What does your sexuality NEED?

[Stella_Omega]

my sexuality doesn't need orgasms, but it does need trust and it needs honesty (both ways, which is actually the main block to me self-actualising)

Mine needs orgasms, at the most basic level. I need trust only in the context of the sex we are having, which kinda makes honesty an irrelevance when you think about it...

The rest of me needs trust and honesty. And my skin needs impact sensations.

 

[FurryFury]

Time. My sexuality needs some damn time with my S.O. *grr*

FF

 

[eastern sun]

A potent mix of fear and trust, where just as soon as one threatens to outweigh the other and tip the scales a kind of volatile balance is restored.

 

[KoPilot]

Big hands, absolute trust, and a creative outlet.

 

[Cattypuss]

Right now what my sexuality needs is about 5 days' uninterrupted, deep, dreamless sleep.

 

[switchbitch]

Hmm my WANTSare many but my NEEDS are few.
I need to manipulate or be manipulated.
I need to violate or be violated.
I need orgasm often
I need pain often
I need only to engage the sexual centres of my brain to achieve my needs

 

[Stella_Omega]

What my sexuality needs right now is a service top.

 

[Felix_Jones]

Nothing really. Considering how little of our waking time we actually spend having sex, then it doesn't really consititute that much of a need.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Nothing really. Considering how little of our waking time we actually spend having sex, then it doesn't really consititute that much of a need.

Speak for yourself.

 

[Felix_Jones]

Speak for yourself.

I did the math in my head at lunch today...figuring that we spend roughly 16 hours a day awake, what portion of time of that do people have sex? Let's say, as an extreme example that a certain hypothetical someone has sex for one hour every day. That's still less than 10% of their time. That's less than eating, less than breathing, sleeping, even plain old sitting around. I guess that's where I was coming from...as a need it ranks below just those. I'm sure there's loads of others too.

 

[switchbitch]

I did the math in my head at lunch today...figuring that we spend roughly 16 hours a day awake, what portion of time of that do people have sex? Let's say, as an extreme example that a certain hypothetical someone has sex for one hour every day. That's still less than 10% of their time. That's less than eating, less than breathing, sleeping, even plain old sitting around. I guess that's where I was coming from...as a need it ranks below just those. I'm sure there's loads of others too.

only one hour! Good grief I trust you are joking.

 

[Felix_Jones]

only one hour! Good grief I trust you are joking.

You're saying that you have sex for more than an hour per day, every day? Egads woman, when do you find time for other things? You know, like work...eating....breathing, although I imagine you don't suffocate yourself during sex.

 

[switchbitch]

You're saying that you have sex for more than an hour per day, every day? Egads woman, when do you find time for other things? You know, like work...eating....breathing, although I imagine you don't suffocate yourself during sex.

Most definitely! Not only do I indulge during work and obviously while breathing , 3 1/2 to four hours per day is devoted to the pursuit and capture of sexual gratification.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I did the math in my head at lunch today...figuring that we spend roughly 16 hours a day awake, what portion of time of that do people have sex? Let's say, as an extreme example that a certain hypothetical someone has sex for one hour every day. That's still less than 10% of their time. That's less than eating, less than breathing, sleeping, even plain old sitting around. I guess that's where I was coming from...as a need it ranks below just those. I'm sure there's loads of others too.

Well, the title of the thread is; "What does your sexuality NEED?" So, if your sexuality is apparent one hour out of twenty-four, what does it need-- in that timeframe?

 

[kimuk]

permission.
to grow.
to explore.
to develop
and not to be judged

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Well, the title of the thread is; "What does your sexuality NEED?" So, if your sexuality is apparent one hour out of twenty-four, what does it need-- in that timeframe?

And here I was thinking that a person's sexuality was ever present, if not always expressed due to those pesky things like working, and being in the checkout line at the supermarket, and on the bus and what not.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Mmmm, for me, right now, just kissing.

though that's hardly a 'just' kissing. *shivers*

 

[neci]

my body needs sleep. my sexuality went to bed a bit back. all that's left is the physical withdrawl.

 

[o_so_wet]

strength, love, tenderness, dominance

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

"kissing isn't prelude"

Hell no. Kissing is the best.

 

[neci]

oh my, kissing. yes.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Kissing, kissing is...fuck...the emotions and mental states I go through while kissing....

mmmhmmmmm I hear you.

It's better than sexin a lot of ways.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Definitely.
I think I'm really, really present when I'm kissing. I mean, I'm present during sex too, but sometimes I'm just wrapped up in sensation. But kissing, I'm really THERE>

It's just so intimate, and lovely.

 

[radepor]

As innocent as a soft spring rain or ominous as a thunderstorm

Sex is something that gets in the way most of the time...for me.

As a male, I think my testosterone levels fluctuate so that, in my married days, I could make love to my wife when she wanted even when I didn't feel like it - to - I nearly or actually did rape her when she didn't feel like it; tho, she never complained or even suggested I was too aggressive.

What an odd relationship; she knew the only thing that truly made me mad was her not being honest...and 50% honestly was about all I could handle, and she knew that to...

It's a point of debate as to what constitute human needs, as opposed to wants. Maslow presented his theory as a pyramid, with the basic physical needs at the bottom. Only when these needs are met can higher "needs" be attained.

What if we pulled out just one of Maslow's basic needs, Sex, sat him or her down with Charlie Rose, and conducted an interview. What would Your Sexuality say are its basic needs? Its core requirements?

For mine, the answers would be intimacy, an atmosphere of exploration and creativity, and, at a fundamental level, the need to dominate in the bedroom.

How about you?

 

[RJMasters]

Sex is something that gets in the way most of the time...for me.

As a male, I think my testosterone levels fluctuate so that, in my married days, I could make love to my wife when she wanted even when I didn't feel like it - to - I nearly or actually did rape her when she didn't feel like it; tho, she never complained or even suggested I was too aggressive.

What an odd relationship; she knew the only thing that truly made me mad was her not being honest...and 50% honestly was about all I could handle, and she knew that to...

I get this....yep. Nods.