When you're the kinky one in a relationship...

[Thom_the_gleeman]

My kink resides in my brain; it fits in there, and never gets rejected.

I may be projecting my own feelings on this response, but it does pretty well reflect my expirience.... when kink is repeatedly met with indifference ( and all else is happy and good) than keep it close and to yourself.... ( and take it out for a spin every once in a while in the anonymity of Lit)

Love,

Thom

 

[MikeandSara]

Both kinky

I think we are both kinky and probably getting more so as we get older. We are not “old” but with age comes caring less about what others think and enjoying ourselves. We aren’t particularly wild and most everything stays within the bedroom walls but our sex life has certainly progressed from pretty vanilla to more open to trying new things and finding what each other likes.

 

[NemoNautilus]

I would suspect that the really vanilla partners are rarely the ones posting here on Lit.

 

[zoso682001]

I've always been the kinky one but once my wife found out how much fun it can be she blossomed . She's become an excited exhibitionist , as in letting strangers see us having sex . For us and me particularly it's worked out great !

 

[PantyGentleman]

I am the real kinky one, but luckily she is down to do whatever I want, whenever I want.

 

[trevorness]

I am definitely the kinky one. My wife is confused or put off by any non vanilla stuff.

 

[ChefMario77]

Not only am I the kinky one, I'm the only one with a sex drive at all...

 

[curiouschattycouple]

He had more experience when we met. I was more adventurous. He came back from two deployments with a great deal of porn inspired kink and is certainly more kinky now.

 

[magicalmoments]

I've always been the kinky one but once my wife found out how much fun it can be she blossomed . She's become an excited exhibitionist , as in letting strangers see us having sex . For us and me particularly it's worked out great !

This was my first wife as well. She always enjoyed sex and often initiated it but was very vanilla. Once I introduced her to other forms of fun, mainly through pornographic literature and penthouse forums she blossomed as well. She found her niche in MFM 3'sums where she loved being the centre of attention. She loved exhibitionism as well, see through tops, no panties while in a short skirt, and the like. I even convinced her to join a nudist club, specifically for the opportunity to let others see her body in a safe environment.

 

[zoso682001]

This was my first wife as well. She always enjoyed sex and often initiated it but was very vanilla. Once I introduced her to other forms of fun, mainly through pornographic literature and penthouse forums she blossomed as well. She found her niche in MFM 3'sums where she loved being the centre of attention. She loved exhibitionism as well, see through tops, no panties while in a short skirt, and the like. I even convinced her to join a nudist club, specifically for the opportunity to let others see her body in a safe environment.

LUCKY YOU !

 

[Islander55]

We are an older couple and I think my husband has the kinkier thought processes but I seem to be the one actually doing more of the things he thinks up so I guess we both are pretty kinky.

 

[Erosfan]

We are an older couple and I think my husband has the kinkier thought processes but I seem to be the one actually doing more of the things he thinks up so I guess we both are pretty kinky.

Y"all sound like me and my wife. I thought up things and related them to her. She did her best to make some of these things become reality.

 

[zoso682001]

This was my first wife as well. She always enjoyed sex and often initiated it but was very vanilla. Once I introduced her to other forms of fun, mainly through pornographic literature and penthouse forums she blossomed as well. She found her niche in MFM 3'sums where she loved being the centre of attention. She loved exhibitionism as well, see through tops, no panties while in a short skirt, and the like. I even convinced her to join a nudist club, specifically for the opportunity to let others see her body in a safe environment.

My wife's only done the public clothing type of exposure a time or two . As in no panties in a skirt on vacation . Worked out extremely well . Once she had a major , week knees and all , orgasm from it !

 

[Islander55]

Y"all sound like me and my wife. I thought up things and related them to her. She did her best to make some of these things become reality.

I have been learning a few things here on Lit that he was quite willing to try.

 

[Erosfan]

I have been learning a few things here on Lit that he was quite willing to try.

That is great. You sound adventurous.

I was always ready to try anything my wife came up with and she had a deliciously wicked mind. We had some great times.

 

[TomFoolery8]

I am the kinky one in the relationship (at least I think I am).

Just took the test:

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
94% Experimentalist
93% Switch
92% Voyeur
92% Non-monogamist
88% Submissive
86% Exhibitionist
85% Ageplayer
70% Primal (Hunter)
68% Rope bunny
66% Masochist
61% Owner
59% Boy/Girl
59% Slave
54% Master/Mistress
50% Sadist
50% Dominant
46% Daddy/Mommy
37% Degradee
35% Vanilla
35% Pet
34% Rigger
33% Brat tamer
30% Primal (Prey)
28% Degrader
15% Brat

Of all these, why is it that 'Brat' turns me on the most?

 

[StrongMaster7]

50/50

my wife and I are both on second marriages and and probably as kinky as each other , My wife is 12 years younger than me but has way more experience with kink . She is open to everything and anything with the usual exceptions no blood scat or underage . We told each other loads of our kinks before we met in person . We met via Literotica chat 13 years ago and just love getting our kink on especially with other couples.

I wish you a long, happy life together. Sex is so important to me and to marriage. My wife and I are wildly mismatched. I have to get real lucky to get to vanilla. Meeting via sex chat is a great way to get it right.

 

[Wld1936]

I am the kinky one!

 

[Grey Shadow]

Bumping “dead threads” can be fun. It’s happened twice to this one.

I’m the kinky one in my relationship. I wasn’t always. My wife was more experienced and less inhibited than I when we met. Over time she came to call me “the imaginative one,” in our relationship. She’s up for a lot of stuff but there are things I crave that she doesn’t.

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
93% Voyeur
85% Exhibitionist
74% Experimentalist
62% Switch
60% Rope bunny
59% Dominant
59% Rigger
52% Non-monogamist
47% Submissive
43% Degrader

My voyeurism and exhibitionism scores would probably be even higher if consent wasn’t such an hard limit for me. I want people to want to see me or be seen by me. Risk isn’t the rush, it’s desire if you get me.

My wife on the other hand isn’t into either. She is indifferent to seeing other people and has gotten shy about being seen. She also feels that too many people we know have too many issues for us to be involved with in any way that is sexual. She has a point with that but the longer I suppress my urges the more intense they become. I use posting here and elsewhere on the web as an outlet. It helps.

 

[RachelWalsh]

I can definitely empathize. I am usually the kinky one- by a country mile.

I almost think you have to have a similar kink level or somebody gets resentful

 

[twister947]

Imagination. You got it or you don't. Sometimes loneliness is just unbearable.