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BXGemini20
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Still in class, Muna? Summer class?
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Munachi said:
Oh okay. Best wishes in your classes.
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well but see, antennas are special. and exotic. more than half of the world's population has the type of bumps i have, but antennas! very few people have those. you could get on tv!ggoof said:But I personally find those bumps much more interesting than antennas.Although the antennas might be erogenous zones, too.
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Okay, are we talking about zits or Star Trek alien antennae? Cause this conversation is not going anywhere but to the Halls of Confusion. And I'm about to file it under "Pointless Crap" in my file cabinet.
So, I forgot to mention this before, but I had an ACTUAL blind date Thursday afternoon.
My step-cuz' g/f set it up. So, she, step-cuz, and I met up at the coffee shop at the same time. My date and her friend were already there inside waiting for us.
side note: I spent the entire previous night at work chewing down Rolaids like candy because I had the kind of chest pains that antacids were made for, and on the edge of hyperventilating. I never been on a date before this so gimme a break!
We get there. I'm not so nervous, just a bit shy. Michelle (cuz' g/f) sees her and her friend and I ASSUME friend's daughter, walks over to them and talks. I follow my step-cuz to the counter to look at the menu. Maybe that was a strike, I don't know. Michelle calls me over. I go over, get introduced, asked Amanda (my date) how she was. She seemed really nervous (shy). Michelle was doing some of the talking at first, and when she mentioned work, I asked Amanda what she did over there. I figured she might know a cousin of mine but for some reason I couldn't remember her name, probably because I hadn't talked to her for a long while.
I said I was going to get some coffee and if anybody wanted anything, everybody was fine. So I stood and talked to my cuz for a bit while looking at the menu some more. He says, "Dude, tell me what you want and get back over there." I had to tell him twice. lol.
I get back, and Michelle was pretty much talking, so I was trying to think of something to say, or ask her. About 5-10 min. later, her friend and the girl wanted to go look around at the pictures. She decides to go with them because, as it turns out, she was nervous to be left alone w/ me. Step-cuz and Michelle started asking me what I thought and that I should talk to her. I kept saying "I'm trying to think of something!" Finally, I had an idea and I was about to get up and go talk to her, when Michelle's kid is standing by the window and says they're leaving. I was like, "Huh?"
Apparently, they went out the side (also back) entrance and walked all the way down the end of Broadway. Michelle said she didn't see Amanda get in the car, but saw the other two driving off. She got really pissed later on.
So, for a first date, it only lasted 5 minutes and I don't even know what happened. We went over to the pizza place behind us and I started saying, "I'm sorry guys, I was nervous," but they told me it wasn't my fault. I tried to talk to her at least 4 times according to Michelle and she only gave me simple, quick answers. She said, and both my cuz and I seemed to think the same thing too, that she seemed really nervous and somewhat scared.
Before we left to walk around outside, Michelle was pissed. She thinks Amanda handled it immaturely just leaving like that. She was going to call her, but said she should see her at work TODAY, so I'll probably find out in a few days. I'm not worried about it or anything, and I sort of think she's not going to say anything to her because after we were all at her place hanging out, she kept saying "She's not good enough for you Charles. You need to get yourself a younger girl, or a black girl (she's got a fixation on me HAVE TO date a black girl)."
I also found out from Michelle, that she said Amanda told her the last guy she dated, he stopped dating her because he said she was "a bump on a log", and SHE said HE was a "bump on a log". Michelle seemed to think it was actually her that was a bump on a log considering I did try to talk to her at least 4 times. I don't know how many times, I wasn't counting.
Well, that was long explaining my 5 min. date. In the end though, we all had fun... we walked in the rain for like an hour almost. Then we hung out at her place, watched a movie and ate pizza. I dozed off a few times before step-cuz woke me up and said, "Dude, shouldn't you be getting ready to go to work." Then I left and went on w/ my day.
Oh and Michelle told me Amanda told her I was cute when she first saw me after I had walked away to get coffee.
That's the gist of it. Some fun, huh?
So, I forgot to mention this before, but I had an ACTUAL blind date Thursday afternoon.
My step-cuz' g/f set it up. So, she, step-cuz, and I met up at the coffee shop at the same time. My date and her friend were already there inside waiting for us.
side note: I spent the entire previous night at work chewing down Rolaids like candy because I had the kind of chest pains that antacids were made for, and on the edge of hyperventilating. I never been on a date before this so gimme a break!
We get there. I'm not so nervous, just a bit shy. Michelle (cuz' g/f) sees her and her friend and I ASSUME friend's daughter, walks over to them and talks. I follow my step-cuz to the counter to look at the menu. Maybe that was a strike, I don't know. Michelle calls me over. I go over, get introduced, asked Amanda (my date) how she was. She seemed really nervous (shy). Michelle was doing some of the talking at first, and when she mentioned work, I asked Amanda what she did over there. I figured she might know a cousin of mine but for some reason I couldn't remember her name, probably because I hadn't talked to her for a long while.
I said I was going to get some coffee and if anybody wanted anything, everybody was fine. So I stood and talked to my cuz for a bit while looking at the menu some more. He says, "Dude, tell me what you want and get back over there." I had to tell him twice. lol.
I get back, and Michelle was pretty much talking, so I was trying to think of something to say, or ask her. About 5-10 min. later, her friend and the girl wanted to go look around at the pictures. She decides to go with them because, as it turns out, she was nervous to be left alone w/ me. Step-cuz and Michelle started asking me what I thought and that I should talk to her. I kept saying "I'm trying to think of something!" Finally, I had an idea and I was about to get up and go talk to her, when Michelle's kid is standing by the window and says they're leaving. I was like, "Huh?"
Apparently, they went out the side (also back) entrance and walked all the way down the end of Broadway. Michelle said she didn't see Amanda get in the car, but saw the other two driving off. She got really pissed later on.
So, for a first date, it only lasted 5 minutes and I don't even know what happened. We went over to the pizza place behind us and I started saying, "I'm sorry guys, I was nervous," but they told me it wasn't my fault. I tried to talk to her at least 4 times according to Michelle and she only gave me simple, quick answers. She said, and both my cuz and I seemed to think the same thing too, that she seemed really nervous and somewhat scared.
Before we left to walk around outside, Michelle was pissed. She thinks Amanda handled it immaturely just leaving like that. She was going to call her, but said she should see her at work TODAY, so I'll probably find out in a few days. I'm not worried about it or anything, and I sort of think she's not going to say anything to her because after we were all at her place hanging out, she kept saying "She's not good enough for you Charles. You need to get yourself a younger girl, or a black girl (she's got a fixation on me HAVE TO date a black girl)."
I also found out from Michelle, that she said Amanda told her the last guy she dated, he stopped dating her because he said she was "a bump on a log", and SHE said HE was a "bump on a log". Michelle seemed to think it was actually her that was a bump on a log considering I did try to talk to her at least 4 times. I don't know how many times, I wasn't counting.
Well, that was long explaining my 5 min. date. In the end though, we all had fun... we walked in the rain for like an hour almost. Then we hung out at her place, watched a movie and ate pizza. I dozed off a few times before step-cuz woke me up and said, "Dude, shouldn't you be getting ready to go to work." Then I left and went on w/ my day.
Oh and Michelle told me Amanda told her I was cute when she first saw me after I had walked away to get coffee.
That's the gist of it. Some fun, huh?
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I've been on a few blind dates and I find that it's helpful to think of things to say before you meet someone.
So how was your day
What do you do at your job
Where did you go to school
Do you have any siblings, how many? What do they do?
Do you know of any good resturants around here?
You know...stupid things...some of those will only get you a yes/no answer is that's the type of person you're on a date with, but then you can always follow up with, "well my day was ok, I was really sorta nervous about this get together so I was choking down antacids but it seems to be going pretty good so far so I guess i had nothing to worry about." You know...things like that. And honestly, blind dates are not really meant to be group dates, first dates are awkward enough without having it be a spectator sport. If the girl isn't comfortable meeting you in a highly public place alone then she isn't worth meeting. I understand the need to protect ones self in this day and age, but it's highly unlikely you're gonna be able to kidnap her from a crowded coffee shop with multiple exits....
So how was your day
What do you do at your job
Where did you go to school
Do you have any siblings, how many? What do they do?
Do you know of any good resturants around here?
You know...stupid things...some of those will only get you a yes/no answer is that's the type of person you're on a date with, but then you can always follow up with, "well my day was ok, I was really sorta nervous about this get together so I was choking down antacids but it seems to be going pretty good so far so I guess i had nothing to worry about." You know...things like that. And honestly, blind dates are not really meant to be group dates, first dates are awkward enough without having it be a spectator sport. If the girl isn't comfortable meeting you in a highly public place alone then she isn't worth meeting. I understand the need to protect ones self in this day and age, but it's highly unlikely you're gonna be able to kidnap her from a crowded coffee shop with multiple exits....
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My Own Way said:
Do I even get points for TRYING to NOT be nervous and BE myself? Oh wells, you seem to agree with what Michelle was saying, she handled that immaturely and isn't worth my time. I don't even know who picked the place.
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HybridCrow said:
I didn't realize giving points was necessary...is there a basketball game going on that I don't know about?
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HybridCrow said:
Come on, don't be so grumpy. Why shouldn't we have a little fun (even with Star Trek antennas). It didn't look like you had more interesting stuff to tell until this post.
cool
I'm sorry about the way it turned out, though. Blind dating is a bit like lottery though. You never know what you're going to get. It is a bit more comforting if you at least have seen or spoken the person once before I find. Maybe try to ask somebody out you have met before, allthough it does take some courage to ask.
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ggoof said:
100 points just for being here? Sweet!
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Same old song and dance playing here, but you said it, I'm answering it.
I HAVE asked people that I know out. I honestly don't know why I'm rejected... maybe it's because everybody judges me too quickly. Maybe I'm not the right guy. I don't know. All I know is... I'm tired of people telling me "You should ask her out." or "You need to get laid." or asking me "Why don't you have a g/f, for a nice guy like you?"
I can't answer these questions because these so-called women are simply being what you can call "polite", but they're really being dishonest and confusing. Like for instance, I met up with a girl I knew from school I graduated with. We got to talking and I told her about my blind date. She said she was home for the summer and I had asked her if she'd like to go out while she was still home and catch up. She practically stumbled for an answer when I asked her out... so I knew she was just going to be "polite". I gave her my number, knowing she may not call me, but I try to keep an open mind, not hopes up.
Basically we live in a time, as like every other time, where everyone is quick to judge somebody based on their appearance, how they talk, how they eat, walk, whether they smoke, drink, ear piercings, or tattoos. It's just fucked up as it is.
Well... I might go lay low for a bit... l8rs!
I HAVE asked people that I know out. I honestly don't know why I'm rejected... maybe it's because everybody judges me too quickly. Maybe I'm not the right guy. I don't know. All I know is... I'm tired of people telling me "You should ask her out." or "You need to get laid." or asking me "Why don't you have a g/f, for a nice guy like you?"
I can't answer these questions because these so-called women are simply being what you can call "polite", but they're really being dishonest and confusing. Like for instance, I met up with a girl I knew from school I graduated with. We got to talking and I told her about my blind date. She said she was home for the summer and I had asked her if she'd like to go out while she was still home and catch up. She practically stumbled for an answer when I asked her out... so I knew she was just going to be "polite". I gave her my number, knowing she may not call me, but I try to keep an open mind, not hopes up.
Basically we live in a time, as like every other time, where everyone is quick to judge somebody based on their appearance, how they talk, how they eat, walk, whether they smoke, drink, ear piercings, or tattoos. It's just fucked up as it is.
Well... I might go lay low for a bit... l8rs!
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I know no one has asked my opinion on the matter, but I've been known for tossin' 'em in anyway, and today is no exception!
From all I have read here, Crow, it seems you and her may have had a bit more in common than you think.
It seems an awful lot like she (Amanda) was talked into the blind date idea by her friends. I don't think her nervousness/shyness was mainly because of you, but moreso because she didn't necessarily think she needed a date from the beginning.
You said it yourself, you are tired of people saying "You should date her", "You need to get laid", etc... It seems very likely to me that she is the same way, and I am almost certain that may be why she was there from the beginning. Her friends pulled her there.
Granted, you never gave any reason for her being there, so this is all speculation.. but if I am be right, I hope this is a little helpful for ya.
Though I am with you on some things. People in general tend to judge too quickly. I've been on the recieving end of that many times, myself.
I'm nice, so I must be boring.
I know about computers, so I must be a geek.
I'm tall, so I must play basketball.
I'm smart, so I must be a know-it-all.
I don't drive like an asshole, so I must be unadventurous.
I have red hair, so I burn in sunlight. (Okay, that one's true)
Whatever, I'm not gonna pretend to be something else, and I'm not gonna be bothered by it... neither should you. People who judge so quickly -always-, without fail, miss out on something.
From all I have read here, Crow, it seems you and her may have had a bit more in common than you think.
It seems an awful lot like she (Amanda) was talked into the blind date idea by her friends. I don't think her nervousness/shyness was mainly because of you, but moreso because she didn't necessarily think she needed a date from the beginning.
You said it yourself, you are tired of people saying "You should date her", "You need to get laid", etc... It seems very likely to me that she is the same way, and I am almost certain that may be why she was there from the beginning. Her friends pulled her there.
Granted, you never gave any reason for her being there, so this is all speculation.. but if I am be right, I hope this is a little helpful for ya.
Though I am with you on some things. People in general tend to judge too quickly. I've been on the recieving end of that many times, myself.
I'm nice, so I must be boring.
I know about computers, so I must be a geek.
I'm tall, so I must play basketball.
I'm smart, so I must be a know-it-all.
I don't drive like an asshole, so I must be unadventurous.
I have red hair, so I burn in sunlight. (Okay, that one's true)
Whatever, I'm not gonna pretend to be something else, and I'm not gonna be bothered by it... neither should you. People who judge so quickly -always-, without fail, miss out on something.
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1stClassNiceGuy said:
Well, as far as I'm aware, Michelle told Amanda about me and she was interested in me and wanted to meet. Michelle told me to call her up. So I did, and we talked for a bit, she asked me a few questions and I asked her a few questions. She seemed interested and I went ahead with it.
When I said I was tired of people saying and asking the same phrases over, I meant that I'm tired of not having the answers to those questions and comments.
Anyways, I'm going to bed... I think I may have the stomach flu or something... really bugs me.
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*reads thread*
Wow. I missed a lot in the last two days. Feel sorry for you, Crow. Looks like you and that girl were put in a awkward situation. At least you had a good time out of the deal. Thinking about birthday. It is in 11 days. I need an idea. I'll call my friends for some ideas.
Wow. I missed a lot in the last two days. Feel sorry for you, Crow. Looks like you and that girl were put in a awkward situation. At least you had a good time out of the deal. Thinking about birthday. It is in 11 days. I need an idea. I'll call my friends for some ideas.
