Want from a relationship
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Wave_Rider
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twodogs said:
Sighs, more multiple choice questions. No matter how you arrange them, for me HONESTY comes out on top. Without honesty, for me, there will be NO relationship..... A lover, has to be also a friend--the sharing of our friendship.
If I were to add a "D" it would be:
D) Trust -- Trust in ME, Trust in "US",
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I posted that honesty was important and I still believe that........
but I also believe you really need to express what your looking for as well..... I just ended a relationship and it hurts bad....I knew what I wanted but I don't think he did and he couldn't provide what I wanted.... He was sweet, romantic, gentle and kind so I do hope he finds what he is looking for....if he is all that why end it?... you might be thinking....you can cyber, maybe even have phone sex...but to have the real thing somewhere down the road and this road had no end..... Me??? Well the hurt will pass and I will find what I want...maybe not today or tomorrow but someday.....
but I also believe you really need to express what your looking for as well..... I just ended a relationship and it hurts bad....I knew what I wanted but I don't think he did and he couldn't provide what I wanted.... He was sweet, romantic, gentle and kind so I do hope he finds what he is looking for....if he is all that why end it?... you might be thinking....you can cyber, maybe even have phone sex...but to have the real thing somewhere down the road and this road had no end..... Me??? Well the hurt will pass and I will find what I want...maybe not today or tomorrow but someday.....
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Well sweetheart i see you still got that cute ass did'nt post it away thank god.
Now you will have if not already lined up for you .
But can i start the line ,of corse the line will start and end with me , yell right.
Get lonely talk to me .
Well sweetheart i see you still got that cute ass did'nt post it away thank god.
Now you will have if not already lined up for you .
But can i start the line ,of corse the line will start and end with me , yell right.
Get lonely talk to me .
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Well ive read some very good post here it looks like everyone is looking for the same thing.
Iagree all the above and more, for the ones that have been reading my post since i've been here y'all no what i want .
Impossible for me probly ,but for the rest it's out there people all you got to do is try , what have you got to loose, ones that have lost a mate well if you don't try agin then you will still be aloneand blue.
Don't go with the woulda ,shoulda coulda thing just go for it ,it's not going to come to you.
People nothing of nothing is still nothing the way i look at it .
I want a nice woman , and i don't care if she lives in ten buck two as long as i can talk to her every day tell her how much i missed her ,how much i need her , and how much want her for her not what i would want her to be .
Someone to dream about every night wake up in the morring and she is the first thing on my mind.
All through the day wanting to get on line and tell her how much i love her and how happy i'am that i got her .
never quit telling her how proud i'am of her share her excitement with her and be there to wipe away the tears if she is sad .
That's what i wan't but helping others is my calling i guess so i will give that my full attention and not worry about me .
End of want's, Thank you for the time
Well ive read some very good post here it looks like everyone is looking for the same thing.
Iagree all the above and more, for the ones that have been reading my post since i've been here y'all no what i want .
Impossible for me probly ,but for the rest it's out there people all you got to do is try , what have you got to loose, ones that have lost a mate well if you don't try agin then you will still be aloneand blue.
Don't go with the woulda ,shoulda coulda thing just go for it ,it's not going to come to you.
People nothing of nothing is still nothing the way i look at it .
I want a nice woman , and i don't care if she lives in ten buck two as long as i can talk to her every day tell her how much i missed her ,how much i need her , and how much want her for her not what i would want her to be .
Someone to dream about every night wake up in the morring and she is the first thing on my mind.
All through the day wanting to get on line and tell her how much i love her and how happy i'am that i got her .
never quit telling her how proud i'am of her share her excitement with her and be there to wipe away the tears if she is sad .
That's what i wan't but helping others is my calling i guess so i will give that my full attention and not worry about me .
End of want's, Thank you for the time
hmmmm......
Ok, here goes......
HONESTY! The first and foremost for me, If a person can do that and not get lost along the way then a relationship is bound to work! There can be nothing as so many of you have said if there is NOT that of HONESTY with each other.
Please, don't get me wrong, the rest are important too, but, so many people find it so easy to skip the HONEST part of a relationship. Then what do we have... haeartache and pain and someone always gets hurt. Ususally ends up being the person who WAS honest and not the DIShonest person. Such a shame. SOO give me......
1. Honesty
2. Friendship
3. Loyalty
4. Romance
~~~~~~ Then we can talk~~~~~~
Remember.... always ~SMILE~
Ok, here goes......
HONESTY! The first and foremost for me, If a person can do that and not get lost along the way then a relationship is bound to work! There can be nothing as so many of you have said if there is NOT that of HONESTY with each other.
Please, don't get me wrong, the rest are important too, but, so many people find it so easy to skip the HONEST part of a relationship. Then what do we have... haeartache and pain and someone always gets hurt. Ususally ends up being the person who WAS honest and not the DIShonest person. Such a shame. SOO give me......
1. Honesty
2. Friendship
3. Loyalty
4. Romance
~~~~~~ Then we can talk~~~~~~
Remember.... always ~SMILE~
twodogs
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You are so right, i just had a experence here at LIT that i wanted so bad , but i messed it up not because i was'nt honest to person, but because i was'nt honest to myself on how much i cared for them.
Well i did it to myself and i learn from my mistakes,and will not hapen agin,my heart goes out to them .
But hey here is the deal, you got a whole lot of wonderful people here that will take good care and help you to heal.
In fact i've made my goal to help others and not worry about me anymore.
So you hold your head up high ,and if it's any help i'm sure the person that hurt you noes what a loss he has ,some people can't see the forest for the trees till they are lost in the forest.
You take good care if anything i can do ,i'm not hard to find.
You are so right, i just had a experence here at LIT that i wanted so bad , but i messed it up not because i was'nt honest to person, but because i was'nt honest to myself on how much i cared for them.
Well i did it to myself and i learn from my mistakes,and will not hapen agin,my heart goes out to them .
But hey here is the deal, you got a whole lot of wonderful people here that will take good care and help you to heal.
In fact i've made my goal to help others and not worry about me anymore.
So you hold your head up high ,and if it's any help i'm sure the person that hurt you noes what a loss he has ,some people can't see the forest for the trees till they are lost in the forest.
You take good care if anything i can do ,i'm not hard to find.
*SMILES*.........thanks twodogs.... and it is amazing how much help I have received from "friends" here and in the chat room... I can never say thank you enough to them and hope that they know I am grateful for all the ears and shoulders they have lent me and I am sure there will be times that I will be here having a bad day and a hard time and will need to vent and its nice to know that there are people here willing to listen... thank you once again twodogs........
yes ..... true Richard..... I guess for me the HONESTY factor just reins so high on my list now that for me to think of something more important than that at this time.... so much pain and hurt could have NOT been if this person would have been honest with me and MOSTLY with himself.... he couldn't and so now there is more than just pain and suffering by the 2 of us.... so one day maybe I can think of other aspects of a relationship, but for now this is what holds me where I am....
artful
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~Bashful~ said:yes ..... true Richard..... I guess for me the HONESTY factor just reins so high on my list now that for me to think of something more important than that at this time.... so much pain and hurt could have NOT been if this person would have been honest with me and MOSTLY with himself.... he couldn't and so now there is more than just pain and suffering by the 2 of us.... so one day maybe I can think of other aspects of a relationship, but for now this is what holds me where I am....
artful
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What a woman!
Compassion is another requisite,...but HONESTY needs to be at the VERY top of the list.People so OFTEN settle for LESS and live a LIE all their life.I think it's SO sad!
~Bashful~ said:hmmmm......
Ok, here goes......
HONESTY! The first and foremost for me, If a person can do that and not get lost along the way then a relationship is bound to work! There can be nothing as so many of you have said if there is NOT that of HONESTY with each other.
Please, don't get me wrong, the rest are important too, but, so many people find it so easy to skip the HONEST part of a relationship. Then what do we have... haeartache and pain and someone always gets hurt. Ususally ends up being the person who WAS honest and not the DIShonest person. Such a shame. SOO give me......
1. Honesty
2. Friendship
3. Loyalty
4. Romance
~~~~~~ Then we can talk~~~~~~
Remember.... always ~SMILE~
Compassion is another requisite,...but HONESTY needs to be at the VERY top of the list.People so OFTEN settle for LESS and live a LIE all their life.I think it's SO sad!
So TRUE.......and yes so SAD..... living with someone that can never be truthful with themselves would make it a life of hell for both persons... I can only speak from my own experience recently and to be led the way that I was.... I would NEVER wish this on any person... there were so many... but I guess like they say LOVE is blind... I was blinded by the love that I had for him and let that take over me... I let him into places and told him things.. and now there is a fear that those things will become known to people that have no right knowing... so I guess I have to try and keep a shread of trust in him somehow...
Richard49
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pain
Some where on lit...atually many places I have posted how my wife and collored sub deserted me in Sept......
I know pain........
~Bashful~ said:yes ..... true Richard..... I guess for me the HONESTY factor just reins so high on my list now that for me to think of something more important than that at this time.... so much pain and hurt could have NOT been if this person would have been honest with me and MOSTLY with himself.... he couldn't and so now there is more than just pain and suffering by the 2 of us.... so one day maybe I can think of other aspects of a relationship, but for now this is what holds me where I am....
Some where on lit...atually many places I have posted how my wife and collored sub deserted me in Sept......
I know pain........
twodogs
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That's what i love to do is make people happy now days .
It helps me with the oain i have brought on people in the past.
What two dogs fuckes up ,yes people i have and beleve me i live with it everyday .
Ibeat myself up a lot but you will not see it if i can help it ,you don't see me in heart break now do you ,not that i don;t belong there and i'm there for those to .
Now i'm not putting the people down in there but i can't help them if i'm in there
That's what i love to do is make people happy now days .
It helps me with the oain i have brought on people in the past.
What two dogs fuckes up ,yes people i have and beleve me i live with it everyday .
Ibeat myself up a lot but you will not see it if i can help it ,you don't see me in heart break now do you ,not that i don;t belong there and i'm there for those to .
Now i'm not putting the people down in there but i can't help them if i'm in there
Just in chat in the lounge and we were there together and also in real life.. this wasn't just online... so yes Richard I share in that pain... and sit and wonder when the healing will really begin and when and if I will be able to go on.... I know that I will.. its just going to be a matter of time .... and sorry to hear about your wife...
(does anybody know where to find a book or something to help... to tell how to mend and how NOT to let this fool of a person fall for this again??)
(does anybody know where to find a book or something to help... to tell how to mend and how NOT to let this fool of a person fall for this again??)
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~Bashful~ said:
(does anybody know where to find a book or something to help... to tell how to mend and how NOT to let this fool of a person fall for this again??)
As long as you open your heart to another person , the possibilities of being hurt will always be there. Just an unfortunate fact that we all must deal with.
I'm sorry you were dealt such a blow. But don't stop being who you are. Go forward...maybe a little more jaded, maybe a bit more experienced. But that soul you are seeking could be the next you meet...or the next.
As for what I seek in a relationship?
All of the choices. Never experienced that so that I suspect that is why I am still looking...
I am not giving up on finding the "right" person one day.... I am just for now concentrating on the more IMPORTANT things happening in my life... I know someday someone will come along and be what I deserve and want in my life... and we will be able to spend an eternity together.... and yes your right everytime you start to let someone in or near you, you are opening your heart to more pain... and I think I have walked away with more than I had going into that relationship.... I know one thing for certain...and will keep that with me always...
twodogs
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You got the right out look on it and you will find a special person that will keep you happy , it's not the end of the world.
Remember this it's his loss not yours and i'm sure he knows that ,and if he does'nt well he is not a second thought.
You got the right out look on it and you will find a special person that will keep you happy , it's not the end of the world.
Remember this it's his loss not yours and i'm sure he knows that ,and if he does'nt well he is not a second thought.
I know what I lost.. and your right what he has lost is SO MUCH MORE than anything I have lost... one day I am certain he will regret what he has done and will want to make things right (and no not with me).... and I hope that someday "they" will be able to let him.... not for HIS benefit but for "theirs"....
twodogs
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I'm sure he has the regret the guilt pain and sad, and lonely to go with it .
Iknow from my experance that's not spelled right butwhere was i at .
From the way you sound there is a lot of hurt witch in time will turn to hate for him .
Not all of us men can see what we wanted and lost till it's to late you can't go back home if it was only that easy .
AS istarted to say on my part of being a ass hole hurt me to the bone not for me but what i did to her .
I just hope she finds a good man and she will to treat her like a queen that she is .
I will always lone her she was speical lady , but you know looking back she deserve someone much better thah me so maybe it worked out the best for her
I'm sure he has the regret the guilt pain and sad, and lonely to go with it .
Iknow from my experance that's not spelled right butwhere was i at .
From the way you sound there is a lot of hurt witch in time will turn to hate for him .
Not all of us men can see what we wanted and lost till it's to late you can't go back home if it was only that easy .
AS istarted to say on my part of being a ass hole hurt me to the bone not for me but what i did to her .
I just hope she finds a good man and she will to treat her like a queen that she is .
I will always lone her she was speical lady , but you know looking back she deserve someone much better thah me so maybe it worked out the best for her
twodogs.............
I think that we all make mistakes and that we can all be forgiven... it wil NOT be my place to forgive him..... i have posted other place on the site with you twodogs and used an unregeristed name.... and have now decided to name myself... I talked in the heartbreak hotel.... he will need to someday twodogs ask HIS CHILD for forgivness.... that will have nothing to do with me.... it will be the childs decision... and if they so choose to then that is their decision... I myself will not tell the child to do it or not to do it.... and if they choose not to then he will then suffer the rest of his sorry pitiful life... and wont know the joys and love that I have been able to share for all of those years.... so to him... yes he lost it ALL... not me... I still have MYSELF and my CHILD......
I think that we all make mistakes and that we can all be forgiven... it wil NOT be my place to forgive him..... i have posted other place on the site with you twodogs and used an unregeristed name.... and have now decided to name myself... I talked in the heartbreak hotel.... he will need to someday twodogs ask HIS CHILD for forgivness.... that will have nothing to do with me.... it will be the childs decision... and if they so choose to then that is their decision... I myself will not tell the child to do it or not to do it.... and if they choose not to then he will then suffer the rest of his sorry pitiful life... and wont know the joys and love that I have been able to share for all of those years.... so to him... yes he lost it ALL... not me... I still have MYSELF and my CHILD......
