What Is Your Motivation?

Possibly......I was empty before I came here.....and because of here I am now whole. I no longer need the site like I once did and it's morphed into something healthier for me.
But you're still here and still posting pictures, so you still need it on some level. Until you leave and don't come back, you won't know if you're truly "whole", you're still outsourcing your internal needs.
 
But you're still here and still posting pictures, so you still need it on some level. Until you leave and don't come back, you won't know if you're truly "whole", you're still outsourcing your internal needs.

Maybe.....does that mean everyone who is here is outsourcing and not whole?
 
Why sex and sexuality are such intriguing topics.

We all do it, we all want it, we all want to be wanted.

We all, also have our own quirks and turn-ons. These may not be shared by those closest to us.

It's not unrealistic to think finding people who share your own desires or finding out you're not the only can be empowering.

We don't become repulsive as soon as we stop checking in.

We all do what makes us happy. Hopefully.
 
I agree with you, Ruby, on all points 100%.

And I don't think that because I enjoy taking pictures of myself naked and sharing them means I'm not "whole" and won't be until I stop and don't come back to Lit. I don't think that's fair at all to judge those of use who post, and categorize our lives that way.
 
Maybe.....does that mean everyone who is here is outsourcing and not whole?

Not necessarily, but if someone's reason for coming here is because they are trying to build self-esteem, it's a defeating process. It's SELF esteem, not random Internet stranger esteem.

If your self-esteem bucket has holes in it, you may be able to fill it with water while you are here, but that water will leak out those holes when you leave. Only you can fix your bucket.
 
Sure, ultimately it is each individuals self esteem and their issue.

There is no denying others can build you up or break you down.

Regardless, we are getting away from the discussion.

I'm looking for the motivations, not to pick at them.
 
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I'm guess I killed this thread. That's a shame, I enjoy learning about people's motivations for sharing here.
 
I'm guess I killed this thread. That's a shame, I enjoy learning about people's motivations for sharing here.

I think so.

Sometimes the trick to learning is to observe. Mostly. How I learn best.

Might be best to shut it when you disagree if you really want to learn.

Not necessarily, but if someone's reason for coming here is because they are trying to build self-esteem, it's a defeating process. It's SELF esteem, not random Internet stranger esteem.

If your self-esteem bucket has holes in it, you may be able to fill it with water while you are here, but that water will leak out those holes when you leave. Only you can fix your bucket.

You spoke of a self esteem bucket with holes in it.

If I owned a bucket which needed fixing, I'm not going to simply stick my finger in the bucket and keep it there forever, but I may get some supplies which may help my fix that bucket. Repair the holes. I might go to the Home Depot to find the supplies to repair that bucket.

Lit could be the Home Depot for egos. A little bit. Worth trying.

We come here, repair our egos, and move on when we see fit. I've seen so many people come and go. They got what they needed.

You made an argument similar to that of a bully who didn't care about the ramifications of their statements. YOUR self esteem is your SELF esteem, and not mine. So shallow.

Ampics is generally a very positive place for people. It is posters like you who ruin the whole damn thing. Anybody can be a critic. Anybody.

The Venn diagram consisting of anybody on the internet is a large circle.

No room for them in this world. Unless you make a shitty movie...

I'm still very much interested if anybody would like to message me. I believe there have been many success stories where people find their own value.
 
Great topic MG, and I like you for what you have written here. :heart:

I relate a lot to Ruby. :heart:

It really was a serendipitous chain of events that led to me starting my AmPics thread. I still can't quite believe I am doing it. It's also the magic of the internet, as I could never do it in real life. I'm very modest, inhibited, and introverted in real life.

It was the lizard I caught biting my thumb, that led to naughty thoughts of what else it could bite, that led me to want to take a photo of it and post it for the shock factor. I've always enjoyed shock factor. I also decided it was about time I liberated my libido, since it has been stuck in my head pretty much forever. I feel sexy for the first time in my life. I have a better self image. I have found joy in having a creative outlet, and finding my playful lighthearted adventurous side that has been lost for so long. I've met some great people here, and it has been one thrilling sexual learning adventure! :D
 
I think so.

Sometimes the trick to learning is to observe. Mostly. How I learn best.

Might be best to shut it when you disagree if you really want to learn.



You spoke of a self esteem bucket with holes in it.

If I owned a bucket which needed fixing, I'm not going to simply stick my finger in the bucket and keep it there forever, but I may get some supplies which may help my fix that bucket. Repair the holes. I might go to the Home Depot to find the supplies to repair that bucket.

Lit could be the Home Depot for egos. A little bit. Worth trying.

We come here, repair our egos, and move on when we see fit. I've seen so many people come and go. They got what they needed.

You made an argument similar to that of a bully who didn't care about the ramifications of their statements. YOUR self esteem is your SELF esteem, and not mine. So shallow.

Ampics is generally a very positive place for people. It is posters like you who ruin the whole damn thing. Anybody can be a critic. Anybody.

The Venn diagram consisting of anybody on the internet is a large circle.

No room for them in this world. Unless you make a shitty movie...

I'm still very much interested if anybody would like to message me. I believe there have been many success stories where people find their own value.
Thank you for your interesting reply. I was not trying to insult anyone, I was truly looking to have a conversation. I find it kinda telling that many seemed to take my general comments personally. As I tried to tell one person, they weren't aimed at anyone, but if they resonated, that reflected more in them than on me.

In your analogy, you refer to lit as Home Depot. In my opinion, which means nothing to anyone but me, lit is more like going to the candy store, chewing a piece of gum and using that to fix your bucket. It may hold for a little while, but if you truly have holes in your bucket that you want to fix permanently, you would go to Home Depot, get counseling, read books and learn how to fix your bucket.

There are many people here who are so strong in their SELF, and I applaud therm. There are many who are not. If what I said makes one person think and it someday helps them, then my words weren't in vain.

I tried to make honest comments, I thought this was a thread that moved beyond the fantasy and was based in real. I was wrong.
 
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This got out of hand, as these things do. Anyway, as per your query, I'll give you my motivation.

In the beginning, when I first showed up, it was all about the self-image. I'm sure anyone would agree that when their partner seems to have lost interest in them, it can be confusing, frustrating, and maybe even a little damaging. That's where I was. I had found the AmPics through the profile of an author I had been reading. I thought it was fascinating. I participated in some threads, realized these were just regular people exploring another side to themselves. Someone may have suggested I start my own thread.

Then there's the thrill. The first time any picture goes up there's a bit of a thrill, then the first positive comment. There is no question the positive support can be good for the self-esteem. And there's always support. It's a great community for that.

As years went on, my motivation for posting was honestly to just keep engaged in the community, and I do consider this board a "community". There are familiar faces, some you know better, others you just see here and there. The benefit of having a person here or there to share a picture with, or exchange in some sexy banter, or even to just have a conversation with, can be therapeutic, in a way, if it helps to fix a particular bucket. ;) I always found it easier to engage people in a thread where I was the focus. I like to go forth and find people who I enjoy looking at, or enjoy their writing, or both! and engage in conversation. However, there's a dramatic difference between the types of interaction you get when commenting on a thread and when responding to comments on your own content. I like to make sure I have content of my own to inspire conversation.

Now, for the past couple years, my motivation has transformed a little bit. I have been enjoying the actual pictures as much as the posting of them. I am at least equally as excited to hear about the quality of the picture as I am the quality of the subject (Nice photo vs Sexy person commentary). Lately I have been motivated by getting validated in my hobby. I like to see how my technique improves, and I like to hear what it is people like about it. And I hear a lot.

Finally, I feel the benefit of this forum is irrefutable, at least for me. When I needed a bit of support, it was here and I got it. It kept me from going out of my mind when I wasn't getting the desire I craved offline, and I think that helped me fight through the worst of it. I'm not going to get into that too much, I think it might be beside the point.

Thanks, MG, for your interest.
 
Sexy MG, great thread.
For me it was after battling the big "C" and getting the ok green light to feel ok, sexy again, I started to post my silly pics here on LIT.. That was my start here in 07. But after all these years, making loads of friends, having loads of fun here. (and yes when I started here, LIT was different, had a group of friends, we would hang out, tease, talk, discuss, joke around, it was so much fun, and few passed away, but still in touch with loads of them even they stopped being LIT members). I STILL LOVE LIT AND STILL LOVE POSTING MY SILLY PICTURES. I always have been confident in my body & soul. No matter what happens in life, I always look for the bright sight, learn from mistakes, shit that happens. Sexy sweet Sam & Rubby I so agree with you both, we all post pictures not its because we are not whole, because we ARE. Lit is fun, its a great community. ( I really have friends for life here). And yes sometimes its a place to go , to forget about real life for a bit. For me LIT was and is a healing place, (my health is again not great), but posting and flirting , and seeing the responds it always makes me smile. Also I hate the trolls, and negative posts to pictures, if you don't like what you see, move on. WE ARE ALL WONDERFUL PEOPLE. And I :heart::heart::heart: YOU ALL.
:kiss::kiss::kiss:
(so hope this makes a bit of sense and yep my Flemish is still better than my English :eek::eek::eek:)

Note ,,,,, every person here that post pictures, needs respect, no matter size, color, ALL THE PERSONS ON LIT THAT POST NEED RESPECT, IF YOU DON'T LIKE HER / HIM move on. We are all persons . What is inside counts and will clearly show
The heart of the person, her real identity.
The inner beauty that everyone will know
It will always last, reveal truth and reality.
 
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It's finding that other people are turned on by, what I have. Where in real life maybe not so much.
 
Sexy MG, great thread.
For me it was after battling the big "C" and getting the ok green light to feel ok, sexy again, I started to post my silly pics here on LIT.. That was my start here in 07. But after all these years, making loads of friends, having loads of fun here. (and yes when I started here, LIT was different, had a group of friends, we would hang out, tease, talk, discuss, joke around, it was so much fun, and few passed away, but still in touch with loads of them even they stopped being LIT members). I STILL LOVE LIT AND STILL LOVE POSTING MY SILLY PICTURES. I always have been confident in my body & soul. No matter what happens in life, I always look for the bright sight, learn from mistakes, shit that happens. Sexy sweet Sam & Rubby I so agree with you both, we all post pictures not its because we are not whole, because we ARE. Lit is fun, its a great community. ( I really have friends for life here). And yes sometimes its a place to go , to forget about real life for a bit. For me LIT was and is a healing place, (my health is again not great), but posting and flirting , and seeing the responds it always makes me smile. Also I hate the trolls, and negative posts to pictures, if you don't like what you see, move on. WE ARE ALL WONDERFUL PEOPLE. And I :heart::heart::heart: YOU ALL.

I didn't realize, Emmy! Thank you for sharing here. xoxoxoxo
 
Great topic MG, and I like you for what you have written here. :heart:

I relate a lot to Ruby. :heart:

It really was a serendipitous chain of events that led to me starting my AmPics thread. I still can't quite believe I am doing it. It's also the magic of the internet, as I could never do it in real life. I'm very modest, inhibited, and introverted in real life.

It was the lizard I caught biting my thumb, that led to naughty thoughts of what else it could bite, that led me to want to take a photo of it and post it for the shock factor. I've always enjoyed shock factor. I also decided it was about time I liberated my libido, since it has been stuck in my head pretty much forever. I feel sexy for the first time in my life. I have a better self image. I have found joy in having a creative outlet, and finding my playful lighthearted adventurous side that has been lost for so long. I've met some great people here, and it has been one thrilling sexual learning adventure! :D

My long standing argument that life is random.

Nothing worse than being stuck in your head. Good story of liberating yourself and getting where you need to be in order to feel what you need.

People here are great. Generally.

(even me sometimes ;))
 
This got out of hand, as these things do. Anyway, as per your query, I'll give you my motivation.

In the beginning, when I first showed up, it was all about the self-image. I'm sure anyone would agree that when their partner seems to have lost interest in them, it can be confusing, frustrating, and maybe even a little damaging. That's where I was. I had found the AmPics through the profile of an author I had been reading. I thought it was fascinating. I participated in some threads, realized these were just regular people exploring another side to themselves. Someone may have suggested I start my own thread.

Then there's the thrill. The first time any picture goes up there's a bit of a thrill, then the first positive comment. There is no question the positive support can be good for the self-esteem. And there's always support. It's a great community for that.

As years went on, my motivation for posting was honestly to just keep engaged in the community, and I do consider this board a "community". There are familiar faces, some you know better, others you just see here and there. The benefit of having a person here or there to share a picture with, or exchange in some sexy banter, or even to just have a conversation with, can be therapeutic, in a way, if it helps to fix a particular bucket. ;) I always found it easier to engage people in a thread where I was the focus. I like to go forth and find people who I enjoy looking at, or enjoy their writing, or both! and engage in conversation. However, there's a dramatic difference between the types of interaction you get when commenting on a thread and when responding to comments on your own content. I like to make sure I have content of my own to inspire conversation.

Now, for the past couple years, my motivation has transformed a little bit. I have been enjoying the actual pictures as much as the posting of them. I am at least equally as excited to hear about the quality of the picture as I am the quality of the subject (Nice photo vs Sexy person commentary). Lately I have been motivated by getting validated in my hobby. I like to see how my technique improves, and I like to hear what it is people like about it. And I hear a lot.

Finally, I feel the benefit of this forum is irrefutable, at least for me. When I needed a bit of support, it was here and I got it. It kept me from going out of my mind when I wasn't getting the desire I craved offline, and I think that helped me fight through the worst of it. I'm not going to get into that too much, I think it might be beside the point.

Thanks, MG, for your interest.

Your story is similar to mine.

Nothing to do with buckets.

Toward the end of my run, I was trying for "art" to some level. Not sure how well I achieved that, but I was surely embarrassed by my early efforts

I have found lit to be a great community as well. A good source for friends and support.

Glad you have had similar luck.

Lit is not chewing gum.
 
This got out of hand, as these things do. Anyway, as per your query, I'll give you my motivation.

In the beginning, when I first showed up, it was all about the self-image. I'm sure anyone would agree that when their partner seems to have lost interest in them, it can be confusing, frustrating, and maybe even a little damaging. That's where I was. I had found the AmPics through the profile of an author I had been reading. I thought it was fascinating. I participated in some threads, realized these were just regular people exploring another side to themselves. Someone may have suggested I start my own thread.

Then there's the thrill. The first time any picture goes up there's a bit of a thrill, then the first positive comment. There is no question the positive support can be good for the self-esteem. And there's always support. It's a great community for that.

As years went on, my motivation for posting was honestly to just keep engaged in the community, and I do consider this board a "community". There are familiar faces, some you know better, others you just see here and there. The benefit of having a person here or there to share a picture with, or exchange in some sexy banter, or even to just have a conversation with, can be therapeutic, in a way, if it helps to fix a particular bucket. ;) I always found it easier to engage people in a thread where I was the focus. I like to go forth and find people who I enjoy looking at, or enjoy their writing, or both! and engage in conversation. However, there's a dramatic difference between the types of interaction you get when commenting on a thread and when responding to comments on your own content. I like to make sure I have content of my own to inspire conversation.

Now, for the past couple years, my motivation has transformed a little bit. I have been enjoying the actual pictures as much as the posting of them. I am at least equally as excited to hear about the quality of the picture as I am the quality of the subject (Nice photo vs Sexy person commentary). Lately I have been motivated by getting validated in my hobby. I like to see how my technique improves, and I like to hear what it is people like about it. And I hear a lot.

Finally, I feel the benefit of this forum is irrefutable, at least for me. When I needed a bit of support, it was here and I got it. It kept me from going out of my mind when I wasn't getting the desire I craved offline, and I think that helped me fight through the worst of it. I'm not going to get into that too much, I think it might be beside the point.

Thanks, MG, for your interest.

Your story is similar to mine.

Nothing to do with buckets.

Toward the end of my run, I was trying for "art" to some level. Not sure how well I achieved that, but I was surely embarrassed by my early efforts

I have found lit to be a great community as well. A good source for friends and support.

Glad you have had similar luck.

Lit is not chewing gum.
 
Sexy MG, great thread.
For me it was after battling the big "C" and getting the ok green light to feel ok, sexy again, I started to post my silly pics here on LIT.. That was my start here in 07. But after all these years, making loads of friends, having loads of fun here. (and yes when I started here, LIT was different, had a group of friends, we would hang out, tease, talk, discuss, joke around, it was so much fun, and few passed away, but still in touch with loads of them even they stopped being LIT members). I STILL LOVE LIT AND STILL LOVE POSTING MY SILLY PICTURES. I always have been confident in my body & soul. No matter what happens in life, I always look for the bright sight, learn from mistakes, shit that happens. Sexy sweet Sam & Rubby I so agree with you both, we all post pictures not its because we are not whole, because we ARE. Lit is fun, its a great community. ( I really have friends for life here). And yes sometimes its a place to go , to forget about real life for a bit. For me LIT was and is a healing place, (my health is again not great), but posting and flirting , and seeing the responds it always makes me smile. Also I hate the trolls, and negative posts to pictures, if you don't like what you see, move on. WE ARE ALL WONDERFUL PEOPLE. And I :heart::heart::heart: YOU ALL.
:kiss::kiss::kiss:
(so hope this makes a bit of sense and yep my Flemish is still better than my English :eek::eek::eek:)

Note ,,,,, every person here that post pictures, needs respect, no matter size, color, ALL THE PERSONS ON LIT THAT POST NEED RESPECT, IF YOU DON'T LIKE HER / HIM move on. We are all persons . What is inside counts and will clearly show
The heart of the person, her real identity.
The inner beauty that everyone will know
It will always last, reveal truth and reality.

I won't, and can't, add to this.

I'll only wish you continued luck on everything. Life is hard.

You've always been one of the sweetest posters. You're still calling me "sexy MG" ;)

Be silly.
 
I've never posted any pics on Lit and never will, so I can't speak for motivation for doing so. What I can speak about are the men who have the courage to post their pics. I would imagine that it would be hard for anyone at first, because the poster is putting themselves out there for both positive and negative feedback.

For me, I appreciate the pics. I appreciate it when a man takes takes the time and effort to post tasteful and artistic poses. It's not all about the dick. It's about the whole package. It's about the beauty and aesthetics of the male body. It's about glimpsing the personality behind the pics. Sometimes I see the vulnerability, or the cockiness, or the fear, the playfulness, and the sexiness. It's amazing what photos reveal.

And, I'm one of those who just looks at the pics and gazes in admiration, and in wonder. I've had men ask me if I do anything with the pics. My answer is: Yeah, I look at them, maybe more than once.

The OP has posted many wonderful pics. I'm sure the women of Lit will never forget them. I know I won't. :)

:rose:
 
I've never posted any pics on Lit and never will, so I can't speak for motivation for doing so. What I can speak about are the men who have the courage to post their pics. I would imagine that it would be hard for anyone at first, because the poster is putting themselves out there for both positive and negative feedback.

For me, I appreciate the pics. I appreciate it when a man takes takes the time and effort to post tasteful and artistic poses. It's not all about the dick. It's about the whole package. It's about the beauty and aesthetics of the male body. It's about glimpsing the personality behind the pics. Sometimes I see the vulnerability, or the cockiness, or the fear, the playfulness, and the sexiness. It's amazing what photos reveal.

And, I'm one of those who just looks at the pics and gazes in admiration, and in wonder. I've had men ask me if I do anything with the pics. My answer is: Yeah, I look at them, maybe more than once.

The OP has posted many wonderful pics. I'm sure the women of Lit will never forget them. I know I won't. :)

:rose:

You've always been good to me and other male posters.

Like there are leaders and followers, there are posters and admirers.

You could spark other questions...

What do you look for?

And why do you look?

But for now, I'll appreciate all you've done and how you've treated us .

Thank you.
 
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