What's in your Little Box?

[Miles Long]

lol!

Well then be serious and give us an answer!

I don't have anything that is exactly like what you're describing, but probably the closest thing would be my favorite coffee mug. It was a gift from a girl who is extremely important to me. I am OCD so every coffee mug on my rack has its proper place, and this mug goes in the exact middle. It is one of those mugs that has the heat-sensitive paint on it so the picture changes whenever hot coffee is in it, and then the picture goes back to normal as it cools down. Anyway, I've drunk out of the mug so much the paint is wearing and chipping off, but I don't care. It reminds me of her so I like to drink out of it.

This list is pretty much my life.



Yeah, Miles! What's in your little box?

Hush you!

http://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/snl-digital-short-d-in-a-box/n12100?snl=1

I still think that is one of the 5 funniest things SNL has ever done.

If I had to guess, I'd say that it's not a box but a bottle filled with the tears of Cardinals fans.

God that would make me so happy, haha!

 

[TheSilverLining]

I would have to add 'Send naked selfies' to my list

Obviously I couldn't possibly comment on this.....

http://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/snl-digital-short-d-in-a-box/n12100?snl=1

Ah, that link says it's not valid from my location. (I assume this just means not for Brits)

If I had to guess, I'd say that it's not a box but a bottle filled with the tears of Cardinals fans.

This initially went completely over my head but I'm sure you're right!

I just want you to know how restrained I am being. The number of naughty responses I have thought to give. It's such a tempting title.

What's in your little vagina?
Yup.

Hush you!

Shan't. You know where my mind took it!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

If I had to guess, I'd say that it's not a box but a bottle filled with the tears of Cardinals fans.

Yank!

I don't have anything that is exactly like what you're describing, but probably the closest thing would be my favorite coffee mug. It was a gift from a girl who is extremely important to me. I am OCD so every coffee mug on my rack has its proper place, and this mug goes in the exact middle. It is one of those mugs that has the heat-sensitive paint on it so the picture changes whenever hot coffee is in it, and then the picture goes back to normal as it cools down. Anyway, I've drunk out of the mug so much the paint is wearing and chipping off, but I don't care. It reminds me of her so I like to drink out of it.

How charmingly sentimental of you Miles! I've not heard of that paint, but I like the idea of you fussing over your mugs and fixing them just so.

Obviously I couldn't possibly comment on this.....

Well then I will have to use my imagination and guess.

 

[seela]

Up until now I've read the thread title as "what's in your litter box" and was very confused as to why would anybody ask such a question. Now I opened the thread, read a few of the first posts and was even more confused.

Except Miles storing cocaine in a litter box... Yeah, I can see it happening. Crystal meth would probably be easier to retrieve from said litter box, though. Just a suggestion.

Aaaaand then I realized I had misread the title all along.

 

[Miles Long]

Obviously I couldn't possibly comment on this.....

Ah, that link says it's not valid from my location. (I assume this just means not for Brits)



This initially went completely over my head but I'm sure you're right!



What's in your little vagina?
Yup.



Shan't. You know where my mind took it!

Yes I know precisely where your mind took it. Which is why I told you to hush!

Yank!



How charmingly sentimental of you Miles! I've not heard of that paint, but I like the idea of you fussing over your mugs and fixing them just so.



Well then I will have to use my imagination and guess.

Contrary to popular belief I do have one or two areas of sentimentality on occasion.

Up until now I've read the thread title as "what's in your litter box" and was very confused as to why would anybody ask such a question. Now I opened the thread, read a few of the first posts and was even more confused.

Except Miles storing cocaine in a litter box... Yeah, I can see it happening. Crystal meth would probably be easier to retrieve from said litter box, though. Just a suggestion.

Aaaaand then I realized I had misread the title all along.

Why not just make it a litter box cocktail while you're at it, Seela?

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

RA

Self-care. Yes.

That's what we're really talking about. Feeding our bodies, minds and souls.

Glad you're here.

shh..
You didn't see me..

 

[Luna2121]

One thing that I find helps when I am missing Sir is going over our old chats and thinking of ways to surprise Him the next time we talk. And yes one can never forget the importance of selfcare it is nice to pamper yourself when you are missing your SO

 

[ViciousTease]

Bumping this one back to the top.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Bumping this one back to the top.

I was just coming to do this - good timing!

So far it seems that we have been talking about separation anxiety, but I wonder if we could turn the discussion to addressing sub drop in littles, specifically in online or LDRs?

How is that experience different (or the same) as simple separation anxiety? How do you bump up the self care? Do you ever recruit others to help, either online or in person? Is dealing with the physical side effects of sub drop harder than dealing with the other aspects of it? What does aftercare and/or sub drop care look like for you?

 

[SalvDali]

I was pleased to see this thread today. Her attachment to me me definately increased after we began this journey. I noticed it a little when she would go to work. She would text me a lot. Even more so if we had played the night before. The first time I went to visit my mother for a week I actually considered coming home early when I saw how my absence had affected her. I never expected this to happen but I must admit that it feels good to be missed in such a way.

I was actually looking into things to do or leave notes behind for her to find the next time I have to leave to help while I am gone so this thread is full of great ideas. Thank you all for sharing though I will leave out the cocaine and meth lol

 

[Farawyn]

I think separation anxiety is way different from sub drop.

To me, sub drop comes after a draining session or sessions. It can occurr long distance or in the flesh.

Separation anxiety is exactly that- anxiety resulting from being apart.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Bumping because I need to work on this.

I really struggle with separation anxiety. It hits hard and fast, and I am typically under-prepared to deal with it. Part of me doesn't want to deal with it, part of me wants to sit and sulk and hope that somehow he will return sooner if I do.

But I'm a good girl, so I'm working on it.

Tonight: I realized I was hungry but I'm too tired to make anything, so I had some milk. Chocolate, because it feels indulgent. I'm going to make myself take a shower (where I will probably have a little cry, which is good for me), and then I'm going to make myself put on some smelly lotion, and then I'm going to put myself to bed. I may listen to some music: Ellie Goulding or Imogen Heap, but probably Hozier's cover of 'Sweet Thing.'

Tomorrow I will work on 'collecting pebbles and putting them in my basket' - doing small things that seem insignificant on their own, but add up and make a difference in the long run.

Goodnight to friends who are far from their partners. Sweet dreams, all.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Elle

 

[Farawyn]

I miss him.
Wine is in my little box right now.
And it feels goooood.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I miss him.
Wine is in my little box right now.
And it feels goooood.

I see the banana is back.

 

[Farawyn]

I see the banana is back.

Yea.
Some dude PMed me about my boobs.

So, I took them away.

 

[Cakecups]

This is a good thread. I don't really have items that I gravitate toward, more
like actions. I try to do a few good things that I know will make him proud when we talk next. Something small like eating healthier and walking more
or taking the stairs. Then I'll messaging him stories or moments from my day that affected me more than I expected, like a good interaction or funny jokes, sharing small things that I sometimes wouldn't have bothered bringing up in conversation, like little journalish messages for him to find later.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Yea.
Some dude PMed me about my boobs.

So, I took them away.

You'd think they'd have figured it out by now.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

This is a good thread. I don't really have items that I gravitate toward, more like actions. I try to do a few good things that I know will make him proud when we talk next. Something small like eating healthier and walking more
or taking the stairs ...

I started out thinking I wanted/needed an actual box, and I still like the idea, but I've discovered that it's the mental process that is most helpful, and then taking action on it in some way. Like you said, doing things I know will please him, or things I can do to prep for his return. I do send him messages and links to things I think he'll enjoy, too. And sometimes porn.

Early on, I called it my Daddy Box, and I wanted everything in it to remind me of him, because that's where I was back then - living (barely) with depression and anxiety, and unable to see anything else good in my life.

Things have changed since then, I'm doing better, and my 'box' reflects that. I realized that my box needs to be about me, not him o), and I've remembered that there are good things in my life, good things in me. He said once it's like I've been buried, and that feels about right. I'm digging my way out, and it's slow going, but I'm getting there.

I'll come back and tell what's in my Basket Of Happy another time.

 

[cfuhrer]

http://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/snl-digital-short-d-in-a-box/n12100?snl=1

How sad is it that I don't even need to click the link.

I did, just to be sure; but didn't need to.

 

[ViciousTease]

Recent additions: bubbles and legos.

I've never really considered myself to be a "little" little, but I do find that silly things like bubbles can lift my mood. I may be littler than I thought.

 

[Azuldrgon]

for my little, I would put...

a hoodie like my favorite one.
a bottle of the cologne I use
a few cards telling her how special she is to me
maybe a recording of my voice.

I like the bubbles idea....and a stuffed cute blue dragon.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

On my mind today... does anyone have any thoughts on having a friend pinch-hit as PYL when yours is unavailable or you are without a partner? I suppose this could go the other way too, of course.

 

[Farawyn]

On my mind today... does anyone have any thoughts on having a friend pinch-hit as PYL when yours is unavailable or you are without a partner? I suppose this could go the other way too, of course.

No.
Not my thing.
Those are my thoughts for ME.