Isn't it incredible when a polite, friendly guy is surprisingly dominant in bed?

[magic_rat]

Haha that badge idea sure sounds good!

Definitely.

I think in our pursuit for intimacy we often overlook the basic social setup that makes us reluctant to accept our more intense sides. It's different for everyone so it may not be the case everywhere but I've observed it to mostly be so.

I think the opposite, at least in the kink and swing scenes. In our pursuit of intense experiences we often overlook intimacy; it's easy for things in the BDSM/swing worlds to become mechanical and routine. It's when you move beyond that that you get into each-other's head spaces and develop the mutual trust and respect to take things to a different level.

Bedroom Superheroes are also often made because of knowing that they're also wanted for who they are so the performance anxiety vanishes.

WTF is a 'bedroom superhero'?

Some guys (I count myself amongst them) are blessed with innate abilities. That doesn't mean 'good at fucking' or 'good with the tongue'. It means they are empathic; they can read their partner's reactions and adjust stimulation to suit. They know that just because xyz worked on the last 10 women it may not work on the next, and act accordingly.

This usually (not always) comes with age and experience.