What do you have to do when you see your Dom...

[lovetobeasub]

lovetobesub~ This is absolutely none of my business, but i have been in a similiar realtionship to the one your describing, your PYL worries me.

I am sorry if you think I am speaking out of turn, however no-one is a PYL or pyl 100% of the time.

It takes a brave and honest man to listen to you and back down when it becomes a situation that can cause you unintended harm.

For example if your nipple clamps are punishment (and I have very strong views on when sadism is and isn't punishment, there is a thread in the library if you want to look further); and the offshoot of that punishment means your nipples are so painful they are causing you problems at other times ask yourself 'was that his intention' if it was, did he tell you in advance it was a part of it or is he making it up as he goes along?
Does he know your body so well at every given moment in time that he anticipated this?
My nipples change greatly throughout the month in terms of pain limits and tenderness, I would not expect him to know when this occurs as it changes on irregular basis.
If he did not intend this, is he a man enough to admit it and is he prepared to take it slowly until your nipples have toughened up?

Its easy to be a sadist, its far more difficult to be a Dom/Master/Sir/PYL

I wish you well xx

What does PYL stand for?

Well yes he knows me rather well, My Dom is also my Husband. I believe he knows how to push me and how far. He likes to play with my mind like last night had me worried about the clamps and then didn't use them. Although they are sore they are not red and swallow which has happened once and then he didn't touch them roughly for weeks. So maybe I was making them more then it is, maybe they can take more, maybe I do complain a lot. I will just do what pleases him. I am hear to make him happy and serve him as he pleases.

 

[graceanne]

What does PYL stand for?

PYL=master, dom/me, sir, top, etc.

pyl=sub, slave, bottom, etc

 

[h_i_s]

PYL=master, dom/me, sir, top, etc.

pyl=sub, slave, bottom, etc

Exactly as graceanne explained ... and the initals "PYL" stand for "Pick Your Label".

 

[graceanne]

Exactly as graceanne explained ... and the initals "PYL" stand for "Pick Your Label".

Oops. Thank's sinn.

 

[lovetobeasub]

Thanks.