What Type of Sub Appeals To You?

[Marquis]

The combination of a strong woman asking or begging for my attentions is pure aphrodisiac.

Bingo.

 

[TaintedB]

Hmmm. I think Hawaii must be quite lacking in these Doms that see through aggressive shells... lol, actually, since I have recently become involved in the community I can tell you that there definitely IS a lack of Doms in general (and subs, and we have no public dungeons, and.... I wouldn't recommend moving here * *. Yeah, the beaches are great, but some days I'd rather someone tan my hide with a flogger than go get a sun tan.) I recently bought a black and metal collar and maybe I should start wearing it to cue people in. I don't mind playing with the minds of weak Doms.... Mwa ha ha!!

Please report the Adventures of the Hawaian Collar right here.

I knew a guy who called himself dom in Hawaii a couple of years ago. The thing is, he had a huge beast fetish, so to get him to do you, you had to do his dogs. (and no, I personally did not bite--he wasn't my type, whatever my type is). He claimed to have trained them as superb lickers of females (that's why I wondered about the dom part, he was obsessed with the female's orgasm as any straight man). But, if you're at all interested, I'll look him up for you.

 

[FungiUg]

(that's why I wondered about the dom part, he was obsessed with the female's orgasm as any straight man.)

Being Dom doesn't prevent one from being straight, or obsessed with orgasm. I have had a lot of fun turning a submissive woman into orgasmic mush -- one time in particular I got a woman to the point where she begged me to stop making her cum. I do have a little bit of an obsession with making a woman cum, but of course, at my discretion.

On the other hand, I don't have a thing for dogs. Erk.

 

[Aeroil]

Please report the Adventures of the Hawaian Collar right here.

I knew a guy who called himself dom in Hawaii a couple of years ago. The thing is, he had a huge beast fetish, so to get him to do you, you had to do his dogs. (and no, I personally did not bite--he wasn't my type, whatever my type is). He claimed to have trained them as superb lickers of females (that's why I wondered about the dom part, he was obsessed with the female's orgasm as any straight man). But, if you're at all interested, I'll look him up for you.

What's wrong with a guy wanting to share with his best friends?

 

[TaintedB]

Being Dom doesn't prevent one from being straight, or obsessed with orgasm. I have had a lot of fun turning a submissive woman into orgasmic mush -- one time in particular I got a woman to the point where she begged me to stop making her cum. I do have a little bit of an obsession with making a woman cum, but of course, at my discretion.

On the other hand, I don't have a thing for dogs. Erk.

I prefer to use the term straight over vanilla because I like the contrast between "straight" and "kinky." I also call hets, hets, not straight. Just different speech patterns. So FWIW, being a dom DOES keep you from being straight, in my lexicon.

That guy in Hawaii had a hard time finding anybody who wanted to play with him, for some not so strange reason. The subs were turned off by his interest in their orgasm or the dogs or both. The straight women with a beast fetish didn't like his dom attitude. I like beasts but the last thing I want from them is humble oral servitude. Ugh. :/ Plus, the guy just struck me as very service oriented for a dominant.

 

[TaintedB]

What's wrong with a guy wanting to share with his best friends?

It was the way in which he wished to "share" theat sucked hot ass, IMO. Sucking hot ass is MY job, not the damn beastie's!

 

[FungiUg]

I tend not to use vanilla either -- BDSM and non-BDSM are the terms I use.

Personally, I can understand the attraction of having a woman around who is there to be in sexual bliss the entire time. Having a submissive spend her day cumming is kind of appealing. There's a lot of ego gratification in knowing I can push a woman to that kind of sexual level.

 

[Netzach]

I also like to make women get off, but it's not necessarily motivated by any kind of altruism on my part. Guess it's all in the delivery.

 

[Aeroil]

It was the way in which he wished to "share" theat sucked hot ass, IMO. Sucking hot ass is MY job, not the damn beastie's!

Lol, did you get the joke Tainted? Dogs are supposed to be "man's best friend" as per the saying.
lol, but you're right, would have been no good having the canines usurping your jobs.

 

[Marquis]

I hate making women cum. In fact, I'll often do almost anything I can to prevent my sex partner from cumming, which usually only serves to make them cum harder.

 

[Aeroil]

I hate making women cum. In fact, I'll often do almost anything I can to prevent my sex partner from cumming, which usually only serves to make them cum harder.

*starts humming a song, hunters too brave*

 

[TaintedB]

Lol, did you get the joke Tainted? Dogs are supposed to be "man's best friend" as per the saying.
lol, but you're right, would have been no good having the canines usurping your jobs.

Yep! I got the joke.

It'd be kind of funny to have your man say the standard swinging line: "hey, I'm having some friends over for dinner and then you will be the desert," and then have all the friends be four-legged (and with big cocks, of course.

 

[TaintedB]

I hate making women cum. In fact, I'll often do almost anything I can to prevent my sex partner from cumming, which usually only serves to make them cum harder.

Now that is a weird thing to say! All you have to do to make a submissive not come is to give her a strict order not to (and then stay away from her wet bits, for pete's sake)!

 

[FungiUg]

Yep! I got the joke.

It'd be kind of funny to have your man say the standard swinging line: "hey, I'm having some friends over for dinner and then you will be the desert," and then have all the friends be four-legged (and with big cocks, of course.

Dogs AND chickens now? Sheesh!

 

[Marquis]

Now that is a weird thing to say! All you have to do to make a submissive not come is to give her a strict order not to (and then stay away from her wet bits, for pete's sake)!

But I need the wet bits to make ME cum.

 

[TaintedB]

But I need the wet bits to make ME cum.

Hmmm, that is a problem. Perhaps just stick to the upper wet bits, the ones that when stimulated are rather hard for her to orgasm with? Or you could always give her a shot of novicaine "down there."

Oh god! Did I really say that last bit? What a horrible idea! You didn't read that one, Marquis. :/

 

[Marquis]

Yeah, I'll just steal some from my dentist.




In any case, complete orgasm denial is not a desirable goal and would undoubtedly have disasterous effects on any of the women I've ever fucked with. I do get jealous when women start arching their backs the wrong way and fucking up the cadence when I haven't cum yet.

 

[ammre]

If by "alpha" Killshandra means aggressive, than the first part of that task, the warding off, is probably not that hard for you I would think.

Smart dominants can spot a submissive personality in an aggressive shell. You may not attract as many dominants as you would if you were very visibly in a sub behavior role, but they're probably be of better quality, I would think, because they'd be used to and even appreciate an aggressive streak in a submissive and because they can see beyond the very obvious.

You could also use little visual signals to code your sexuality to others (like a semi-blatent collar, or maybe some other piece of jewlery showing a little figure of a woman in chains) but then you'd attract a lot of the weak dom types, you know, the kind that abound in the personal-ad sites--as in demonstrated in that hilarious collarme thread--and who, as soon as you even ask a simple question of them, will defensively scream, "You're not a True Sub!!" So I don't recommend the signs and signals method, unless you particularly enjoy playing with the minds of the "bottom feeders."

This cheesy looking guy once came up to me and offered to buy me a drink and mentioned how he loved that i was "so tall" with nice blue eyes, and the way he said the tall part you could tell he was at least 'nill if not really submissive himself. (little man mentality, i've met several small men who like the idea of being "crushed" by a tall girl with boobs) I kinda jsut lazially looked him up and down, said, "no thanks", turned and walked away.

as for signs... my personal style borders on either subtle or fashionable. I mean, i could go to Paddles in NYC, i could be wearing a total dominatrix outfit and i'm sure i'd get some creepy guy asking me if he could spank me. But at the Goth club i frequent it's much more of an undertone and since collars are fashionable there, they loose that extra meaning. I try to work with body language. I have a habit of really good posture but i also put my hands folded in my lap or sit on my feet or keep my hands clasped behind my back. I'm sure the good posture though makes me taller and probably more intimidating though. bah!

 

[ammre]

"attract" is the wrong word. As an alpha sub I think you're better off approaching the dominants you are attracted to.

ahh but most of the dominants i'm attracted to are the kinds that are much more sly and not as obivious about their Dominance. More like the ones that give me the little tingle down my spine when they look through me. By that point though i'm already stumbling over words and dumb looking. i don't like the ones who strut around like cocks at dawn. All puff and crow. More of a classical elegant type.

 

[TaintedB]

I mean, i could go to Paddles in NYC, i could be wearing a total dominatrix outfit and i'm sure i'd get some creepy guy asking me if he could spank me. QUOTE]

Make that 100 creepy guys and make your outfit not particularly dommie, just attractive. I have been to Paddles, unfortunately. It is such a _thrill_ to be sub and treated like Ms. Queen Bitch by the subbie guys simply because you're wearing a sexy outfit. :/ :/

The crushed by a tall girl with boobs fetish is a new one to me! How do they expect you to crush them, exactly? With your boobs? Say it isn't so!

 

[Marquis]

ahh but most of the dominants i'm attracted to are the kinds that are much more sly and not as obivious about their Dominance. More like the ones that give me the little tingle down my spine when they look through me. By that point though i'm already stumbling over words and dumb looking. i don't like the ones who strut around like cocks at dawn. All puff and crow. More of a classical elegant type.

Are you saying you're an unrecognizable sub looking for an unrecognizable Dom?


Good luck.

 

[Killishandra]

Who let the dogs out??!

But, if you're at all interested, I'll look him up for you.

I'll pass! LOL. Unless it's a werewolf (in man form, I might add,) I'm not interested in beasts.

That's it, tomorrow at school I will wear that collar... I will report the MISadventures of the Hawaiian Collar here. I can't wait to see what my friends at school think when I show up in one though... Oh well.. As long as Killi shows up to lecture with coffee in her hands she hasn't lost all her marbles yet.

 

[sincerely_helene]

ahh but most of the dominants i'm attracted to are the kinds that are much more sly and not as obivious about their Dominance. More like the ones that give me the little tingle down my spine when they look through me. By that point though i'm already stumbling over words and dumb looking. i don't like the ones who strut around like cocks at dawn. All puff and crow. More of a classical elegant type.

Yummy! I hear you there.

 

[Killishandra]

Sorry Tainted

Ah well... I woke up halfway through my Lab, frantically woke up my roommate, and made her drive me to school... Got to school just in time to do NOTHING but watch the electrophoresis of our DNA finish out. *sigh* So, no collar... It didn't even cross my mind. Tomorrow though, totally. I'll only report if anything interesting happens though.

Just to add something to the intent of the thread, I haven't encountered enough RL Doms to know what type I'm attracted to yet, but I think I would take notice of someone with an unusual vibe no matter if he were loud or quiet, center of attention or sitting in the corner. Most of it is in the eye-contact anyway.

 

[Marquis]

Yummy! I hear you there.

AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

Your av literally terrifies me.

Literally.

We're talking terror here.