Tumblr experiment

[peterthelicker]

Good for ya'll.

Off subject, but three cheers for a fellow Texan spelling ya'll the "correct way" rather than "y'all" as spellcheck and the great unwashed spell it!

 

[MatthewVett]

Let's say you saw something on your Significant Other's page that you were not on board with.

For example: Your GF had pics of a MMF, where he was pleasuring the other M, and that was a 'no go' with you.

Or, you had a BF that had a page with chains and whips, which turned you off.

How would you address that issue?

Unless like, their entire Tumblr is stuff that I vehemently oppose, I probably wouldn't care. I certainly wouldn't expect someone to be into 100% of my Tumblr. And if I first learn about it from their Tumblr, they obviously aren't pushing it in the bedroom, anyways.

 

[DallasDonna]

As long as it's not something I find morally reprehensible, I'd be okay with it. If she and I share 90% of the same kinks and fetishes, that'd be a major win. No two people are going to match 100%.

Unless like, their entire Tumblr is stuff that I vehemently oppose, I probably wouldn't care. I certainly wouldn't expect someone to be into 100% of my Tumblr. And if I first learn about it from their Tumblr, they obviously aren't pushing it in the bedroom, anyways.

Yep- agreed

 

[DallasDonna]

He's posted very young women with grey-haired men.
He's only 40.
Explain that one.

 

[MatthewVett]

He's posted very young women with grey-haired men.
He's only 40.
Explain that one.

Wishful thinking for the future?

 

[DallasDonna]

Wishful thinking for the future?

When I asked him, he rolled his eyes and said "don't analyze this to death"

Lol

He has a point

 

[LWulf]

I would probably do it with a girlfriend of mine, but I doubt they have enough porn for me to use and describe everything.
Then again, although it's "easier" it's also something that stops people from talking. The way we interrelate with each other when things are good, is how we learn how to talk to people when things go bad. I mean, will ways of dumping a person be mass amounts of hate tumbler sent to the other person?

...Is it patently obvious I'm tumblerless?

To continue... will make-ups be tumbler feeds of candies and flowers? Do they have Apps for stages of a relationship? Will meeting people be just a tumbler search of like people of like-minded tumbler feeds?

I'm a total tumbler noob. Does any of this make sense?

Donna, as to your boyfriend, he probably found a gray hair. The first time I found a gray hair, I thought "That's it! I'll be totally gray within a year!" heh

Though I'm a little confused. You wanted your boyfriend to make up a tumbler with all his wants, then showed him your thread here. However, you qualify and classify yours' as strictly fantasy. So... What is the point of showing him what you DON'T want to do, or is it, you want him to help you make you turn fantasy into reality??

My turn.
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heh

 

[MilkFountain]

After reading this article, I decided to ask my new(ish) boyfriend to set up a Tumblr account, and fill it with pics that turn him on, and that I wanted to see it.

I showed him my 'fetish' pic thread here as well.

So far, he has a fairly mainstream porn collection started, maybe with time he will add pics that will give a deeper insight into his kinky side

The writer of the article's friend said " “I like being able to see what’s going on in his head. But I could really have done without there being so much anal sex on his page. I’d chosen to believe that wasn’t something that he wanted.”

So what do you think?

Is this a good way to explore a lover's unspoken desires, or pathway to trouble?

What a great idea! I speak from the depths (and heights) of a long life. I wish this had been available to me and my wife when we were young. It might have clarified a lot of misunderstandings quicker and better. You're an intelligent, wise young lady. Thanks!

 

[Latexisland]

This sounds like a really good way of communicating fantasies to begin with. I would have used this in the early days of our relationship but never thought of it.

 

[DallasDonna]

I would probably do it with a girlfriend of mine, but I doubt they have enough porn for me to use and describe everything.
Then again, although it's "easier" it's also something that stops people from talking. The way we interrelate with each other when things are good, is how we learn how to talk to people when things go bad. I mean, will ways of dumping a person be mass amounts of hate tumbler sent to the other person?

...Is it patently obvious I'm tumblerless?

To continue... will make-ups be tumbler feeds of candies and flowers? Do they have Apps for stages of a relationship? Will meeting people be just a tumbler search of like people of like-minded tumbler feeds?

I'm a total tumbler noob. Does any of this make sense?

Donna, as to your boyfriend, he probably found a gray hair. The first time I found a gray hair, I thought "That's it! I'll be totally gray within a year!" heh

Though I'm a little confused. You wanted your boyfriend to make up a tumbler with all his wants, then showed him your thread here. However, you qualify and classify yours' as strictly fantasy. So... What is the point of showing him what you DON'T want to do, or is it, you want him to help you make you turn fantasy into reality??

My turn.
??
heh

Hey, c'mon, I said he has a point.
Don't beat me up for confessing to a bit of over analyzation...

 

[lakesailer_mi]

Let's say you saw something on your Significant Other's page that you were not on board with.

For example: Your GF had pics of a MMF, where he was pleasuring the other M, and that was a 'no go' with you.

Or, you had a BF that had a page with chains and whips, which turned you off.

How would you address that issue?

I made the mistake once of not following her lead in the bedroom.

I think sex needs to be like a good improv pairing, when one gets a role, the other needs to just follow along. (Speech competitions have a "duo improv" category) The session will only last a little while. If you don't follow, you'll totally flub it.

At the very least, an open conversation with no judgement or anything.

Also, I might keep in mind that sometimes people include things in their fantasies that they wouldn't really want to have happen quite like that.

I hope I'm not "barging" in...

 

[someguy992]

Miss J,

i love your posts on tumblr. i wish i had a woman that was into all those things.

 

[LWulf]

Hey, c'mon, I said he has a point.
Don't beat me up for confessing to a bit of over analyzation...

I wasn't beating you up. Actually I was doing my own share of over analyzing. In truth, sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, but then again, sometimes it's not.

 

[klippert]

Let's say you saw something on your Significant Other's page that you were not on board with.

For example: Your GF had pics of a MMF, where he was pleasuring the other M, and that was a 'no go' with you.

Or, you had a BF that had a page with chains and whips, which turned you off.

How would you address that issue?

the first one i'd jump on board...

the second....I just say...and I have..."Pain doesn't turn me on"..."that's why it's called Pain"

 

[Readdr]

http://impregnationfreak.tumblr.com/

This is my go-to tumblr for creampie related goodness.

I love the sensual images and compelling small stories. I guess that makes me a women now

Its updated pretty frequently. Usually in batches every week or so.

 

[MumSisterTgirlLover]

I had a Tumblr account for a while and ended up deleting it, but I have just returned (coincidently 2 days ago) to it and am building up my archive. I have a wide range of tastes and kinks, one thing I can say about my tumblr is that when used regularly, whatever and however I was turned on at times showed in a very clear pattern of posts and at other times my varied appetites would be revealed one after the other, so some head spinning going on.

It can be a useful tool with a partner, but like all tools only when used properly, in the correct circumstance. For instance I could probably have different tumblr accounts to suit different relationships and stretch their specific boundaries or introduce something random or new.

Its a shame I deleted my old account, or find this thread when I had it. but when I have been on Tumblr again for a while I will post it on here and add it to my Lit profile.

 

[MilkFountain]

How we see ourselves is who we are . . .

He's posted very young women with grey-haired men.
He's only 40.
Explain that one.

Dear Donna, I'll bet that your significant other thinks of himself as old. When people, especially children (because they are less inhibited) draw pictures, they usually reveal their inner lives, how they see themselves and others and their views of the world around them.

 

[BareBackRider2]

Sadly tumblr also need to clean house.

I find image searching the web increasingly dangerous and tumblr is usually the culprit.

Keeping in mind I'm usually searching cuckold captions, I'm seeing a worrying increase in "brother sister" or "mother and son " or "daddy" crap that borders on illegal, and has nothing to do with my search criteria. The posters have clearly used misleading search tags and I'm getting to the point of not wanting to image search any more.

Probably a good thing.

 

[policywank]

Let's say you saw something on your Significant Other's page that you were not on board with.

For example: Your GF had pics of a MMF, where he was pleasuring the other M, and that was a 'no go' with you.

Or, you had a BF that had a page with chains and whips, which turned you off.

How would you address that issue?

If you are being truly open it is almost a certainty that you will see things that you are not on board with. The key is to agree that neither party is under any compulsion to indulge the other's fantasy and make very sure that you are sincerely dedicated to being open-minded and non-judgmental.

The problem arises when you are inclined to pass judgment on your partner for what they like or think less of them. We can't know for sure how we will feel about things before we know what they are but we can take a hard look at our own biases and whether we really want to know these things about our partner. And we can cruise the internet, see what is out there and reflect on how we feel about those things or how we would feel about our partner being interested in those things.

As long as my husband knows there is no pressure to engage in same sex activity or BDSM, what is the problem? If he actually finds those things offensive or is rattled by the possibility that they might be a turn-on for me he obviously didn't give it much thought before going down this road or is pretty fucking ignorant of the possibilities.

For me personally it is a fairly simple assessment. Anything that involves mistreating or victimizing another person against their will is not acceptable. Nor is it acceptable to engage in sexual activity with anyone who by virtue of age or mental capacity is unable to provide informed consent. Otherwise any consensual activity is acceptable. If it isn't something that interests me I'll politely decline and thank him for sharing his inner most thoughts with me.

 

[DallasDonna]

I had a Tumblr account for a while and ended up deleting it, but I have just returned (coincidently 2 days ago) to it and am building up my archive. I have a wide range of tastes and kinks, one thing I can say about my tumblr is that when used regularly, whatever and however I was turned on at times showed in a very clear pattern of posts and at other times my varied appetites would be revealed one after the other, so some head spinning going on.

It can be a useful tool with a partner, but like all tools only when used properly, in the correct circumstance. For instance I could probably have different tumblr accounts to suit different relationships and stretch their specific boundaries or introduce something random or new.

Its a shame I deleted my old account, or find this thread when I had it. but when I have been on Tumblr again for a while I will post it on here and add it to my Lit profile.

Okay; would you say you filter your posts to fit a certain persona?

 

[DallasDonna]

Dear Donna, I'll bet that your significant other thinks of himself as old. When people, especially children (because they are less inhibited) draw pictures, they usually reveal their inner lives, how they see themselves and others and their views of the world around them.

He said it was just something he found arousing at the time, "don't read too much into it".

 

[Funnbrandy]

When I asked him, he rolled his eyes and said "don't analyze this to death"

Lol

He has a point

I love this idea...me and the boyfriend will send each other gifs and pictures all the time with "we should try this" or " I wanna do this to you"....but I agree you shouldn't read too much into what he puts on his tumblr....some could be fantasy with no intention of making it reality, lol

 

[sweetvalley0000]

me & my bf do this all the time. well, he looks at my naughty tumblr and then we get it onnn

 

[sweetvalley0000]

http://impregnationfreak.tumblr.com/

This is my go-to tumblr for creampie related goodness.

I love the sensual images and compelling small stories. I guess that makes me a women now

Its updated pretty frequently. Usually in batches every week or so.

hot tumblr <33

 

[MercutioStar]

hot tumblr <33

I'm loving that one. I like the idea of pregnancy risk with a step daughter... DONT TELL YOUR MOM