when you are masturbating or making love

[Aurelia_Malys]

The question was if when you are making love or masturbating with someome do you annouce you are gonna cum? I kinda forgot to add with someone in the OP. Kinda had a goldfish brain moment.

Well, that does make the op a bit clearer.

And ofcourse telling your partner you are about to cum especially during sex prepares for release.

But I am still trying to figure this one out Beck. Your "of course" makes it sound like it is self-evident but I dont know what you mean by telling your partner you are about to cum prepares for release? And inquiring minds want to know ... or at least DarkPleasures and I want to know.

 

[hilton1958]

When I am with the wife, sometimes I do, but mostly it is unneccesary, because believe me, it is very obvious, but I still like to say it sometimes, and I also like hearing her say it. Online, almost always yes if it is a texting situation, it definitely serves a purpose then.

 

[hilton1958]

Well, that does make the op a bit clearer.



But I am still trying to figure this one out Beck. Your "of course" makes it sound like it is self-evident but I dont know what you mean by telling your partner you are about to cum prepares for release? And inquiring minds want to know ... or at least DarkPleasures and I want to know.

I really don't think beck meant announcing it in a matter of fact kind of way "Oh, by the way dear, you might like to know, I am about to cum, do prepare yourself". I think he had more like "Oh fuck, Im cumming ... Im cumming, fuck , yes aaaaah yyeeeessssss!!! " in mind. Am I right beck?

 

[Aurelia_Malys]

I really don't think beck meant announcing it in a matter of fact kind of way "Oh, by the way dear, you might like to know, I am about to cum, do prepare yourself". I think he had more like "Oh fuck, Im cumming ... Im cumming, fuck , yes aaaaah yyeeeessssss!!! " in mind. Am I right beck?

My confusion is on his comment that I quoted:

And ofcourse telling your partner you are about to cum especially during sex prepares for release.

I understand about the moaning and groaning of "I'm gonna cum!!!"

But ....

telling your partner you are about to cum (ok, I get that part)
especially during sex (assuming he means as opposed to masturbation)
prepares for release (that is the part that I am not understanding)

I am just trying to figure out what "prepares for release" is supposed to mean (or if Beck was just answering to hear himself talk).

 

[Beck31]

My confusion is on his comment that I quoted:


I understand about the moaning and groaning of "I'm gonna cum!!!"

But ....

telling your partner you are about to cum (ok, I get that part)
especially during sex (assuming he means as opposed to masturbation)
prepares for release (that is the part that I am not understanding)

I am just trying to figure out what "prepares for release" is supposed to mean (or if Beck was just answering to hear himself talk).

That admitedly rereading wasn't worded the way it was in my brain. So please disregard.

 

[Jackotheshadows]

Masturbating, outside of mutual, no.

Sex, yeah, I do. I'm crazy like that. I also growl, apparently.

 

[Funkytown]

I do tell her that I am getting ready to cum if she is sucking me, I figured I like to be warned when I am doing the sucking, that way she decides if she swallows or just pulls me out of her mouth and jacks me off the rest of the way.

 

[UhlBWett]

Hmmmmm

I prefer to talk about our orgasms afterwards........... Besides a good lover already knows when I am about to cum; why tell her?

 

[desiresmore]

i like to give a verbal warning, its kind of erotic and she likes hearing it anyway. its a turn on for both of us.

 

[RaynieJ]

Oh yes, because if I'm masturbating and I don't say it out loud I have no idea if I'm about to

You, my friend, are fucking hilarious.

The emergency system warning was pretty damn funny too.

Masturbating, outside of mutual, no.

Sex, yeah, I do. I'm crazy like that. I also growl, apparently.

Growling is very, very, sexy.

I most of the time say when I'm getting close, even though it's tremendously obvious. I just like to say it. I also like to be TOLD to cum (or not to).

 

[YDB95]

I have had partners who announced it, but my wife usually doesn't. I occasionally do. It's one of those things that isn't really a conscious decision.

 

[taybee26]

Do you announce you are about to cum?

Not when I'm flying solo.
But my previous partner always wanted me to tell him when I was going to cum, so I picked up that habit.

 

[desiresmore]

Let me add to what I said earlier. Part of the turn on for me by announcing when I'm going to cum is that it gives her a little control. I like to drag things out, and edge myself during sex, making it last as long as possible. So when I announce something like "you're going to make me cum" - she has the option of slowing down or holding still for a second, or she can keep going and make me blow. It depends on the position of course and who's doing the "work", but its pretty hot to give control of your orgasm to your mate.

And if she wants me to cum, I love drawing it out and going slow, then once I start cumming, I somtimes hold perfectly still so that she can feel every spasm and spurt of my cum filling her pussy. Its so hot! Dang I'm hory today...

 

[poppaslittlewhore]

I do but only on the big ones because they tend to get messy.

 

[Beck31]

I do but only on the big ones because they tend to get messy.

wow. messy huh?

 

[monkeyman057]

It's completely a mood thing. Sometimes I want her to know what she's done to me - other times it takes me by surprise or I'm just so into it that words are a little beyond my ability at the time. Either way it's usually pretty obvious that I'm getting close - my body language usually changes significantly.

She never tells me when she's getting off which is kind of a let down. I've told her that it's a turn on for me to hear her say it but she's just not very vocal during sex. I can usually tell when she is but not always - she'll usually have one or two big ones which are easy to spot and several small ones which aren't quite as evident. I hate to bug her about telling me so I just let it go and accept that it's just not something she's going to do.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

When I'm making love to my wife, I do not. I am not ordinarily vocal, and my wife and I know each other's actions and reactions so well that an announcement is not necessary.

As for my wife, it all depends on the level of privacy. If the house is empty, she makes more noise than a 747 at take off. Every feeling is vocalized at maximum volume. But most of the time there are others in the house, so she bites the pillow and gets her jollies in silence.

When I'm with another woman (we swing) I feel obligated to vocalize, so that she know she's making me feel good, and so that she can time her own responses.

 

[poppaslittlewhore]

wow. messy huh?

yep that's right i said messy.

 

[restless_bob]

I don't very often, but occasionally I do if I think it will turn her on. She doesn't either, but it's an incredible turn-on if she tells me she's cumming.

 

[southern_gal]

No because when an orgasm overtakes me it can often render me speechless. It takes me some time to have one and more than bit of stimulation but when it happens it often feels like waves of spasms and has been known to leave me in tears. Now that is a mess to try and describe to someone seeing it for the first time.

 

[Alexandra831]

Don't have to my husband can tell.. He says that there is a scent I put off.. when I am getting ready to cum..which prompts him to work harder to make it happen.. he loves watching me cum and tasting it..

 

[restless_bob]

I know what you mean, we don't have to announce it either... Her breath quickens, her eyes close, her head turns to the side, her moans get louder. She moans quite loudly when she cums. As for me, the powerful thrusts, the moans and groans, oh yes, it's quite obvious when I cum.

 

[desiresmore]

Don't have to my husband can tell.. He says that there is a scent I put off.. when I am getting ready to cum..which prompts him to work harder to make it happen.. he loves watching me cum and tasting it..

Wow, that made me so horny just thinking about it. Awesome!

 

[OQueen]

I love talking and making noises during sex. After words along the lines of "everything feels so good, yes, that's it, don't stop..." for the 20 min or so it takes me to get close, I do enjoy announcing the approach of my orgasm. With all that effort, I would hate for him to miss it.

 

[Beck31]

noise

I love talking and making noises during sex. After words along the lines of "everything feels so good, yes, that's it, don't stop..." for the 20 min or so it takes me to get close, I do enjoy announcing the approach of my orgasm. With all that effort, I would hate for him to miss it.

Hehe. I bet. I would want my partner to know I was having a good time and it felt good.