Why are baby girls so disposable to Daddies?

[lovecraft68]

Guess the OP hasn't been paying attention of late
All women are disposable right down to a faction of people who want to forbid the very words woman and female and another faction well on their way to legalizing forced breeding.
Frightening times for you ladies and the few decent guys left in this world who care about you. Its why both my daughters have martial arts training and I bought them hand guns and taught them to use them. I suggest all women do the same.

 

[wallstreetguy]

I once ghosted a guy who tried to rape me because I figured if he couldn't take "no" in the context of "I don't want to have anal sex with you," he couldn't take "no" in the context of "I am not interested in you because you can't take 'no' for an answer." If I lack common decency for that, I honestly could not give a fuck less.
l read this 3x and I am still not sure I get it. I hope there was no emotional harm. Rape is repugnant to me, even online.
In any case, I have never been ghosted nor ghosted (and I do not use the term Daddy, only Sir). But I think that people on both sides can get weirded out by how intimate or real the online experience becomes. It makes them want to step away and what easier way than to disappear.
I recently had a partner send me the most wonderful messages about how special it was, yadda yadda yadda and she did not respond to two messages in return (maybe I have been ghosted, LOL).
Then again, it was a new communication and I am not willing to go to send her a third message. But she did say in one of her string of earlier messages that it was frightening that she came harder online (skype) than in real life. Maybe that was too much for her and thought better of talking to me again.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Frightening times for you ladies and the few decent guys left in this world who care about you. Its why both my daughters have martial arts training and I bought them hand guns and taught them to use them.

To fight ghosting?

 

[LittleSwitchy]

To fight ghosting?

Have you ever seen Slimer? Scary as hell ghost. Ate everything in sight.
“ ghost busters reference “

 

[Bramblethorn]

Guess the OP hasn't been paying attention of late
All women are disposable right down to a faction of people who want to forbid the very words woman and female and another faction well on their way to legalizing forced breeding.

Nobody's actually trying to forbid "woman" and "female" though. That's a distortion being pushed by a social-media hate machine.

 

[BiBunny]

l read this 3x and I am still not sure I get it. I hope there was no emotional harm. Rape is repugnant to me, even online.

There's really nothing to get. I was fucking this guy--in real life, not online--and he tried repeatedly to put his dick in my ass while I was steadily telling him no. He was unsuccessful in the attempt, but he tried to do it several times, even after I said no. After he left my house, I never spoke to him again, though it was not for lack of trying on his part. From his perspective, I ghosted him. From mine, he got what he deserved.

I told that story because of the "common decency" comment above. I don't think I owed "common decency" to a motherfucker who tried to rape me. No rule of thumb applies to every situation.

 

[twister947]

I'm okay with ghosting. It's happened to me, and I didn't much like it, but I didn't lose any sleep over it, either. *shrug* Adults...

 

[Missk_2022]

It is a big responsibility to be submissive.. I have to be careful not to overwhelm my dom with neediness or unrealistic expectations. If there is a connection then it requires honesty and communication from both of us to support a healthy sub-dom relationship.... sometimes it just doesn't work out... sorry you got ghosted.. if the guy ghosts you it is likely he doesn't have what you are looking for.... hope you find someone soon....

 

[Strixaluco]

For some people DDlg is a lifestyle, for some it's only a kink. I have a feeling those who think of it as a lifestyle are not so likely to ghost, the ghosters are usually those for whom it is only a kink and don't think of the complete dynamics.

As someone who wants it as a lifestyle, I wouldn't try to match myself with someone who only sees it as a kink. Therefore ghosting would probably mean the person is not for me anyway.

 

[IrisAlthea]

not feel safe/comfortable having the "this isn't working out." I'm sure women have seen this scenario with mentally unstable guys but it goes both ways.

Yes, it goes very much both ways, especially online, where physical strength/size is irrelevant.
I think many people feel more ok with staying in their comfort zone at the cost of someone elses comfort, when it’s online. Somehow it seems many see people they meet online as less ”real”.

 

[Strixaluco]

A lot of the time it's clearly because they just wanted some easy thrills for a night but

I think these are the ones having DDlg as a kink, not as a lifestyle.

 

[Booboobear84]

My perception is that there is a broad spectrum of how much a DD wants to control, and how much an lg wants to be controlled. If an lg wanted a lot of control from me I would get uncomfortable. I could hit the point where I just was very uncomfortable with further interaction. For me the dynamic is about caring for, mentoring, and protecting the lg. All of that said, I still try very hard not to ever ghost someone, because I know it hurts.

 

[Cherry_Brandy]

Everyone is easily disposable when pixels are the main or only form of contact. The log out, ignore or 'switch off notifications' keys are only a fingers distance away and we're all just pixels in a world of make believe.

I'm sure there can be genuine reasons that people need, or want, to disappear from our lives but there's no reasonable excuse for ghosting, unless the person they've ghosted is a bit on the psycho side.

Maybe, in the future, we'll all have evolved, so that real feelings and emotions are no longer linked to anything communicated in pixel form. Some people seem to already have it mastered.

I was reading a conversation that Blake
Lemoine had with Google's AI chatbot LaMDA. If it's true, 'she' is more thoughtful, sensitive and aware of humanity than many humans. When I can buy one that has touch of Dwayne Johnson, I'm having one

 

[lanceGibs]

Everyone is easily disposable when pixels are the main or only form of contact. The log out, ignore or 'switch off notifications' keys are only a fingers distance away and we're all just pixels in a world of make believe.

I'm sure there can be genuine reasons that people need, or want, to disappear from our lives but there's no reasonable excuse for ghosting, unless the person they've ghosted is a bit on the psycho side.

Maybe, in the future, we'll all have evolved, so that real feelings and emotions are no longer linked to anything communicated in pixel form. Some people seem to already have it mastered.

I was reading a conversation that Blake
Lemoine had with Google's AI chatbot LaMDA. If it's true, 'she' is more thoughtful, sensitive and aware of humanity than many humans. When I can buy one that has touch of Dwayne Johnson, I'm having one

I can see your angst
.
A big hug to make you feel better

 

[lanceGibs]

I've been there and been ghosted, but I also did it too. I'm not proud of it though. I also believe it's cause I'm nervous too, so I think getting comfy and reading more info about BDSM is helpful.

Mmmmmmmmm

 

[AcerbusX]

The title pretty much says it all.

If youre a little and have been ghosted or inexplicably dumped, please share your experiences so i know im not alone.

If youre a daddy and have done this to your little, what was the reasoning behind it?

I have to agree with most of the people here, it's not just Daddies, most relationships also suffer from this. Although I couldn't tell you why, I think it's cold-hearted and cruel to ghost somebody. I'm sure those who do it think they are justified in their reasoning, but I'll be damned if I could think of any reason too.

 

[IrisAlthea]

"To ghost" is one of those irregular verbs:

I respect a natural pause in our chat
You let a relationship fizzle
(S)he ghosts me.

Haha, yes!

Also, it gets used for so much, from the thread title over-generalizing being unceremoniously dumped to ”Why are babygirls so disposable to daddies?” to people suddenly going no contact and no response with people they talked to regularly for years.

 

[Primalex]

Just read about two instances, where one person was ghosted just before boarding a plane for the long distance meetup and one after arriving at the hotel.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Just read about two instances, where one person was ghosted just before boarding a plane for the long distance meetup and one after arriving at the hotel.

That’s undisputably some advanced level asshattery.

Come to think about it I’ve actually been old school ghosted by my very first serious boyfriend.
We were long distance and suddenly after usually getting at a minimum a letter a week, there was nothing for a couple of weeks. He was doing his military service at the time so I thought he was busy first but then I got worried and called his parents. After the second message with no call back it dawned on me that I might be making a spectacle of myself, so I let it be.
2 weeks later I got the ”Dear Jane” letter.
No great feeling pre-internet either really.

 

[Strixaluco]

Come to think about it I’ve actually been old school ghosted by my very first serious boyfriend.

It's even worse when it has already been a serious relationship.

 

[IrisAlthea]

It's even worse when it has already been a serious relationship.

Well in my case, in all fairness, he did work up the courage to write at last. We actually still get in touch once in a while.

In the cases @Primalex mentioned, you might end up never knowing what happened.

 

[seekingAlpha]

I think a lot of time people move to quickly when it comes to a D/s relationship due to it being a niche and the scarcity of finding partners. You should treat it as you would any other romantic relationship in regards to the need for attraction, chemistry, and connection. I would not have a D/s relationship with someone that I would not have a "vanilla" relationship with.

 

[Katch123]

There's no accounting for rude behavior.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

I certainly don’t think it’s limited to one side of the slash.

I am the world champion of tardy online responses, and when a mental monsoon parks itself in my brain for weeks or months, I check out of social media and lit (which is…sexual media?). Sometimes that means not responding for awhile, which isn’t fair to friends who’ve contacted me in good faith. I know I’ve hurt or at least confused friends that way. I did it last year and by the time I got around to replying, a longtime Lit friend whom I respect a great deal had shut down messages and stopped posting from her Lit account. (MESSAGE ME.) Is there a term for this, apart from “ghosting lite” or just “bad fucking manners”? There should be.

As for the receiving end of ghosting, I’ve found it to be painful in proportion to the duration and shared vulnerability of the relationship.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Is there a term for this, apart from “ghosting lite” or just “bad fucking manners”? There should be.

My kids call it being Mom.
I’m not that bad at answering in places like this, as long as I visit regularly. Messages during the day though, on the multitude of apps that people make me use for different things, are a different case.
I answer when I see it, if it is a pressing question but otherwise I’m usually busy with work, decide to answer later and then…”Squirrel!”….

In a way yes, bad manners.
In another way, we have built a system with strange expectations of being avaliable at all times and to be in those messenger groups that seem to contain every freaking ”reply all”-monster in your circle.
And we have created those inbetween categories of people that we can feel rather close to but actually could fall off the Earth without us having any other contact info than via a place like this to find out what happened.