topping from the bottom or good communication?

[lil_slave_rose]

Alright, i don't think i should have to change but i will ask my Dom if i can stop using the caps/lowercase on here. i've already been in trouble for NOT using it but we'll see what He says. Until then, i'm following the rules. i personally don't think it's THAT difficult to read. It does mean something to us and this is one of the few places that i use it because it is understood here. *tired sigh*

kailey, i was in the habit of doing the whole W/we thing for a long time but i've stopped doing that. i oo, however still use a Capitol letter when i refer to a Dom, and i use a smaller case i when i'm referring to myself. it's all out of habit. my grammar, ha, it sucks and i know it. but i figure it's a forum, not an English class. but i do think the "W/we, A/all" stuff does get irritating and hard to read sometimes....but i also think if that's the way He wants you to do it, then you should.....

 

[Jayderayn]

Good topic.. glad you posted it!

I really appreciate you posting this. I'm fairly new (just exploring for a couple of months) and my first real relationship is with Someone who is completely new to BDSM. He is basically exploring it for me... but He is a natural, I have to admit...

The issue is, of course, showing Him what I like, what I need (Him being Dom and all that entails - which can be kind of difficult with someone unexperienced) without me topping from the bottom. I DON'T want to be in charge - I want HIM to be. Like I said, He's got great instincts, but there are somethings that simply take experience. So, I'd love to hear suggestions, advice, etc from others who have BTDT.

J and i started our relationship not too long ago. W/we are both relatively new to the scene so W/we talk a lot about what is working and what isn't. i have brought up a few things about consistency in punishments and things that just aren't working for me. He appreciates it since W/we are both learning and tells me to continue bringing things up as they come about. i think it's good that W/we can communicate like this but my submissive side is saying that this isn't right. i feel like i am topping from the bottom in a way. i feel like i should just keep quiet and go with the flow.

These questions might have been asked in another thread. If so, just let me know.
What do you consider topping from the bottom?
Where is the line drawn between good communication and topping from the bottom?
Would You Dom/mes want Your subs to bring up problems at the start of a relationship?
Any other comments on this topic would be appreciated as well.

 

[myinnerslut]

Btdt?

 

[amadaun]

Btdt?

been there, done that.

 

[myinnerslut]

thanks

actually, now that i know the meaning of the post, i can say that i relate a great deal. Sir was very new to this when we started. i had never been i n aBDSM relationshp before either but i had done lots of research, and learned a lot about it before even mentioning the topic to him and in that regard i was more experienced. i also had a topping from the bottom problem in the beggining of our relationship and actually started a thread asking for advice. mabye it will help you a bit, even though i hate bringing it up becuase i am ashamed of how i acted.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=446539

 

[liberatedslave]

Yep, my Sir has less experience than me & mostly I'm good at slapping my own ass & reminding myself that I have submitted to him & he'll take his own path in his own sweet time. We talk openly about where we both want to go with things but final decisions rest with him. I'm honoured that he values my opinions & wants my input but ultimately my desire is no more than to fulfil what he needs. It's a tricky situation for us subbies & I don't always get it right by any means as I posted here before. *sigh*