The significance of "Sir" or similar

[aManHasSaid]

Not for Me

I've always preferred more casual interplay with folks so for me, "sir" is better left unsaid. Respect is there or not; you'll know soon enough. If you are dominant, take the steps to earn it or realize you're not a match and move on.

Also, since we're talking protocol, I've regarded the capitalization issue (He/she) as self-serving and promoting the wrong side of domination but I may be in the minority. I do tend to lean toward subtlety, building the relationship with deliberation rather than relying on too many "givens" to establish the sexual hierarchy.

Finally, if she's just being bratty, well, we know what to do....

 

[Badthoughtsgal]

I'm pretty new to the whole bdsm arena but the idea of calling someone sir really puts my head in the right space, for me it's a show of respect, not necessarily a sign of our appropriate roles but just something small to show him respect.

As I say I'm very new to all this so my answers may mean nothing in reality and they might change as time passes but for now that's how I feel

 

[SpunThings]

I'm pretty new to the whole bdsm arena but the idea of calling someone sir really puts my head in the right space, for me it's a show of respect, not necessarily a sign of our appropriate roles but just something small to show him respect.

As I say I'm very new to all this so my answers may mean nothing in reality and they might change as time passes but for now that's how I feel

Being new doesn't make your views on various things invalid, especially with respect to what you respond positively or negatively to.

 

[Badthoughtsgal]

Being new doesn't make your views on various things invalid, especially with respect to what you respond positively or negatively to.

Thanks.

Sorry I'm new and nervous, I don't want to talk out of turn, but yes it's safe to say the idea of calling someone sir or similar has a very positive effect on me personally