What is it about chubby women?

[human_male]

I love chubby women. Just something about them. When I see someone with a nice face, big bust, big butt, sturdy thighs and plenty around the middle... Phwoarrrrrrr, I just want to grab huge handfulls of her luscious woman flesh and just... just... Phwoarrrrrr!

 

[rcuhljr]

I just want to grab huge handfulls of her luscious woman flesh and just... just... Phwoarrrrrr!

Just had to quote that for posterity.

 

[pinkstarfish]

I'm a thin womam, but I love bigger women. I love big boobs, nice big ass, and general fluffiness. Seeing a woman jiggle as she's in pleasure is hot.

 

[LadyJeanne]

The odd thing was that I found her attractive even though she was chubby below the waist.

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Yet I haven't been able to stop thinking about her.

What's wrong with me? LOL

What's wrong with you is that you believe you should only be attracted to thin women, and now you're surprised to discover that you are attracted to someone who isn't so thin.

I can't wait to see what happens when you discover that you're attracted to someone because she's smart and funny. You might have to go into therapy to help you recover from that.

 

[Exciteher]

....it is our modern, "madison avenue" driven standard of beauty that is anomalous. In fact even in today's world, the "Western: standard of rail-thin women as desireable is an anomaly and Americans are the most anomalous of all.

Weird Harold, you are totally right-on.
I am wondering if the reason painters like Gauguin, Matisse, Boullaire, Le Moine, and writers like London, Melville, Loti, Stephenson and Michener all went to Polynesia, the Marquesas and Tahiti was the luscious women there! So abundantly feminine, sensual.. soft, rounded and full of form! Also, the natural self-acceptance and sexuality of the women these painters portrayed makes them absolutely glow.

Thank goodness there are many women in the world, and here in the USA that also glow... me thinks attraction is not so much about size and shape as it is how one feels... if one feels sexy.. it shows.

 

[taolanes]

Yet I haven't been able to stop thinking about her.

I've had that experience too. I think everyone has. You find someone so attractive that she stays in your mind for weeks. No matter how hard you try, she stays in your mind. It's totally natural.

And as far as her big ass goes, MANY people find that attractive. A black bikini with a nice fat ass sticking out of it...SOUNDS GOOD TO ME!

 

[Weird Harold]

I caught part of a VH1 Expose in the early hours of the morning while channel surfing during commercial breaks in the Tour de France coverge. What caught my attention was the title, "How Thin is Too Thin."

It was a very good analysis of the pressures that drive celebreties into various eating disorders and other dangerous obsessions about wieght. Now if they'd just show it when the people who need to see it are watching, it might do some good.

They did highlight several celebrities who are actively working to counter the "hollywood obsession with Thinness."

 

[bholderman]

Greetings,

Just a thought, the chubbiness might imply wide hips. Froma genetic/anthropological perspective, that means easy birth to babies which in turns means "very fertile." The basic reason for sex.

I'm sure a lot of us would be suprised about what subtle physical qualities may kick the "selfish gene" into overdrive.

Cheers,
Brad

 

[mrmgp]

I had a strange experience yesterday and I wonder if I'm weird or something.

I was at the pool yesterday and I saw this woman. She was about 5'8", brownish hair down to the middle of her shoulder blades, skin evenly bronzed all over, black bikini (which revealed some tan lines), tattoo on her lower back, probably in her late 30's.

The odd thing was that I found her attractive even though she was chubby below the waist. Her body was nearly perfect except for the cellulite butt peeking through the bikini bottoms. Her thighs were not huge but noticeably large.

Yet I haven't been able to stop thinking about her.

What's wrong with me? LOL

Maybe you are starting to mature and realize that not all women have letter perfect bodies, and yet they can still be beautiful in their own way.

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

What is wrong with you, you ask. I agree with the opinion of others who have previously posted, absolutely nothing.

The only thing that I can see as wrong is the you seem embarrassed to be attracted to a "chubby woman".

I am in no way offended, as I have grown to be comfortable and love each inch of my chubby body, but you make it sound as if she had two heads rather than thick thighs and some cellulite.

 

[wicked woman]

oh god man! Ever seen a Boticelli woman? She's got breasts and a waist ( not tiny but well proportioned) and wide hips...with an ass attached. She's a woman! I know a woman exactly like this and 'attracted to her' is an understatement. She's exquisite.

That's not to say there aren't a number of shapes that us women come in that are attractive...I also know of an extremely erotic woman who is slim, leggy, with a little more than a hint of breasts...that also excites the hell out of me.

Not quite sure why you're surprised you're attracted to someone that isn't society's notion of model perfect. Just be glad that your appreciation for women is expanding.

 

[DarkLover]

Thanks for all the feedback, everybody.

I didn't mean to come off like a superficial kind of guy who thinks the only attractive woman looks like a modern supermodel. If I had thought a little more before I posted, I would have remembered I have had crushes on other "chubby" women in the past. There was a girl in high school I had a crush on but never dated. And my wife's aunt, who is in her early 40's, is chubby too, but even my wife agrees with me that she is sexy.

I didn't mean to suggest that it's wrong to be attracted to someone who doesn't fit the current social ideal.

 

[Eilan]

Just a thought, the chubbiness might imply wide hips. Froma genetic/anthropological perspective, that means easy birth to babies which in turns means "very fertile." The basic reason for sex.

Good point, but when it comes to childbirth, it's not necessarily about the wideness of the hips, but about the size of the part of the pelvis that the baby has to pass through. It's quite possible for a smaller woman to have a pelvis that's more suited for giving birth than that of a larger woman. It's more about a woman's build/bone structure than presence (or absence) of body fat.

But, yeah, there's a way in which men are attracted to women who might look to them like good "breeding stock" (sorry about being crude).

 

[silverwhisper]

eilan quoth
i think that some of it has to do with how people "project" or "carry" themselves, if that makes any sense. and it's not necessarily a size issue, unless the beholder can't get beyond the person's size.

well said, eilan. after all, i find queen latifah incredibly attractive, and she's clearly a plus-sized woman.

darklover: heh...that happens now & again when one posts something. it's frustrating to have that happen.

ed

 

[SweetErika]

Thanks for all the feedback, everybody.

I didn't mean to come off like a superficial kind of guy who thinks the only attractive woman looks like a modern supermodel. If I had thought a little more before I posted, I would have remembered I have had crushes on other "chubby" women in the past. There was a girl in high school I had a crush on but never dated. And my wife's aunt, who is in her early 40's, is chubby too, but even my wife agrees with me that she is sexy.

I didn't mean to suggest that it's wrong to be attracted to someone who doesn't fit the current social ideal.

Maybe it'd be helpful to stop looking at them as a certain body type, and just start viewing them as attractive women, period.

 

[dragon_gurl]

Modeling

I might resent that comment about the French...

And I don't know what is it with voluptuous women either, but I do find them highly attractive. A model-thin woman catches my eye, but I would too afraid to hold her tight; I feel she might break.

And am I the only one who think that perception of the female body has been difformed? Like a size 10 is now considered full figured? - I watched a show called America's Next Top Model, and there was this gorgeous girl who everybody else thought was 'fat'; they weighed her and I forgot how much she weighed, but it was very normal, and even in the low part of normal and the other girls were saying 'oh I hope she doesn't feel self conscious of her size because she's beautiful' implying 'she's fat but she shouldn't feel bad about it' It irritates me.

Yeah in te modeling world anything aobve a 4 is 'fat'. perception of What is attractive has become very skewed. Anyone remeber Betty page?

 

[DarkLover]

Maybe it'd be helpful to stop looking at them as a certain body type, and just start viewing them as attractive women, period.

I don't disagree with you, Erika. It just struck me as ironic that as I admired this woman and sized up all the things about her that attracted me, the fact that she had a fat butt didn't detract from her appeal.

 

[bholderman]

Good point, but when it comes to childbirth, it's not necessarily about the wideness of the hips, but about the size of the part of the pelvis that the baby has to pass through. It's quite possible for a smaller woman to have a pelvis that's more suited for giving birth than that of a larger woman. It's more about a woman's build/bone structure than presence (or absence) of body fat.

But, yeah, there's a way in which men are attracted to women who might look to them like good "breeding stock" (sorry about being crude).

Maybe not crude, but blunt. That's nature. Most things along the trail of life are designed for survival and breeding, that's why sex feels good in order to encourage us to have it as frequesntly (i.e. make more babies) as possible.

Humans, obviously have taken sex (along with almost everything else) to a different level. But it still feels good.

Cheers,
Brad

 

[bholderman]

well said, eilan. after all, i find queen latifah incredibly attractive, and she's clearly a plus-sized woman.

darklover: heh...that happens now & again when one posts something. it's frustrating to have that happen.

ed

One of those Supermodel reality shows had a plus sized black woman, she was gorgeous.

Cheers,
Brad

 

[Cathleen]

For me its all about health. Size is not important but looking healthy is the first thing ill notice.

Frank I mean no disrespect, it's just you hit on something I've wanted to ask others about and you gave me an opening I couldn't resist (although I tried mightily to resist). Darklover I don't mean to hijack your thread, my question is an extension of your original post.

The cliche about not having your health is true in many aspects. I am a single woman with some hearty health issues. When I became ill part of me figured (or realized) that I was no longer an appealing choice as a partner. I can't think on the checklist of what ones looks for in another is poor health.

I was in a romantic relationship with a man and from early on I told him my problems. It became an instant stumbling block. Still we continued to become closer friends but it was always there, a black mark against me (my description). He didn't want it to be an issue but he'd be lying if he said it didn't matter. Intellectually I agree with him and respect him and his dreams very much but life isn't always lived only on the intellectual level. I'm glad to say our friendhip transends the it. We have talked about it, wished it didn't matter and I've shed a few tears about it too.

I'm just wondering if others would share their thoughts and feelings are on this topic.

 

[bholderman]

The cliche about not having your health is true in many aspects. I am a single woman with some hearty health issues. When I became ill part of me figured (or realized) that I was no longer an appealing choice as a partner. I can't think on the checklist of what ones looks for in another is poor health.

I was in a romantic relationship with a man and from early on I told him my problems. It became an instant stumbling block. Still we continued to become closer friends but it was always there, a black mark against me (my description). He didn't want it to be an issue but he'd be lying if he said it didn't matter. Intellectually I agree with him and respect him and his dreams very much but life isn't always lived only on the intellectual level. I'm glad to say our friendhip transends the it. We have talked about it, wished it didn't matter and I've shed a few tears about it too.

I'm just wondering if others would share their thoughts and feelings are on this topic.

Cathleen,

Although you didn't get too detailed on your health issues, a riped body doesnt necessarily mean healthy. How many athletes are constantly being injured, is that healty? Jim Fixx, who started the joggin phenomenon, went out running on a day he should have been having a quadruple bypass (his actual diet sucked), he didn't come back that day.

There is a cliche that fat in "primitive" societies exhibits wealth, and in some places its true. The basic construction of fat is energy storage, so is that unhealthy? Obviously in our western society combined with high fat diets and inactive activities (i.e tv watching, video games), its gotten to a point of being out of hand, but I'm one of those people who identify health in different ways.

My 2 cents.

Cheers,
Brad

 

[Ricwilly]

I find a wide variety of women attractive, size really isn't an issue unless it goes to one extreme or another.
What I really want to comment on is the health issue. I married a woman who had diabetes since she was eleven months old and didn't really understand the many health problems involved. We have been together for twenty years now and a lot of health issues have come up, heart problems , kidney problems, ect. she is on dyalisis now. Her attractiveness to me has only grown and we still enjoy a good sex life tho frequency has diminished of course.
My point is that I'm attracted to her, her health problems are secondary issues that have to be dealt with.
I think attraction can trancend media stereo types and health issues.

 

[Cathleen]

I find a wide variety of women attractive, size really isn't an issue unless it goes to one extreme or another.
What I really want to comment on is the health issue. I married a woman who had diabetes since she was eleven months old and didn't really understand the many health problems involved. We have been together for twenty years now and a lot of health issues have come up, heart problems , kidney problems, ect. she is on dyalisis now. Her attractiveness to me has only grown and we still enjoy a good sex life tho frequency has diminished of course.
My point is that I'm attracted to her, her health problems are secondary issues that have to be dealt with.
I think attraction can trancend media stereo types and health issues.

many of them to you both.

If you don't mind me being rude... knowing what you know now, do you think you would still 'chose' her? (Knowing of course you can't separate from what clearly is a wonderful love affair with her.)

 

[namron711]

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[Ricwilly]

many of them to you both.

If you don't mind me being rude... knowing what you know now, do you think you would still 'chose' her? (Knowing of course you can't separate from what clearly is a wonderful love affair with her.)

Knowing All that I know, the good and bad, I'd definately do it again tho acctually she chose me. LOL. Without trying to sound too mushy, I can't imagine myself with anyone else.