Thought that I was totally vanilla.....

[yevkassem72]

Labels are just helpful for other people to (somewhat) know where we're coming from. For example, I identify as a switch because it's a whole lot easier to say and remember than "basically submissive, masochistic chick with a sadistic streak who sometimes likes to dish out as good as she gets." I don't identify as a dominant because, although I can get into that headspace for a period of time and enjoy it, it's not my "default" headspace.

And, FWIW, a desire for kinky play/rough sex does not a Dom or sub make.

Just a little kinky now and then, oui?

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Are not labels and status a part of this? And what would you call it? I am truly curious.

simply because you have a 'dream' in which you tie someone up, does not mean you are a Dominant nor does liking to be spanked mean you are submissive, you are what you are and only you can figure it out. no one here can tell you where you fit into the lifestyle. of course this is only my opinion, others may disagree.....and by the way i, i wouldn't call it anything but that you had a dream in which you tied someone up. a dream is a dream is a dream.....again..just my two cents

 

[yevkassem72]

simply because you have a 'dream' in which you tie someone up, does not mean you are a Dominant nor does liking to be spanked mean you are submissive, you are what you are and only you can figure it out. no one here can tell you where you fit into the lifestyle. of course this is only my opinion, others may disagree.....and by the way i, i wouldn't call it anything but that you had a dream in which you tied someone up. a dream is a dream is a dream.....again..just my two cents

Well, thank you for the input, madamoiselle. I appreciate all views on this matter.