What about anal sex turns you on?

[niteshade]

in theory it turns me on...but in practice it's just too much of a mental freak out for me to enjoy.
anyone else get this? or am i just totally wierd?
feel like i'm missing out on the fun
xx

What is it that mentally freaks you out? The taboo aspects, the fear you might have an "accident," fear of the pain? Before I had actually done it, I was afraid too. In fact, after having an accident once I was loath to try it again, but I decided that I couldn't let a few squicky aspects keep me from enjoying myself.

 

[dolf]

What is it that mentally freaks you out? The taboo aspects, the fear you might have an "accident," fear of the pain? Before I had actually done it, I was afraid too. In fact, after having an accident once I was loath to try it again, but I decided that I couldn't let a few squicky aspects keep me from enjoying myself.

none of the above
i'm pavlovs dog on this one...hmm, ok, it's pointless of me to ask the question without explaining the reasons but i can't do that...
skip that question and continue
xx

 

[DVS]

none of the above
i'm pavlovs dog on this one...hmm, ok, it's pointless of me to ask the question without explaining the reasons but i can't do that...
skip that question and continue
xx

Come on, now. It's healthy to get this out of your system. Now, lay down and tell the Dr. all about it.

 

[Arles]

What is it that mentally freaks you out? The taboo aspects, the fear you might have an "accident," fear of the pain? . . .

Funny, but these sorts of reactions are a big part of why I like it.

 

[dolf]

Come on, now. It's healthy to get this out of your system. Now, lay down and tell the Dr. all about it.

not in a thread hon
xx

 

[dolf]

Come on, now. It's healthy to get this out of your system. Now, lay down and tell the Dr. all about it.

if i do lay down what exactly will you do
xx

 

[silver_inari]

in theory it turns me on...but in practice it's just too much of a mental freak out for me to enjoy.
anyone else get this? or am i just totally wierd?
feel like i'm missing out on the fun
xx

I don't think you;re the only one. It's something I'm not too keen on myself, possibly cuz it squicks me out a bit. Thisis not to say my husband and I don't, since he as the dominant can claim it anytime he wants. But it just hasn't been something that floats my boat.

Silver-inari

 

[DVS]

Some may think I'm off my rocker, but there is an art to anal sex. I won't go into that much detail about what I mean, but there are ways to get what you want with the sub going along willingly...even if they don't want to.

Trust me on this. All I can say is what I already have. But, unless someone has had a traumatic experience with anal sex, I know I can get them to try it with me. The trauma is very difficult to get past, though, because they probably trusted the person who caused the trauma.

Once a trust is broken, there is a wall that's created in a mind. And, it's sad, but some never let that wall down, ever again. Oh, I understand completely, and if they don't want to trust someone, they won't.

And, if you force someone into something they don't want to do, especially after a traumatic experience, you can seriously damage their mind for furture relationships. It's akin to physical abuse, and nobody should go there.

But, give me a "pristine" famale submissive, who has never had anal sex, and I promise I'll be the first. She might not care for it, as not everybody does, but she won't hate it, either.

No brag, just fact.

 

[DVS]

not in a thread hon
xx

you should send me a PM, then. We'll talk.

 

[DVS]

I don't think you;re the only one. It's something I'm not too keen on myself, possibly cuz it squicks me out a bit. Thisis not to say my husband and I don't, since he as the dominant can claim it anytime he wants. But it just hasn't been something that floats my boat.

Silver-inari

OK, now that's a new word. Squicks? Stress during anal sex is not good. You need to relax or you'll tense up and it will hurt. And, be sure you use enough lubrication. Too much is better than not enough.

 

[silver_inari]

OK, now that's a new word. Squicks? Stress during anal sex is not good. You need to relax or you'll tense up and it will hurt. And, be sure you use enough lubrication. Too much is better than not enough.

*giggles* Squick (verb) - to gross out..

I picked it up on a childfree board some time ago and it entered my vocab.

Believe me, when my husband goes for anal, it is a conscious effort I make to relax. A control of mind over body for me, as it is. Besides, it is something that turns him on so much it usually doesn't take too long, if you get my drift. There;s a mental kind of satisfaction, in that I've done something I'm not thrilled with for him, and it does make me feel proud, in an odd sort of way.

If that makes any kind of sense....


silver_inari

 

[Esclava]

Some may think I'm off my rocker, but there is an art to anal sex.

<snip>

But, give me a "pristine" female submissive, who has never had anal sex, and I promise I'll be the first. She might not care for it, as not everybody does, but she won't hate it, either.

No brag, just fact.

I have to agree with DVS on there being an art to anal sex. Some of the straightest men I've ever known have allowed me to finger their a$$ to orgasm. A truly exhilarating experience.

Esclava

 

[catalina_francisco]

in theory it turns me on...but in practice it's just too much of a mental freak out for me to enjoy.
anyone else get this? or am i just totally wierd?
feel like i'm missing out on the fun
xx

Maybe you just need someone to do it. I remember my first time in my mid teens and totally innocent about it....he just told me to relax and let him show me something new I would enjoy...and he was right. He was not a small guy, quite the opposite, but he took his time and knew what he was doing....shame he decided a couple of months later to run back to his family and immerse himself in the church to keep them happy.

Catalina

 

[rosco rathbone]

If I may be so bold; I'll suggest that the art, science, skill, intuition and style with which a man takes the anal cherry of a sub sets the tone for the entire body of his work as a master. Take heed, girls.

 

[Guest]

If I may be so bold; I'll suggest that the art, science, skill, intuition and style with which a man takes the anal cherry of a sub sets the tone for the entire body of his work as a master. Take heed, girls.

Brilliant.

 

[warrior queen]

If I may be so bold; I'll suggest that the art, science, skill, intuition and style with which a man takes the anal cherry of a sub sets the tone for the entire body of his work as a master. Take heed, girls.

excellent observation - but may i clarify?
not just for D/s relationships, this principle applies to all who partake in anal...
learn the good way, and it's something you'll likely get something out of (even if you're only willing to 'give' to your partner once in a while because they like it); have a bad first and the chances are you'll never want to go there again.

 

[Marquis]

It's by this same principle that I've recently resolved to start eating the pussies of the foul wenches I drag back to my lair. Being too mean too early is preventing me from acquiring repeat customers and I can't afford a turnover rate this high since I lost my job.

 

[rosco rathbone]

It's by this same principle that I've recently resolved to start eating the pussies of the foul wenches I drag back to my lair. Being too mean too early is preventing me from acquiring repeat customers and I can't afford a turnover rate this high since I lost my job.

Don't do anything you don't want to do. The ones that count will sense and respect that.

 

[FinePhilly]

Alright...alright! After reading this entire thread, I think I'm almost convinced to at least allow my better half to introduce anal play into our relationship (both giving and receiving). I know he would very much like to, and since I won't see him again until his 2 week Christmas leave (military duty ) I have plenty of time to work out what I want to do and buy appropriate toys.

He's going to be a happy man when I stuff his stocking!

 

[dolf]

Alright...alright! After reading this entire thread, I think I'm almost convinced to at least allow my better half to introduce anal play into our relationship (both giving and receiving). I know he would very much like to, and since I won't see him again until his 2 week Christmas leave (military duty ) I have plenty of time to work out what I want to do and buy appropriate toys.

He's going to be a happy man when I stuff his stocking!

pleeeeeeze report back after chrismas
xx

 

[Guest]

Alright...alright! After reading this entire thread, I think I'm almost convinced to at least allow my better half to introduce anal play into our relationship (both giving and receiving). I know he would very much like to, and since I won't see him again until his 2 week Christmas leave (military duty ) I have plenty of time to work out what I want to do and buy appropriate toys.

He's going to be a happy man when I stuff his stocking!

Good for you!

I was faced with a similar situation myself and took the *ahem* appropriate steps.

And then of course, I wrote about it.

(Not to shamelessly plug stories, but the first one describes purchasing equipment and first time use and all that. )

His Toy Story

His Toy Story 2

Good luck! And yes, we need details after Christmas!!!

 

[FinePhilly]

Good for you!

I was faced with a similar situation myself and took the *ahem* appropriate steps.

And then of course, I wrote about it.

(Not to shamelessly plug stories, but the first one describes purchasing equipment and first time use and all that. )

His Toy Story

His Toy Story 2

Good luck! And yes, we need details after Christmas!!!

I just read your "how to" anal manual. Very helpful..thanks! I'll be sure to catch your stories after the kids are in bed! I'm looking forward to giving him something he's wanted for so long. He was just home on a very short (3 day) leave this past weekend and last night I was on top of him facing backwards with my hands on his ankles when we were fucking and he was squeezing my ass and I just KNEW he wanted SO desperately to push his finger inside of me. He didn't because he knows I've always been a little freaked out by it.

Actually I think at that moment I was so turned on that I would have let him do it. If only he'd have known that! But I guess it will have to wait until Christmas. That will give me time to think things through.

I don't know what it is about me lately. I'm not sure if I have Literotica or my age to thank (I'm almost 30 and just hitting my sexual peak! LOL!) but lately I've been insatiable and considering things that I never would have before! I think he believes I'm on drugs or something....but he likes it!!! I completely wore him out this weekend!

 

[Guest]

I just read your "how to" anal manual. Very helpful..thanks! I'll be sure to catch your stories after the kids are in bed! I'm looking forward to giving him something he's wanted for so long. He was just home on a very short (3 day) leave this past weekend and last night I was on top of him facing backwards with my hands on his ankles when we were fucking and he was squeezing my ass and I just KNEW he wanted SO desperately to push his finger inside of me. He didn't because he knows I've always been a little freaked out by it.

Actually I think at that moment I was so turned on that I would have let him do it. If only he'd have known that! But I guess it will have to wait until Christmas. That will give me time to think things through.

I don't know what it is about me lately. I'm not sure if I have Literotica or my age to thank (I'm almost 30 and just hitting my sexual peak! LOL!) but lately I've been insatiable and considering things that I never would have before! I think he believes I'm on drugs or something....but he likes it!!! I completely wore him out this weekend!

Way to go! You put his ass to sleep!

I'm glad the How-To was helpful. Isn't it delicious to experiment with new and naughty things?

(Come Christmas your man will be the happiest hubbie around.)!

 

[Fraulein_S]

There are a lot of women on this board who talk about how much they love anal sex, and I was wondering what specifically about it turns you on so much? I think most women who do it enjoy the feeling, but what about the idea of anal do you like so much? I often wondered what turns me on about it and I think I have come up with some reasons:

1 It's taboo, and therefore feels naughty

2 Assholes are dumb tight (even though this is more a feeling, the idea of me penetrating something that tight is a big turn on)

3 On some level I like the idea that I am gaining pleasure from something my partner may find displeasurable.

4 Most women wouldn't let just anyone there, so there is a certain feeling of being special when I am allowed to enter a woman there. It's like a showing of trust and in some ways submission.

5 I love ass! I guess some guys are breast-men and some guys are ass-men. I am definitely belonging to the second group and it is such a turn on to bury my dick and feel it surrounded by the object of my lust.

I think it's a natural progression in a relationship. It is naughty, fun, it feels good, and I agree it is reserved for a comitted relationship.

 

[Esclava]

Anal analysis

Fraulein_s your observations about anal being naughty, fun and reserved for committed relationships are true for me as well.

However, I have found the thing that turns me on the most about anal is the amount of self control the dominant must exercise during the act so as not to "break" their submissive toy. So, as a Switch, whether I'm giving or receiving anal; for me, it is all about the exihibition of control by the dominant.

Esclava