This was NOT what I meant by orgasm denial!

[FungiUg]

Mr Fung puhlease forgive me, we have chicken

Thanks. But who stole the dancing girl? And I'm not sure what canapes have to do with orgasm denial... ah well.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Thanks. But who stole the dancing girl? And I'm not sure what canapes have to do with orgasm denial... ah well.

No one's having an orgasm while busy making those, that's for sure.

Anytime

You should know, my first comment, wasn't a dare : straight face :

: stashes the spatula :

 

[FungiUg]

You should know, my first comment, wasn't a dare : straight face :

Which one? The one you muttered so we didn't hear it?

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Which one? The one you muttered so we didn't hear it?

Ummmmn, you want me to set myself up for the fall huh :sighs :

Oh no Mr Fung, speaking more to the concept of whether one could be encouraged to almost reach orgasm while preparing canapes for say, ummn , another person busy gaming .

Yes, that about covers it .

 

[FungiUg]

speaking more to the concept of whether one could be encouraged to almost reach orgasm while preparing canapes for say, ummn , another person busy gaming.

Well, of course "one" can! Particularly if she has a game controller up her butt.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Well, of course "one" can! Particularly if she has a game controller up her butt.

Joystick !

: cries :

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

Hot naked women AND video game. Works for me! Well, it would if I had a bigger computer desk.

Ah i see. That would work with me as well.

You know how to play games just with one hand?

 

[catalina_francisco]

I wish Sugared_Insomnia would post again. This thread has gone off in to several lives of its own without her at the center, or anywhere nearby. And we still don't really know where she is in terms of lifestyle.

I've appreciated the discussion, but hate to see it at her expense without the rest of the story.

Indeed, it would be nice if we could not have huge hijacks in Talk threads so the discussion flows and perhaps the OP would feel it was worth returning to discuss.

Catalina

 

[Etoile]

Indeed, it would be nice if we could not have huge hijacks in Talk threads so the discussion flows and perhaps the OP would feel it was worth returning to discuss.

Seconded. That frustrates me a lot.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Seconded. That frustrates me a lot.

We are not alone in this.

Catalina

 

[JamieB]

I think

It's pretty clear everyone has their own ideas about relationships, BDSM or otherwise. I'm more of a daddy-dom type myself, not a sadistic bone in my body. To me the sub's orgasm is (eventually) the whole idea. The fun part is controlling it, cultivating it, denying it, teasing, then releasing. That's the game for me, just to illustrate (as if it needs it) that there are a wide range of approaches to BDSM.

I will agree with others who've said you (the OP) need to communicate with your partner. Every time you don't talk to your partner about something like this, every time you try to absorb a hurt instead of saying something, it's like a drop of water in a glass, and when it fills up you're screwed. And it will fill up. DAMHIK.

My $.02 and worth every penny.

J

 

[myinnerslut]

Every time you don't talk to your partner about something like this, every time you try to absorb a hurt instead of saying something, it's like a drop of water in a glass, and when it fills up you're screwed. And it will fill up.

well said

 

[FungiUg]

Indeed, it would be nice if we could not have huge hijacks in Talk threads so the discussion flows and perhaps the OP would feel it was worth returning to discuss.

Yes, okay, somewhat guilty. However, if you look at the original posting, you'll see that this sidetrack was fairly to-the-point: that D/s can make that particular scenario fun, rather than something to whine or bitch about.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Yes, okay, somewhat guilty. However, if you look at the original posting, you'll see that this sidetrack was fairly to-the-point: that D/s can make that particular scenario fun, rather than something to whine or bitch about.

ditto

Edit to add : Cat as you know I understand & support where you are coming from with the comment in regards to hijacking Talk Section threads. I have the same angst especially so when evaluating potential thread classification for our Library. ( No a hijack won't preclude placement, not a stellar representation however ) . Perhaps I am fooling myself even considering immunity for the exchange shared with Mr Fung & RJ towards the current end of this thread. It was however a mindful exchange to express a point in a less confrontational manner. Naturally I am only speaking on my own behalf.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

Yes, okay, somewhat guilty. However, if you look at the original posting, you'll see that this sidetrack was fairly to-the-point: that D/s can make that particular scenario fun, rather than something to whine or bitch about.

True that.

I think those posts were okay (and fun too *LOL* )

 

[Greenspace]

Mind = Blown

 

[Homburg]

I'd agree with the "Yes, of course." But I think Homburg was arguing that a "top/bottom" relationship doesn't necessarily include "power dynamics" (arguable I know), but is related to BDSM.

So... to me, that IS all semantics.

Really it comes down to: if you want answers from people involved in BDSM in some fashion, then post to the BDSM area.

Essentially, yes. I'd respond to JM's post, but, honestly, this thread has wandered far beyond my ability to figure out where I was.

 

[funtobewith24]

It seems there is a lot of good advice here. You just need to figure out which advice fits the situation. I may be wrong but maybe it would help if you spiced up things up a bit. Wear sexier clothes in the evening. Talk sexier at times. Be forward and forceful. This may be a turn-on for him. I don't presume this to be a complete fix, but it may help. Actually, telling him in advance to set aside time for a conversation about this problem - may get the best results and respect from him.