The psychological aspects of being a bottom

[Radarlove500]

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[WebTraveller]

I never really wanted to try anything other than oral with a man, it just didn't seem appealing or something I would enjoy. But the subservient side kicked in and I let him try. I think the biggest turn on of the entire situation was the fact that me being a "manly" guy let another male do something that was considered taboo, wrong and "unmanly". The thrill of that is ten times better than the actual act for me.
Mental games are amazing.

 

[Riley69]

Bottom

I'm a bottom, but I don't really feel submissive when I'm being loved by another man. I've learned that I have to communicate with my lover if I'm going to allow him to fuck my ass in any position besides me on top. When I'm on top, I'm in control of how quickly he enters me and how deeply he thrusts. When I'm on my hands and knees or on my back, I'm at his mercy. Honestly, the feelings I get are just the feelings of making love and being made love to. I feel a person can be a top without being dominating and can be a bottom without being submissive.

 

[priapusone]

The psy

I agree, I never felt any desires except utter pleasure being on either end...

 

[Stephan1515]

I'm definitely a sub bottom. love a dom top taking charge, me giving him pleasure in whatever way he wants, filling me wherever.

 

[Spoogecup]

There's a profound difference between two men who enjoy each other in a sexual way and possibly other ways as well,,, Two men that come together on equal terms,,, Perhaps each is most comfortable in a certain position during sex or maybe they switch off.... AS OPPOSED TO a straight or bi man who chooses to retain a faggot for certain forms of sexual pleasure and relief... When I bottom, I don't consider myself on equal terms with the guy who always tops me.... When he offered to make me his personal faggot a few years ago, he made my purpose extremely clear... I'll never forget how he explained things to be quite graphically and made a lot of sense:... He said : "There's a reason why you instinctively drop to your knees before taking my cock in your lips and beyond.... It's called the natural order of things... As my cocksucker or my bottom bitch, the faggot assumes the submissive position by default...

 

[whiteasianlvr]

Spoogecup's comment intrigues me, "There's a reason why you instinctively drop to your knees before taking my cock....It's called the natural order of things, etc." Outside the bedroom, I'm an "equal terms" guy, but mentally and sexually, I identify with the "natural order of things." But ideally, I long for a man to not only take charge sexually but to also protect and love me making my vulnerability and submission to him something of value to us both.

 

[Spoogecup]

Spoogecup's comment intrigues me, "There's a reason why you instinctively drop to your knees before taking my cock....It's called the natural order of things, etc." Outside the bedroom, I'm an "equal terms" guy, but mentally and sexually, I identify with the "natural order of things." But ideally, I long for a man to not only take charge sexually but to also protect and love me making my vulnerability and submission to him something of value to us both.

Thanks for understanding and elaborating .... A TRUE sissy faggot will always fall into this mode when with a real man...

 

[BiDrew42]

I think it depends on my partner or partners. I never considered myself submissive in one on one sex until just a few years ago. I met a man who made me feel submissive, not by being aggressive or overpowering, but by taking charge when we had sex. It also helps that he has a truly massive cock, and is 100% a top. I've been with other men like him, but none of them ever made me feel submissive.

 

[Escierto]

I think it depends on my partner or partners. I never considered myself submissive in one on one sex until just a few years ago. I met a man who made me feel submissive, not by being aggressive or overpowering, but by taking charge when we had sex. It also helps that he has a truly massive cock, and is 100% a top. I've been with other men like him, but none of them ever made me feel submissive.

That guy reminds me of my girl. Her cock is about 7 1/2 inches so it's not massive but a pretty good size and she knows it. A couple of inches bigger than mine!

She has been a 100% top all her life and she really takes charge of the fucking. She knows what she wants and how she wants it so the best thing is to follow her directions and do what she wants. When she fucks me, I really feel like I am being FUCKED.

Even though she is pretty and feminine, when it comes to sex, she is a man and I feel as though I am a woman being fucked by her man.

 

[iwishyouwould]

Occasional bottom here, I’m not sure if I’d say I’m submissive. Could easily be from just having an aversion to authority or feeling more comfortable being in control, but even when I’m the one being fucked I’ve had trouble with partners who try to be dominant and I just can’t entertain it. It does play nicely sometimes with guys who are into bratty guys and stuff though. You can do it with subtlety I think.

 

[Sunnyade]

My regular FWB isn't very dom, so when I bottom its more of a mutual pleasure thing. With a dom top I do like to submit to him.

 

[Escierto]

My regular FWB isn't very dom, so when I bottom its more of a mutual pleasure thing. With a dom top I do like to submit to him.

What is it about your FWB that makes you say he isn't very dom?

 

[Spoogecup]

I've known from the very first time that I'm a total bottom bitch by nature and it excites me to no end that the straight guy who uses me is very aware of that... He knows I desire to submit to him and eagerly receive his stiff thick cock in both of my holes... He also knows how I feel more than a little feminine when he's inside me and I love that feeling... I absolutely love being his bitch and I melt when he calls me gurl, sissy cunt, sweet cheeks, etc. and he knows it makes me want his cock even more..

 

[Travisspank]

As an older guy who grew up when gay sex was more taboo, and a married bi-guy at that, I will admit the psychological aspects of bottoming were what drew me to it in the first place. I wanted to feel what it felt like to be on the traditional female side of sex, how it felt to be penetrated and be on the receiving end of a cock. Once I experienced it for myself, I was hooked and still feel a bit naughty and dirty when I’m with a guy but I love it. There’s also the psychological aspect of giving your body to another man for his pleasure that will always be exciting to me. In addition certain positions for me bring out different psychological responses. Doggy seems the most submissive to me. You bend over and take it, it’s almost anonymous and could feel like reluctance. On your back with legs spread or riding are very different. For me it seems like you are far more participative in those positions. You want it and are giving yourself up on your back legs spread. On top you need that cock and are more in control!

 

[cdstefi]

Recently exploring my bi side and having a lot of fun with a dildo. I had tried it years ago but didn't like it. Now it gives me explosive orgasms.

It seems being submissive and a bottom go hand in hand. I am definitely not submissive but the idea of a real live cock pumping in and out of me gets me horny as hell.

Any bottoms out there who don't feel they are submissive?

Well my favourite position to ride a cock is cowgirl, so although I'm the one being penetrated, I'm still on top and controlling the rhythm and depth (I can take a LOT in that position). Still haven't worked out if that makes me top or bottom