What wives want?

[julius_1975ct]

I suggested it to my wife and for a while she thought she could never do it. A few years later she brought the idea back up bc she confessed to liking one of my co- workers. I thought that was incredibly hot so I facilitated them chatting and texting. This went on for a few months with pic tastes and flirting. One day he was supposed to "hang out" with her, but he got cold feet. Turns out he is bi but more into men. They still talk as friends and she jokes that she would give him a bj if he's lonely. Since then she has dated two other men, people she met (one of her conditions for doing any of this is that She finds her own men, and it's not a free pass for me to find women. This is fine bc the whole point is for her to find someone for herself). So, she had dated these guys a few times, but no sex. They have kissed, and touched, but that's as far as things have gone. She always texts me and tells me details of hey experiences.

 

[janeyl]

We met through swinging, so it's never been an issue...I have pretty much a free reign but always play with others together...he loves seeing me being made the centre of attention but I prefer the dynamic of meeting couples, being fucked by random single men isn't of any interest to me, unless they're bi and will fuck us both...

 

[bibethhotwet]

I was bi when we first met and from the start we have pretty much been open with each other about our likes, fantasies and desires. We brought a 2nd man in, after a couple of years of marriage and have been with other couples as well many times. I have never seen him jealous watching me with other men but I have observed him with a raging hard-on while satisfying his voyeuristic side. And I have one as well and have watched him with other women.

 

[crowfoot]

I think guys are a little less confident than they convey. You sound a lot like the hubby. To be honest, I'd rather have him pleasure me confidently than to lose some of the spark due to his constant worrying. Plus, I think fantasies are always a lot hotter in my head. Acting some of these scenes out would probably be more akin to awkward fumbling (but if I did end up in a hot tub with my boss and his wife and plenty of champagne was flowing, I probably would go down on her).

I agree about the fantasies being hotter in the head but the anticipation of an upcoming encounter is also something that shouldn't be overlooked!

As far as confidence goes you're right there too. I think that this is where this thread was born. A little help from the wives would always be appreciated when going into uncharted waters. It's a hard place for both parties for sure but all I would like is a small but definitive sign that says "I'm with ya" is like a turbo bust for the confidence.

Timing is also key as you describe the perfect example with the hot tub! I mean really WTF right!

 

[PantyPlay]

I love having my significant other watch me with another man.....what I have found is for most guys it's best left as a fantasy....

I think this is the point. Most men are insecure sexually and about their relationships. To have a wife pleased and taken by another male (possibly more endowed, better looking, more skilled) is a massive shot at the ego and self-image. If you enjoy that, more power to you but I would have a hard time with it.

 

[Jessicasc1970]

My husband broached the subject of me being with another guy on a number of occasions. However, I always said no because that is not something a good wife and mother would do. The fantasy was fantastic. Talking about another guy pleasuring me while my husband watched and/or participated was a guarantee to make sex hotter.

One night he brought the subject up yet again while we were having sex. I don’t know if he wore me down, or what, but I agreed to do it. I felt like I was being true to myself to admit that I wanted to have sex with other people.

During the almost two years we have been doing this we have had a mini-gangbang, and there have been several single guy encounters, but we are waiting on our first experience with a couple.

While it has been fun, the fantasy has been more fun than the reality. My husband is still the best lover I have ever had, and I fully expect he always will be. After being with me for so long, I would not expect anyone else to know exactly what buttons to push sexually like my husband does. None of the guys has brought me to orgasm through intercourse, and only one while performing oral sex. I almost expect the sex not to be super satisfying, but am always hopeful the next one will be the one to rock my world. Sex with my husband after is always fantastic.

I am glad to have a husband that has the fantasy of sharing me, and I am more than happy to help him fulfill his fantasy.

 

[gk6h]

My husband broached the subject of me being with another guy on a number of occasions. However, I always said no because that is not something a good wife and mother would do. The fantasy was fantastic. Talking about another guy pleasuring me while my husband watched and/or participated was a guarantee to make sex hotter.

One night he brought the subject up yet again while we were having sex. I don’t know if he wore me down, or what, but I agreed to do it. I felt like I was being true to myself to admit that I wanted to have sex with other people.

During the almost two years we have been doing this we have had a mini-gangbang, and there have been several single guy encounters, but we are waiting on our first experience with a couple.

While it has been fun, the fantasy has been more fun than the reality. My husband is still the best lover I have ever had, and I fully expect he always will be. After being with me for so long, I would not expect anyone else to know exactly what buttons to push sexually like my husband does. None of the guys has brought me to orgasm through intercourse, and only one while performing oral sex. I almost expect the sex not to be super satisfying, but am always hopeful the next one will be the one to rock my world. Sex with my husband after is always fantastic.

I am glad to have a husband that has the fantasy of sharing me, and I am more than happy to help him fulfill his fantasy.

this is a good wife

 

[MrSneakyinPA]

I WANT my wife to want to be shared!! SOoooooooo badly!

 

[crowfoot]

I WANT my wife to want to be shared!! SOoooooooo badly!

Have you talked to her about it? What was her response?

 

[crowfoot]

Jessica thanks for your honest feedback. It's good to hear that you have a strong marriage and a partner who is grounded enough to allow you both to explore your fantasies. If you could do it over knowing what you know now, would you do it again? Has it helped your relationship get stronger? do you think if you never gave in, that this would have been something that could have been a problem later?

I have a great relationship with my wife but we have never even really discussed it. I am content to leave things as they are (at least for the time being) because of where we are in life. It may never happen and I'm cool with that. If it did, one of the main reasons would be to grow sexually and experience a different level with my wife. If she balked, and after pushing enough to know that she was just doing it for me than I would be happy. I wouldn't want her just doing it for me. This is something that is unfortunately very hard to determine sometimes as she is very reluctant to discuss things like this and more apt to just have the experience and go on with life making no big deal of it

Sorry for all the questions!.

 

[LibraStud]

Women can get their "other men" kicks in many different ways.

Many years ago, I was headed into a local watering hole. There was a sign on the front door that announced "male dancers tonight." Thinking I would not be welcome, I started to turn away. I heard a tapping in the door glass. It was the owner signalling me to come in. "You can sit at the back bar", he said. So I enjoyed my first male dancer event. Most of the women were not shy in where they put their hands or put the dancers hands. It was a good opportunity for a married woman who wanted some playing around with a man.

The best part was when the dances finished their program. Many of the women were well-oiled and ready. I had a lot of fun - but that is for another time.

 

[Jessicasc1970]

Jessica thanks for your honest feedback. It's good to hear that you have a strong marriage and a partner who is grounded enough to allow you both to explore your fantasies. If you could do it over knowing what you know now, would you do it again? Has it helped your relationship get stronger? do you think if you never gave in, that this would have been something that could have been a problem later?

I have a great relationship with my wife but we have never even really discussed it. I am content to leave things as they are (at least for the time being) because of where we are in life. It may never happen and I'm cool with that. If it did, one of the main reasons would be to grow sexually and experience a different level with my wife. If she balked, and after pushing enough to know that she was just doing it for me than I would be happy. I wouldn't want her just doing it for me. This is something that is unfortunately very hard to determine sometimes as she is very reluctant to discuss things like this and more apt to just have the experience and go on with life making no big deal of it

Sorry for all the questions!.

Yes I would do it over again. It is fun. While the guys haven’t been everything you hope for in your fantasy (reality is rarely as good as fantasy), I have enjoyed myself, and my husband has had fun as well. Who knows, the next guy may be the one to rock my world.

We had a strong relationship, with a good sex life before we started swinging. I don't think it helped our relationship get stronger or our sex life better, but it is something else that is a lot of fun. Being partners and parents is what is important, this play time is just an added bonus.

If I had never done it, I don't think it would it would have been a problem later. I went a lot of years happily married and monogamous. I could have easily stayed that way forever and have been happy with my life and our sex life. Of course, he would have kept bringing the idea swinging up too, so at some point I would have pobably given in anyway.

Good luck with your wife, it took me a while to come around. It had to be a time when I was secure and comfortable doing it.

 

[Biwife_hubby]

Lately my wife had been interested in sharing herself with another women and having me watch. She is also talking about having both another couple join us for a night of fun.

 

[crowfoot]

Yes I would do it over again. It is fun. While the guys haven’t been everything you hope for in your fantasy (reality is rarely as good as fantasy), I have enjoyed myself, and my husband has had fun as well. Who knows, the next guy may be the one to rock my world.

We had a strong relationship, with a good sex life before we started swinging. I don't think it helped our relationship get stronger or our sex life better, but it is something else that is a lot of fun. Being partners and parents is what is important, this play time is just an added bonus.

If I had never done it, I don't think it would it would have been a problem later. I went a lot of years happily married and monogamous. I could have easily stayed that way forever and have been happy with my life and our sex life. Of course, he would have kept bringing the idea swinging up too, so at some point I would have pobably given in anyway.

Good luck with your wife, it took me a while to come around. It had to be a time when I was secure and comfortable doing it.

Thanks again for your thoughts on this. Should it ever go there I feel confident it will be like you described. I like the thought of other men looking at her and I think that seeing if she will be willing to show herself a little more provocatively might be fun. At least for me! If I can tell she is enjoying it than I think we will decide from there if we want to do more!

Btw nice pics!!! B well!

 

[gk6h]

My girl says when I take out the trash that is a real turn on And that is what she really wants…hmmmmm

 

[followmenow6969]

Lately my wife had been interested in sharing herself with another women and having me watch. She is also talking about having both another couple join us for a night of fun.

COUNT ON IT

 

[Mbiguy77]

My wife gets what she wants sexually. We are pretty open with each other. One day we saw a black guy walking and you could see plain as day through his jeans that he had a big dick. She just straight up said, "Look at that guy's dick. It must be huge. I would love to get that between my thighs." So I dared her, "I dare you to go over there and talk him into going home with you." She doesn't turn down a dare. I could hear her talking. She made small talk. He was looking her up and down. She said, "I'll be honest. I came to talk to you because I saw how big your dick is. I would love for you to come home with me." He said, "You with someone?" She said, "Yeah but he doesn't care." He said, "Seriously?" I don't wanna have to fight someone." She said, "I swear. Even if he walks in on us he won't be mad." So she went home with him. She texted me to wait an hour and come home then if I wanted to see anything.

I came home and went into the bedroom "to say hello" and she was riding his cock and loving it. Ever since then, she has been hooked on BBC.

 

[klippert]

Women can get their "other men" kicks in many different ways.

Many years ago, I was headed into a local watering hole. There was a sign on the front door that announced "male dancers tonight." Thinking I would not be welcome, I started to turn away. I heard a tapping in the door glass. It was the owner signalling me to come in. "You can sit at the back bar", he said. So I enjoyed my first male dancer event. Most of the women were not shy in where they put their hands or put the dancers hands. It was a good opportunity for a married woman who wanted some playing around with a man.

The best part was when the dances finished their program. Many of the women were well-oiled and ready. I had a lot of fun - but that is for another time.

There are quite the rule difference for male strippers to female strippers...

 

[klippert]

]I am a wife that has been married for only 4 year and the sex has fizzled out. Recently I have found myself attracted to other men much more. I fantasize about being with other men but obviously have kept this from my husband. I feel like my husband and all of my friend's husbands would be completely against any of us making a move on other men. I would feel incredibly relieved if my husband gave me permission to get more physical with other men. I wouldn't be interested in penetrative sex but I would love to be felt up and free to flirt. I had no idea that so many men were into this[/I]!

You might be surprised at how many men fantasize about this... I do...but, I'm not a cockold. I would want to be involved. When MrsK goes out with her G/Fs, she tells me, she been checked out and flirt with...Ill admit it...it turns me on. Do I want the Mrs. just going home with him...nope, dealt with that, with my first wife...

When it comes down to it....our most primal and basic instinct...IS a virile mate. Even though most of us have evolved beyond "Neanderthals" (most anyway). That said, Marriages go stale, your life flips upside down, especially when your family grows.

I also believe this, Phenomenon is rooted in the major advancements to Al Gore's invention, aka: World Wide Web. I know, I know...sharing or cockold has been round for centuries...but, this growing interest in sharing his wife...or shes walking the lifestyle of "HOT" wife... has grown in leaps and bounds...do a search and you'll find 10's of thousands of vids and millions of pix. Even though most interweb porn serfurs are men. come, we all get horny, at work, home.. once you find what your looking for...your Brain expands. most likely when there is a dashboard showing...BBC or BWC w/ with wife, husband watching

I've had the pleasure of being invited to bed with a married cpl. slept with his wife while he wasn't with us...3sum'd with them. Her Ecstasy, is what has turned me on to the fantasy and idea of MFM with the Mrs. Plus, and I see this a very important....MrsK is an experienced woman. When she went to college.. she let loose... she's not had a 3sum, but, experienced big cocks...small cocks....same room sex with her rommies and their BFs... been fingered at 32K feet. (6.5 mile high club)