The psychological basis for cuckoldry

[CharlieBoker]

It’s such an interesting subject.

Getting back to the original post, I do hold some belief that there is more than a little accuracy in it.

I think that there are deep rooted primal urges responsible for a man’s arousal by cuckolding.

Perhaps it is to do with knowing one’s place in the pack and being wired emotionally and sexually to fit in with that.

The nurturer still has sex with the tribe women too, he doesn’t necessarily get bred out of existence. His genes sometimes succeed.

The nurturer has his place in the pack and is wired to please and submit to the alpha pack leaders.

 

[Carolinaguy45]

The urges can be so powerful..intense and primal. It’s so interesting to think about the foundation behind it

 

[Phatfeet]

I'm at a disadvantage because I don't know what story you're referring to. But as a general question: yes, cuckoldry certainly can be (and generally is, I suspect) an act of submission on the man's part. Sometimes to her, sometimes to the other man, sometimes to both.

I do not see cuckoldry as much as being an act of submission as it is a setting aside of the marital vows for a time.

Husband or wife, in ANY relationship, has the right to have sex to whomever they want, it is just that at one time they made a vow that should something challenge that, they would stay honorable. With cuckoldry, the husband is saying that the vow is temporarily put on hold while the wife sexually pleases another.

When you get married it is like carrying a huge bundle of sticks. Sex is but one stick, but so are houses, cars, boats, lake houses, children, investments, careers, etc. There is a LOT to marriage, and all those things can be visualized as sticks. With cuckolding the husband is just taking one stick... sex... out of the bundle and saying that aspect is not part of the marriage at this time. Or more appropriately said, there are no consequences for being with another man sexually. The other man might have sex with the wife up at the lake house, but he is not getting the lake house, just as he could have sex with her in a car or on the boat. It is where sex is done, now not suddenly his.

Some personality types better understand this stick analogy. Some fear they are losing the whole bundle of sticks if they let his wife be with another man. Other men just see he is giving one small stick of a great big bundle to another man to borrow for a few hours. In that way it is not really personality type at all, like beta or alpha, just how individuals deal with fear.

 

[liqueur]

I think that there are deep rooted primal urges responsible for a man’s arousal by cuckolding...

The nurturer has his place in the pack and is wired to please and submit to the alpha pack leaders.

Possibly true. As I said before (I think I did ) so far as I know, there's zero scientific evidence to support the idea, and I'm not even sure how one could find such evidence. At the very least, it's an idea that “breeds” many possible erotic fantasies.