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I will help you get this behind you ,we will not dwell on him talk about the kids or what ever .
what you want out of life ,what you want to do ,where you want to go .
I will always worry about you .
what did you mean by name yourself .
I will help you get this behind you ,we will not dwell on him talk about the kids or what ever .
what you want out of life ,what you want to do ,where you want to go .
I will always worry about you .
what did you mean by name yourself .
Thanks twodogs....
By naming myself I mean instead of being Unregerstired I am now ~Bashful~ and will continue to post here as that name and hopefully be able to help someone and get help from you all... hoping that doesnt sound too selfish....
By naming myself I mean instead of being Unregerstired I am now ~Bashful~ and will continue to post here as that name and hopefully be able to help someone and get help from you all... hoping that doesnt sound too selfish....
twodogs......
I guess a few things I need to clarify here....
First: If he was to even call me tomorrow and say he wanted to be a part of the childs life even now before it is born I would tell him YES of course... I could NEVER deny him that right...It is his child also reguardless of the circumstances between him and I.
Second: I in no way shape or form pushed him from the me or the child.... he decided to take the cowards way out and dissappear.. and cut off all communication between us....
Soooo... I sit here and yes I wonder... and hope for the childs sake one day he might come to his senses and realize that it is NOT ME that he is hurting by his actions it is HIS CHILD in turn which is suffering.... and hopefully if he never decides to be a part I can help the child deal with this and try to make up for the lose of thier father... No I can't and neither can any other man replace the childs father.......BUT..... you can bet anything I will do my BEST!
for the child.... deeper than anything I have ever felt... and will in my life I am sure......
I guess a few things I need to clarify here....
First: If he was to even call me tomorrow and say he wanted to be a part of the childs life even now before it is born I would tell him YES of course... I could NEVER deny him that right...It is his child also reguardless of the circumstances between him and I.
Second: I in no way shape or form pushed him from the me or the child.... he decided to take the cowards way out and dissappear.. and cut off all communication between us....
Soooo... I sit here and yes I wonder... and hope for the childs sake one day he might come to his senses and realize that it is NOT ME that he is hurting by his actions it is HIS CHILD in turn which is suffering.... and hopefully if he never decides to be a part I can help the child deal with this and try to make up for the lose of thier father... No I can't and neither can any other man replace the childs father.......BUT..... you can bet anything I will do my BEST!
for the child.... deeper than anything I have ever felt... and will in my life I am sure......
twodogs
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Oh iknow that the child will have lots of love ,like i said back a few post you are and will be a good mom to the child.
Your right and i can relate to this also will be a while for me to on anybody , but i won't give up looking for her every day .
Oh iknow that the child will have lots of love ,like i said back a few post you are and will be a good mom to the child.
Your right and i can relate to this also will be a while for me to on anybody , but i won't give up looking for her every day .
twodogs............
I have a child already from a previous marriage and to loose him NEVER... I can only imagen your pain.... but your right NEVER EVER give up hope of finding her and NEVER quit trying.... as I have said before..... Children are gifts given to us and we need to treat them as such and not let our selfishness or stupidity get in our way of making sure they have all that they deserve and need in life.... so I wish you the best......
and twodogs..... please dont be so hard on yourself ... I am not sure of you situation but I think you have suffered enough from the sounds of things and let yourself come back and aloow yourself to live and love and enjoy life... for that is all that we can do for ourselves and no one else is going to do that... so make sure you do that....
Make you a deal....
You do it and so will I........ We'll turn this thread around and let them see we are still LIVING and LOVING and GIVING and one day able to receive???? So what do you say????
I have a child already from a previous marriage and to loose him NEVER... I can only imagen your pain.... but your right NEVER EVER give up hope of finding her and NEVER quit trying.... as I have said before..... Children are gifts given to us and we need to treat them as such and not let our selfishness or stupidity get in our way of making sure they have all that they deserve and need in life.... so I wish you the best......
and twodogs..... please dont be so hard on yourself ... I am not sure of you situation but I think you have suffered enough from the sounds of things and let yourself come back and aloow yourself to live and love and enjoy life... for that is all that we can do for ourselves and no one else is going to do that... so make sure you do that....
Make you a deal....
You do it and so will I........ We'll turn this thread around and let them see we are still LIVING and LOVING and GIVING and one day able to receive???? So what do you say????
Been there, still doing it!
Hey Bashful...
I've been a single mom for almost 12 yrs...never married him cause he made the decision not to be there. It's been a tough row to hoe but thru support of family and friends I have survived...sometimes with very little personal time to spare. My love, time and money have been devoted to my child...unselfishly! Needless to say, life has been very lonely for me and I'm ready to live! If you ever want someone to just compare notes with I'll be glad to listen...I have big shoulders and can always use another friend to comiserate with! Take care!!
~Bashful~ said:twodogs.............
I think that we all make mistakes and that we can all be forgiven... it wil NOT be my place to forgive him..... i have posted other place on the site with you twodogs and used an unregeristed name.... and have now decided to name myself... I talked in the heartbreak hotel.... he will need to someday twodogs ask HIS CHILD for forgivness.... that will have nothing to do with me.... it will be the childs decision... and if they so choose to then that is their decision... I myself will not tell the child to do it or not to do it.... and if they choose not to then he will then suffer the rest of his sorry pitiful life... and wont know the joys and love that I have been able to share for all of those years.... so to him... yes he lost it ALL... not me... I still have MYSELF and my CHILD......
Hey Bashful...
I've been a single mom for almost 12 yrs...never married him cause he made the decision not to be there. It's been a tough row to hoe but thru support of family and friends I have survived...sometimes with very little personal time to spare. My love, time and money have been devoted to my child...unselfishly! Needless to say, life has been very lonely for me and I'm ready to live! If you ever want someone to just compare notes with I'll be glad to listen...I have big shoulders and can always use another friend to comiserate with! Take care!!
Re: good
Hey...that's what life's about! My motto is to treat people the way I want to be treated...after almost 36 yrs, it still works for me!!
twodogs said:thats super y'all can relate to a bad time that's what it's about helping each other, your a sweetheart to come forward like that .
It's good to know there are people that want to help others.
Hey...that's what life's about! My motto is to treat people the way I want to be treated...after almost 36 yrs, it still works for me!!
twodogs
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You got it sunshine i like your way of thinking ,the door is always open at two dogs , i know i'm a man and men have messed up alot of good lives in here , i'm not saying i'm not perfect by no means but i know hurt and i will always be here for y'all. if you need to yell well so be it ,just be you for you .
You got it sunshine i like your way of thinking ,the door is always open at two dogs , i know i'm a man and men have messed up alot of good lives in here , i'm not saying i'm not perfect by no means but i know hurt and i will always be here for y'all. if you need to yell well so be it ,just be you for you .
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Ahhhhh so this is where you have been hiding TD!
So good to see you off the porch TD!! Finding new porches is a good thing!
This is a great thread...mind if I add my .02 worth? I didnt think so!!
I, like so many others here, agree that excellent communication=friendship=love.
Love has many different forms, depending on the type of relationship that person is to you.
The love of a true friend is the most precious treasure, next to my family, for me.
The key to establishing a positive contact with anyone, from the clerk at the local store to a SO, is positive, effective communication.
Friendship begins the foundation for achieving a higher level with people.
Conversation is a meeting of the minds, a sharing of the souls. A good conversation will leave you with a smile on your face and a feeling that you are not alone in this world.
It is an art form few have mastered, but it is one that anyone can achieve with a modicum of effort.
Being a good communicator means that you listen twice as much as you speak.
I believe that once you master this art of communication, the rest shall follow naturally...
The love
The trust
The honesty
Etc.
Thanks for this great thread TD!!
So good to see you off the porch TD!! Finding new porches is a good thing!
This is a great thread...mind if I add my .02 worth? I didnt think so!!
I, like so many others here, agree that excellent communication=friendship=love.
Love has many different forms, depending on the type of relationship that person is to you.
The love of a true friend is the most precious treasure, next to my family, for me.
The key to establishing a positive contact with anyone, from the clerk at the local store to a SO, is positive, effective communication.
Friendship begins the foundation for achieving a higher level with people.
Conversation is a meeting of the minds, a sharing of the souls. A good conversation will leave you with a smile on your face and a feeling that you are not alone in this world.
It is an art form few have mastered, but it is one that anyone can achieve with a modicum of effort.
Being a good communicator means that you listen twice as much as you speak.
I believe that once you master this art of communication, the rest shall follow naturally...
The love
The trust
The honesty
Etc.
Thanks for this great thread TD!!
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I can Relate Too!
Bashful and TantaLiza~~~
I am also single mom. I have been for 5 years now...I have 4 kids. I can relate to the struggles but it is all worth it. I have really wonderful kids!
I am also here if you two ever need a shoulder as well!
Bashful and TantaLiza~~~
I am also single mom. I have been for 5 years now...I have 4 kids. I can relate to the struggles but it is all worth it. I have really wonderful kids!
I am also here if you two ever need a shoulder as well!
Re: I can Relate Too!
Thanks Luciousladyf....we all can use emotional support from time to time....same goes for you too!! Call me Liza and put me on your list!!
Lusciousladyf said:Bashful and TantaLiza~~~
I am also single mom. I have been for 5 years now...I have 4 kids. I can relate to the struggles but it is all worth it. I have really wonderful kids!
I am also here if you two ever need a shoulder as well!
Thanks Luciousladyf....we all can use emotional support from time to time....same goes for you too!! Call me Liza and put me on your list!!WOW!!! I am glad that we have this thread here.... tonight has been on of those nights where I am sitting here thinking ok this isnt fair that I have all of this ON ME and no one to help... I am glad to see that I am NOT alone... I love my son with my haert and nothing can compare to him and the baby that is on its way too... even though it isn't here I love this child already...
Thank you all so much... I need relief and was able to come here and find some... just to be able to talk and let it out and not have to hold it all in.. that can do more than anything else some times...
Anytime you want to talk TantaLiza... let me know... I am on line quite a bit and run into here just for a few minutes peace quite often during the day... so please yes let me know.... and thank you once again.... and thanks also Luciousladyf... it means alot to know there are others that maybe you can help and vise versa...
~~~ girring and bearing it~~~
Thank you all so much... I need relief and was able to come here and find some... just to be able to talk and let it out and not have to hold it all in.. that can do more than anything else some times...
Anytime you want to talk TantaLiza... let me know... I am on line quite a bit and run into here just for a few minutes peace quite often during the day... so please yes let me know.... and thank you once again.... and thanks also Luciousladyf... it means alot to know there are others that maybe you can help and vise versa...
~~~ girring and bearing it~~~
twodogs..................
I am holding you to that deal..... and will keep checking on you and posting and you do the same..... and by the way two dogs...*HUGS*..... takes alot of courage in my opinion to stand and speak out the way that you have....
I am holding you to that deal..... and will keep checking on you and posting and you do the same..... and by the way two dogs...*HUGS*..... takes alot of courage in my opinion to stand and speak out the way that you have....
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Thanks Liza!!
That is very sweet of you...and you may do the same and add me if you like! My email address is in my profile if you want to send me a message that way too.
And Welcome to Lit! Nice to have you here....but one warning...
It is addictive !!
That is very sweet of you...and you may do the same and add me if you like! My email address is in my profile if you want to send me a message that way too.
And Welcome to Lit! Nice to have you here....but one warning...
It is addictive !!
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Bashful~~
Lit is a wonderful place to find a lot of kind and caring people. We all need that boost and kind ear from time to time...and my door is always open to you. The same applies to you that I previously posted to Liza...feel free to add me and/or email me.
Welcome to Lit as well...so nice to have you here!
My thoughts are with you during this difficult time but I know, as TD said before, your children will be loved as you are a great mom!! Keep your chin up and continue to be strong.
Lit is a wonderful place to find a lot of kind and caring people. We all need that boost and kind ear from time to time...and my door is always open to you. The same applies to you that I previously posted to Liza...feel free to add me and/or email me.
Welcome to Lit as well...so nice to have you here!
My thoughts are with you during this difficult time but I know, as TD said before, your children will be loved as you are a great mom!! Keep your chin up and continue to be strong.
Re: Thanks Liza!!
To be honest, I'm already addicted...just wanted to be identified instead of just a guest...lol
Lusciousladyf said:That is very sweet of you...and you may do the same and add me if you like! My email address is in my profile if you want to send me a message that way too.
And Welcome to Lit! Nice to have you here....but one warning...
It is addictive !!
To be honest, I'm already addicted...just wanted to be identified instead of just a guest...lol
Lusciousladyf
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Liza...
Cool!! It is important to be recognized especially when you have much to offer others here. We are glad that you came out of the closet!
Cool!! It is important to be recognized especially when you have much to offer others here. We are glad that you came out of the closet!
....I don't wanna be a virgin anymore!!! 
