This was NOT what I meant by orgasm denial!

[intothewoods]

In defense of gamers, they aren't all like that. I've dated a few and I never had that issue. I mean, geez, there's plenty of time for everything.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

In defense of gamers, they aren't all like that. I've dated a few and I never had that issue. I mean, geez, there's plenty of time for everything.

You are right, all of them are not like that. I used to be a gamer as well, but I never found a PC game more interesting than have a good sex. *LOL*

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

In defense of gamers, they aren't all like that. I've dated a few and I never had that issue. I mean, geez, there's plenty of time for everything.

LOL, this reminds me female friend of mine who used to say "damn, so much of cocks and so less of time!!"

 

[FungiUg]

I don't see the issue here as semantics, e.g., submissive vs. bottom.

The question is: Should kinky people, whose relationships do not involve overt power dynamics, post rants or questions about their relationship issues on this board?

Leaving aside the issue of whether rants in general are appropriate, my answer: Yes, of course.

I'd agree with the "Yes, of course." But I think Homburg was arguing that a "top/bottom" relationship doesn't necessarily include "power dynamics" (arguable I know), but is related to BDSM.

So... to me, that IS all semantics.

Really it comes down to: if you want answers from people involved in BDSM in some fashion, then post to the BDSM area.

 

[FungiUg]

Incidentally, now are we trying to say that if one is not a True Slave in a relationship with a True Master that one shouldn't even bother posting?

Huh? Are you reading the same thread I am?

 

[FungiUg]

5'9". Most men have to stand on a chair to overlook me. *Pouts*

Heh. 6'3".

 

[FungiUg]

Pfffffffft, typical men. *puke*

Men who consider fuking video game more interesting than a hot naked woman whos lusting for them, needs to grow the fuck up!!

Why do you think this an either/or situation?

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

Why do you think this an either/or situation?

I am not sure if I understand your question well, explain please.

 

[LilyBart]

I wish Sugared_Insomnia would post again. This thread has gone off in to several lives of its own without her at the center, or anywhere nearby. And we still don't really know where she is in terms of lifestyle.

I've appreciated the discussion, but hate to see it at her expense without the rest of the story.

 

[EmpressFi]

I wish Sugared_Insomnia would post again. This thread has gone off in to several lives of its own without her at the center, or anywhere nearby. And we still don't really know where she is in terms of lifestyle.

I've appreciated the discussion, but hate to see it at her expense without the rest of the story.

Gods, I did it again, I didn't give enough info. I posted here because he and I had been discussing orgasm denial, but we haven't yet worked out when and if we're going to use it, and I got a tad confused last night because I thought maybe he was trying to spring it on me without telling me. He's a switch and I'm mostly submissive, so he usually tops me unless we've got a particular scene worked out (I can be quite dominant sometimes).

However, we've talked about it since and he's admitted that he was just being a selfish thoughtless dickhead, and has told me that I get to choose when he goes down on me next, and that he'll do it for as long as I want.

Should it happen again I'm going to chase after him immediately and ask him what the hell is going on. My previous relationship made me a little too used to the notion that I don't get to have any say in sexual matters and I'm still training myself out of that mindset, which is why I didn't chase it up straight away last night.

*sighs* My communication skills can really suck at times, but I'm getting better!

She did post later to explain a little more into their relationship

 

[OnDisplay]

Gamers? Really Gamers?

 

[LilyBart]

She did post later to explain a little more into their relationship

Yes, I know...just not enough. I still don't understand where they are in their relationship. And there have been a ton of posts since then.

I just don't want to comment without more information.
From the posts so far, I would say they are discussing BDSM or a derivative in parts, not as a whole. No biggie there....BUT, if you are going to ask for help on a BDSM board, you should maybe have had the home conversation before spilling it it on a board. Or at least spell it out for the rest of us. I think its OK to say "I don't know if I'm doing this right."

Sugared_Insomnia...I do hope you will tell us more. There is a lot of good help here, I think, but the whole story needs to be shared first.

 

[FungiUg]

I am not sure if I understand your question well, explain please.

Hot naked women AND video game. Works for me! Well, it would if I had a bigger computer desk.

 

[RJMasters]

I say take a game controller and plug it right into her ass and have the best of both worlds....

Press to dance....I said DANCE!....lol

X X X X X X X X X X X X

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

: mutters something under her breath about Mr Fung & Mr Masters :

 

[FungiUg]

: mutters something under her breath about Mr Fung & Mr Masters :

Wot? Speak up! I can't hear you over the dancing girl with a controller up her butt!

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Wot? Speak up! I can't hear you over the dancing girl with a controller up her butt!

: laughs : Ohh nothing , I was just wondering what beverages you gentleman might enjoy while playing , yes that's it .

 

[RJMasters]

X o X

lol

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

X o X

lol

Might I suggest nonalcoholic for you.

 

[RJMasters]

Might I suggest nonalcoholic for you.

hits the reset button ;P

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

hits the reset button ;P

: laughs : I see, canapes no problem. That's a gaming platter for two

Kaffir lime and chilli crab salad on crispy won tons
Prawn rice paper rolls with lime and Vietnamese sweet chilli
Smoked rainbow trout,lemon and dill crepes with avocado and cucumber ribbons
New Orleans prawn and scallop cakes with smoked paprika aioli
Blue swimmer crab cakes topped with Chilli Thai crab salad
Mexican prawn, corn and crab fritters with avocado and tomato salsa
Baby Prawn cocktails in witloff with semi dried tomato mayonnaise
Prawn pate on rosemary crostini
Smoked Atlantic salmon on a corn cake with chive fraiche and avocado
Chilli jam marinated sea scallop, mango and avocado salsa in Chinese spoons
Prawn, coriander and vermicelli rice paper rolls with Vietnamese dipping sauce
Thai fish cakes with sweet chilli dipping sauce
Tandoori salmon fillet skewers with raita and mini papadams
Seafood risotto cakes with champagne sauce
Pacific oysters topped with wasabi infused tobiko and bonito soy dressing
Oysters in the shell with bonito soy, blue swimmer crab, mango and avocado salsa
Crab filled fried or baked zuchinni flowers

Enjoy

 

[LilyBart]

: laughs : I see, canapes no problem. That's a gaming platter for two

Kaffir lime and chilli crab salad on crispy won tons
Prawn rice paper rolls with lime and Vietnamese sweet chilli
Smoked rainbow trout,lemon and dill crepes with avocado and cucumber ribbons
New Orleans prawn and scallop cakes with smoked paprika aioli
Blue swimmer crab cakes topped with Chilli Thai crab salad
Mexican prawn, corn and crab fritters with avocado and tomato salsa
Baby Prawn cocktails in witloff with semi dried tomato mayonnaise
Prawn pate on rosemary crostini
Smoked Atlantic salmon on a corn cake with chive fraiche and avocado
Chilli jam marinated sea scallop, mango and avocado salsa in Chinese spoons
Prawn, coriander and vermicelli rice paper rolls with Vietnamese dipping sauce
Thai fish cakes with sweet chilli dipping sauce
Tandoori salmon fillet skewers with raita and mini papadams
Seafood risotto cakes with champagne sauce
Pacific oysters topped with wasabi infused tobiko and bonito soy dressing
Oysters in the shell with bonito soy, blue swimmer crab, mango and avocado salsa
Crab filled fried or baked zuchinni flowers

Enjoy

hmmmm...me thinks Rebecca likes food....

So do I.

 

[RJMasters]

: laughs : I see, canapes no problem. That's a gaming platter for two

Kaffir lime and chilli crab salad on crispy won tons
Prawn rice paper rolls with lime and Vietnamese sweet chilli
Smoked rainbow trout,lemon and dill crepes with avocado and cucumber ribbons
New Orleans prawn and scallop cakes with smoked paprika aioli
Blue swimmer crab cakes topped with Chilli Thai crab salad
Mexican prawn, corn and crab fritters with avocado and tomato salsa
Baby Prawn cocktails in witloff with semi dried tomato mayonnaise
Prawn pate on rosemary crostini
Smoked Atlantic salmon on a corn cake with chive fraiche and avocado
Chilli jam marinated sea scallop, mango and avocado salsa in Chinese spoons
Prawn, coriander and vermicelli rice paper rolls with Vietnamese dipping sauce
Thai fish cakes with sweet chilli dipping sauce
Tandoori salmon fillet skewers with raita and mini papadams
Seafood risotto cakes with champagne sauce
Pacific oysters topped with wasabi infused tobiko and bonito soy dressing
Oysters in the shell with bonito soy, blue swimmer crab, mango and avocado salsa
Crab filled fried or baked zuchinni flowers

Enjoy

lol I know no one else will get this but ....you're a brat....now go sit in the corner and smile smugly to yourself...lol

 

[LilyBart]

lol I know no one else will get this but ....you're a brat....now go sit in the corner and smile smugly to yourself...lol

I need to work on that response!

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

hmmmm...me thinks Rebecca likes food....

So do I.

I sure know enough about it, what can I say, I'm spoilt

lol I know no one else will get this but ....you're a brat....now go sit in the corner and smile smugly to yourself...lol

I know, Mr Fung doesn't eat seafood, I forgot : pained expression :

Mr Fung puhlease forgive me, we have chicken

Chicken and water chestnut mini san cho bow in butter lettuce cups
Kecap manis marinated chicken fillet rice paper rolls
Satay chicken, chives & semi dried tomato served in a warm pastry shell
Tandoori chicken on naan bread with mint, tomato, cucumber and red onion salsa. Topped with raitia, pappadam & fried mint
Thai chicken cakes with lime and sweet chilli
Malaysian satay chicken skewers with coconut and peanut satay sauce
Tandoori chicken cakes served with minted yoghurt and a red onion, mint,avocado and cucumber salsa
Asian chicken cakes served with coriander and char sui sauce
Peking duck crepes filled with avocado, duck, red cabbage, baby spinach and hibachi plum sauce
Duck & plum salad on crispy wonton with avocado, cucumber & red cabbage
Mini chicken, baby spinach and mushroom pie
Chicken, corn and ricotta mini quiche