FLR v Femdom

[eroticspank]

Femdom to me is basically the woman controlling the sex, if there is sex, what acts, how often, and whether the man achieves orgasm or not. In porn, written and visual, femdom is characterized as women doing just what men want them to do, torturing the man or "making" him come, and being "forced" to satisfy her the way he actually desires. The relationship may or may not involve BDSM, pain and punishment, etc. but that would be decided by the woman.

FLR would be the woman controlling basically everything, i.e. sex, financial decisions and control, etc. but it doesn't necessarily mean that the man has to be feminized, degraded or humiliated as part of the relationship. And if either of them is into the pain and punishment, spanking, etc., that reverts to a BDSM lifestyle.

This is also a good description. I would add that when the woman is in charge in the bedroom(Femdom) that some men are surprised at what direction she takes, especially if it is not in alignment with their fantasies. But that is Femdom and submitting to her desires and direction is what you do as the sub.

In a FLR it does not mean the woman has to make the most money or work at all. It just means she runs the overall show.
ES

 

[Dearelliot]

I think a FLR would work, it already does in many marriages. My wife wants me to do this and that and I do it...and she isn't lazy so she is also busy. Unfortunately, she isn't a domme. but if she was it would seem perfect.

 

[Showmewhatchugot84]

My wife is not necessarily a dominant woman. We have been exploring the FLR lifestyle. I think it's different for everyone but ours is mostly based around orgasm control. My cock is caged 24/7 and only gets released when she says. In the few short weeks of exploring I have become more helpful around the house. Taking on chores such as laundry, which she has always done for the 20 yrs we've been together. She still helps from time to time with cooking and cleaning but if she tells me to do something I do it. Usually I'm doing it before she asks. We have both also became much more affectionate towards each other. We make out pretty much daily which hasn't been much part of our life for many years. We are communicating better than ever. And of course her pleasure always comes first. We are still fairly new(coming up on a month) in the lifestyle and still trying new things and adapting to what fits our(her) needs the best.

 

[eroticspank]

My wife is not necessarily a dominant woman. We have been exploring the FLR lifestyle. I think it's different for everyone but ours is mostly based around orgasm control. My cock is caged 24/7 and only gets released when she says. In the few short weeks of exploring I have become more helpful around the house. Taking on chores such as laundry, which she has always done for the 20 yrs we've been together. She still helps from time to time with cooking and cleaning but if she tells me to do something I do it. Usually I'm doing it before she asks. We have both also became much more affectionate towards each other. We make out pretty much daily which hasn't been much part of our life for many years. We are communicating better than ever. And of course her pleasure always comes first. We are still fairly new(coming up on a month) in the lifestyle and still trying new things and adapting to what fits our(her) needs the best.

I am very happy for you both. It is wonderful that she has taken on that role for you and enjoyed it. You are living out your fantasies.

I do think because of the sex and sex play you have become closer and more intimate. I believe that is true for most couples. Regular sex is helpful for a couple's physical and emotional health. In my opinion, that can be any kind of sex, including plain vanilla. It's what works for you as a couple.
ES