What happens when Real life...

[Daddyslilpet]

MysCynthia, I love this suggestion. LOL...and my kids would believe it too that's the funny part, as I do make some of their Christmas presents.

Very inventive idea. Oh and I'm not sure I have ever said hello to you, so I am now....hello and welcome...keep up the good work of adding your voice here.

~smiles~
dixi

 

[zipman]

Well...

I think it's bound to happen. When it starts happening a lot, I try to schedule quality BDSM time, kind of make a date. I hadn't seen my gf in over week. When we got together on Wednesday night, athough I wanted a great session, I knew she didn't. We had some serious things to discuss and it wasn't the right time.

What I did was to tell her that this weekend she was in for a long session, and I was going to be doing some new things to her. She was really happy, first that I was responding to her needs as an individual first, and secondly that I was planning something very erotic for the weekend.

But I think you really have to focus on it and make the effort.

 

[MysCynthia]

MysCynthia, I love this suggestion. LOL...and my kids would believe it too that's the funny part, as I do make some of their Christmas presents.

Very inventive idea. Oh and I'm not sure I have ever said hello to you, so I am now....hello and welcome...keep up the good work of adding your voice here.

~smiles~
dixi

Thanks for the welcome dixi. I've been here forever but never had enough time to post and read too.

It took us forever to figure out that the kids will leave you alone if they think there is something in it for them.

Another suggestion is the $2 movie theater, if you are lucky enough to have one in your town and your kids are old enough to be left alone. Although hiring a teen-aged sitter to take them to the movies might not be a bad idea either.
You *reluctantly allow them to see a few movies in a row and you have an afternoon to yourself.
*If they think you want them out of the house this one always backfires.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Some might find this thread interesting....an oldie but goodie!!

Catalina

 

[FurryFury]

It is a good one. I find a need to rebuild with each contact if I'm not living with the person.

If I am living with the person I sort of keep the little things going even when I feel mostly dead inside.

Fury

 

[Netzach]

This is my real life.

Him getting me my tea, being generally considerate, keeping the mindset, getting things I tell him to get on the way home. It's not all overt.

 

[neonflux]

I mean, how could it not. I find that most of it doesn't really bother me except for my current issue of just being too damn tired to be the Dom I know I want to be.

I posted somewhere recently that we have been having more nilla sex recently than I would like. This is because I have been too tired to "scene" with her properly, and I would rather not do it at all, rather than not do it well.

I think you hit a nerve - my kink partner and I also currently resemble this remark, sigh (except on Saturday nights, LOL)

 

[catalina_francisco]

Have to say RL in the terms understood here doesn't get in the way of our BDSM, it is all relative. Sometims I feel like I would like the world to stop and let me off for a moment at least, but that is more related to life in general and classic burnout and overload. Sometims he is good at picking up on that and helping out in an empathic ways, most times he just expects me to keep going regardless. Without that consistency I get even more out of sorts.

Catalina

 

[Soumis]

As much as I hate having to sacrifice certain aspects of bdsm for my school/work life, on occassion it's neccessary...but it's not awful, least not in every way. I find that those breaks become periods of anticipation that tend to have a very positive effect when I do get to play again.