What does your sexuality NEED?

[MisterSir]

You saying you don't? You're totally missing out!

There's a voice in my head somewhere, but all it's wittering on about is "oh no, be nice to this one, she doesn't know she's opening a can of worms" and "oh look, puppies! cute adorable puppies!"

 

[CurlyKat]

There's a voice in my head somewhere, but all it's wittering on about is "oh no, be nice to this one, she doesn't know she's opening a can of worms" and "oh look, puppies! cute adorable puppies!"

Maybe YOU'RE the evil twin, then!

 

[MisterSir]

Maybe YOU'RE the evil twin, then!

Score.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Wait wait wait, take the phone and hold it.

You guys have EVIL twins?

Maybe YOU'RE the evil twin, then!

Check the mirror for a goatee, MS. It's the evil-twin dead giveaway.

http://twatgeek.com/geekfeed/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/evil_spock1237913510.jpg

 

[MisterSir]

Check the mirror for a goatee, MS. It's the evil-twin dead giveaway.

http://twatgeek.com/geekfeed/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/evil_spock1237913510.jpg

I wish. I can't even grow a beard.

Seriously. I can not shave for a week and get the same level of growth as somebody who forgets to shave one morning. Even worse, when I don't shave at length, I have a bald spot just underneath my chin, and hair doesn't seem to grow on my face rather than under it and on my neck. I'm genetically predisposed to having a neckbeard, it seems.

 

[moelucy]

http://i967.photobucket.com/albums/ae160/timmb2004/1046822305-1.jpg

 

[Bustymagoo]

It's a point of debate as to what constitute human needs, as opposed to wants. Maslow presented his theory as a pyramid, with the basic physical needs at the bottom. Only when these needs are met can higher "needs" be attained.

What if we pulled out just one of Maslow's basic needs, Sex, sat him or her down with Charlie Rose, and conducted an interview. What would Your Sexuality say are its basic needs? Its core requirements?

For mine, the answers would be intimacy, an atmosphere of exploration and creativity, and, at a fundamental level, the need to dominate in the bedroom.

How about you?

a feeling of emotional connection and trust, the urge to truely submit and be taken, along with the intimacy to know my fantasies are accepted/explored.

 

[CabbageRose]

Trust, consent and emotional connection most of all.

You can fuck anyone, but without the above mentioned a fuck is just a fuck.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I'm a rapist in dom's clothing. At bottom what I need is to triumph sexually. I'll settle for being in consensual control since I'm a law abiding citizen.

 

[Mrs.P]

I need to have my woman put her arm around me after a hard day and tell me she loves me and tomorrow will be a better day@
I've never had that...
and I crave that.

Sexually I need a woman to put her arm around me and tell me the bed is ready and the restraints are where I want them
Breathes in my ear and tells me :
she is My slut
My whore
My submissive
There to please me and bring me to orgasm ...

*sighhhhhhhhh* what he said. In reverse....well, almost.

 

[DVS]

My sexuality has all the necessary ingredients it needs except for one. A willing female. If I had a willing female, it would be like someone finally found enough plutonium for the bomb.

 

[insert____here]

my sexuality - indeed my entire being needs three things

freedom - to express my truest feelings - lust, desire, affection, apathy, love, anger, indifference, distaste, adoration...all of it, regardless of circumstance - including during sex

acceptance - my significant other to completely accept whatever it is i am feeling, without judgement

after those two have been achieved i need my significant other to take what i feel and use it in whatever way satisfies his desires. whether he chooses to return my affection, ignore my distaste and reach his orgasm, over-ride my apathy make me go somewhere he wants or let me bask in his love.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

These continue to be fascinating...

 

[Beth87]

My heirarchy of sexual needs.. Hmmn

I have things in my past that have confused my sexuality, not in an orientational way but in what my real needs are way. So I am effectively still a virgin.

I need to have trust for a healthy sexuality. I did abuse my body for a while whilst I was working through the dark stuff. I did a lot of role playing that ventured into the illegal scenario but I didn't really like it. So I know that, at least, isn't what I want.

I have a Dom who has agreed to train me and I am excited and nervous. I am not into extreme degradation. But I do feed off the punishment and reward system..a gift from my past but that doesnt bother me, I like the feeling of being a good girl too much.

Alongside trust I need to be able to express myself. I am a sub, not a doormat...some 'doms' fail to notice the difference.

What I really need is someone to keep me in line because I am oversexualised. I dont know what is appropriate, where. So I need someone to call me up on inappropriate behaviour.

This is a lot to share with strangers *blush*

 

[MisterSir]

Oh, and serious answer to the question: An outlet. That's all I need and I still can't find it.

 

[Dearelliot]

I equate sexual need to some degree with the need for food...I can not live on bread alone but with bread and water I might be able to subsist for a long time. . as for sex...i suppose locked up with no outlet, I could live a long long time without sex..so yes there is a difference when it comes to need..if you mean need for mental comfort...I want relief on occasion, which I call "baloney sandwich sex" and other times I want "Banquet sex"
My wife who is in her late 60s (as I am ) provides plenty of Baloney sandwich sex...for my sake...but when I want a banquet I go to an expensive restaurant, sort of a French chef. As for intimacy...we used to be more intimate when younger and on a rare occasion might still be intimate. But I feel she would rather make the baloney sandwich and be done rather than cook the 5 course meal, not that we do not sometimes enjoy the banquet...but much less often.

 

[miaction69]

uninhibited mutual intimacy ...definition....two people who arn't afraid or embarrassed to try out all their fantasies with each other - and mature enough to refine the ingredients between each other if need be

 

[sweetnpetite]

I need to have my woman put her arm around me after a hard day and tell me she loves me and tomorrow will be a better day@
I've never had that...
and I crave that.

Sexually I need a woman to put her arm around me and tell me the bed is ready and the restraints are where I want them
Breathes in my ear and tells me :
she is My slut
My whore
My submissive
There to please me and bring me to orgasm ...

wow to both...

hot

you deserve all of that and more.

 

[where]

my sexuality doesn't need orgasms, but it does need trust and it needs honesty (both ways, which is actually the main block to me self-actualising)

 

[HussarVanburen]

Domination.

 

[greystardust]

Release (like the feeling that washes over the entire body when pethadine is admitted)

 

[MsDeanne]

You can define it as you will....a need... compulsion... personal identity
to please..
to be cherished..
to laugh..
and cry
to serve..
to please..
to be lost
and found
to share
to be told
to obey
to plead
to beg
to fuck
and suck
to be understood....and allowed to be myself...
tender ....strong...old soul to be honored to grow with

 

[Ravenwind]

At the bottom, the absolute necessities, would be trust and willingness to forgive... all else is built upon those two.

Right above that, the "should haves, but can survive without" would be a sense of humor... an errant toe in an careless eye can either make for fun stories, or make someone walk out in rage... I prefer the former. Also, having an ounce of skill, or at very least, the willingness to learn and/or change.

At the top, "the wants", would be "knowing how to put me, and keep me, in my place".

 

[ArchLady03]

I need trust and loyalty, without those I am lost...

Trust: letting him take control, dominate and possess me in anyway he wishes... giving myself fully to him in mind and body knowing he would never let me fall so far that he couldn't pull me back up


Loyalty: to be his and only his... his whore, his slut, always his... and in return me being his only whore, his only slut...

 

[SirLeo]

For mine, the answers would be intimacy, an atmosphere of exploration and creativity, and, at a fundamental level, the need to dominate in the bedroom.

My answer is amazingly similar with the addition of being able to see in her eyes and feel in her touch and sense in her energy that she just absolutley adores me and wants to give herself to and please me. Which is exactley what I want her to see and feel from me. I am very fortunate in that 90% of the time m and I share that.