away idea for future use*

Hi from Devon btw

Hi from "the smoke".
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[FloggingMolly]

I've never been to London, though hoping to in September for the day as my little boy is super obsessed with Big Ben

 

[Mindfondler]

I've never been to London, though hoping to in September for the day as my little boy is super obsessed with Big Ben

If you go to Westminster Tube station then you'll be able to look straight up at the Elizabeth Tower and hear Big Ben chime every quarter hour. You can also buy a seemingly unlimited range of Big Ben and London themed tourist tat on the nearby street corners.
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[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Mindfondler]

What's the tube made of? Would not sound or speed give a clue even a momentary one?

WD-40 is my friend.
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[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[tinglebliss]

March LAM anyone? Haven't suggested to G yet....

It would be great to see you again