What is your definition of submissive?

[Kikori]

I think you are correct but for one thing. I believe that that someone submissive is not sacrificing their sexual desires for those of their master or mistress, but that they are fulfilling their own sexual desires through submission. One could argue that to whom they submit is almost ancillary.

eddie

I meant to say "sacrifice control of", not just sacrifice. >.>

 

[cali_subangel]

Well i think there are probably lots of different types of submissive. i tend to be of the variety that just has an extremely hard time saying "no" to men. Dominant men just make me turn to putty. Sometimes i do things i regret and then get angry and shout at them later to which they get angry and say if i didn't want to do them i shouldn't have done them and they make it my fault. Its really confusing actually. So i don't know if that's really submissive or not since i'm not really able to just take it and not get mad. i kind of expect the Dom to listen to me when i say "i don't want to do that" and if they make the judgement call to keep pressing well then i think its their responsibility. It turns me on to no end when they "make" me do it or take it by force and don't care when i get upset after. Those guys are so hard to find. Am amending to say it doesn't turn me on when they have got me to do something that really was past my limits that was not good for me to do. All my limits tend to be soft but they honestly have like nothing to do with whether i get turned on or not. A Dom who takes what he wants with no apologies without like damaging me.... THAT turns me on even if what he takes is a simple kiss.

anyway...

i'm this kind

High End Submissive

So basically i just have to be careful who i talk to. i'm not really one of those subs that only submits to this or that person. i won't submit to any idiot who yells at me but if they give off that uber Dominant vibe (you know that vibe that just says "i do what i want... period") then yea.... i'm basically toast and will do whatever crazy thing they want. Luckily this often backfires with them getting all weird and turning into little lost puppies afterward who are no longer Dominant.

lol wow,,i just had this experience,,they don't like to feel like lost puppies
was left quite lost myself, and am trying to be careful who i talk to...

 

[ataxia.girl]

lol wow,,i just had this experience,,they don't like to feel like lost puppies
was left quite lost myself, and am trying to be careful who i talk to...

yea i kno, its a not nice feeling. i'm getting better at spotting the real ones tho. There's a tension tho that i can feel. i kno i have a power and a force with my Daddy, i kno it pulls at Him sometimes but He is stronger than it is. There are not many who are like this, who can open their hearts and feel and love and still take what they want and keep me like i need to be keeped. So many either turn soft or are brittle and protect themselves by never knowing me.

my Daddy loves me, sees me and keeps me.

 

[shewantsmore]

i thought it was when you let your partner was the dominate one

 

[YourCaptor]

This is a very comfortable fit for me as well.

so you are not a switch but... um, a both.

It's plausible, wonder why nobody ever mentions it. Wolfs have that, packs have an alpha male and an alpha female, with one still toping the other.

Interesting

 

[satindesire]

so you are not a switch but... um, a both.

It's plausible, wonder why nobody ever mentions it. Wolfs have that, packs have an alpha male and an alpha female, with one still toping the other.

Interesting

No no, I meant...your description fit what I believe a Dom being, too. Meaning, it was a comfortable phrase for me to see. I found your opinion to be a pleasant one.

more clear now?

Also, I'm sure it happens somewhere in someone's life. I think it might be nice to be a switch...you can get all the fun instead of half. ^_^

 

[YourCaptor]

No no, I meant...your description fit what I believe a Dom being, too. Meaning, it was a comfortable phrase for me to see. I found your opinion to be a pleasant one.

more clear now?

Also, I'm sure it happens somewhere in someone's life. I think it might be nice to be a switch...you can get all the fun instead of half. ^_^

Got ya.

so what about my def of a sub? Is that any good?

 

[ataxia.girl]

Do what I fucking tell you to. That's pretty much it.

i do what i'm telled till they leave the room then i have a hard time remembering. The world is a distracting place.

 

[FurryFury]

*in my best Scottie impression*

The brat levels are rising Captain! This thing is gonna blow I tell ya! We can't take much more!

 

[ataxia.girl]

*in my best Scottie impression*

The brat levels are rising Captain! This thing is gonna blow I tell ya! We can't take much more!

Wha?? Where Where??? i dun see any

 

[Raidho]

people can be submissive but not "a" submissive.
thats my definition

I'm not sure what I think about this.

I'll submit, but a hell of a lot of factors have to be in place first. It's mostly reactionary, the submission, and yet still X, Y, and Z must be present and accounted for.

I wouldn't call myself a submissive, though.

Maybe I do agree with you after all.

 

[Chiisai_Neko]

I call him my boyfriend or the man, or on this forum Mister Man! I don't call him Master, except occasionally if he decides he wants me to call him that, although more often it would be Sir.

He sometimes, very rarely, refers to me as "slave girl," but it's usually just to tease me, like, be a good slave girl and bring me x.

I hope that doesn't offend the real slave girls amongst us.

Yea, same. Usually during "play time" I'll call him "Sir" rather than anything else. Or I just shut the hell up and do what I'm told.

He doesn't call me "slave" or anything, usually. Of course, he wasn't (and I guess still isn't, it turns out) very big into BDSM until i got to him. It was like pulling teeth to get him to call me anything other than "baby" or my name during sex (ex: bitch). Apparently he mostly does it because I enjoy it.

I'm not entirely sure how I feel about that. It feels like inadvertently topping from the bottom. I'm not too sure I mind....

 

[AlexSwann]

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